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i know people are prob getting sick of these kinda questions but w/e
how would you react/do if you found out that your 16 year old daughter that you had alot of trust with told you she was pregnant.you guys were not really that close but didnt really fight or anything. (please be realistic!)
** only answers this if you are acually old enough to have a child aka like 25 or older (it can be a guy or girl)
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I am a mother of two girls. At first I think I would be desperately disappointed that at 16 they were either pregnant or trying to get pregnant. I would also feel angry and upset but once those feelings had been aired I think I would try and talk to her about her options. They need to know how very difficult it would be to raise a child themselves especially at such a young age. I should imagine that they would be frightened of just about everyone and everything in that situation. Finally, once all the shock was out of the way and decisions had been made - (1) If they were keeping the baby I would want to support them both emotionally or (2) hold her hand if the decision was a termination or adoption. Although personally I would not allow a grandchild of mine to be adopted if there was a chance of keeping it. Every girl and family are different. Any parent will lose their rag but they love you and only want the best. Good luck with any decisions you make.
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most are very angry at 1st, some will cry, but in my personal experience they cool off and are supportive long before the baby comes.when my best friend told her mom she was pregnant, her mom dident speak to her for a week except to tell her how stupid she was for getting pregnant, but it blew over and shes a very happy an loving grandma now.
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at first the parent would block you out, and be mad at you. They will ignore you,and tempers will flair. But you gotta let them cool down. When you have the kid, they will be thankful, because they will be a grandma
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-Camille
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I would be there for her and support her in any way possible. I'd say, "Hey, these things happen. Now you gotta deal with the responsibility." But I wouldn't let her deal with it alone. I am being realistic about this. She would already feel really horrible, I'd be the last person she could trust. I wouldn't turn on her for anything.
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Well you wouldn't want her to feel even more bad then she does. That is the worst thing you can do. Don't tell her she is stupid and all that other garbage alot of mothers say to their daughters. Of course you are going to be mad, so then express your feelings to her in a calm way. You should be supportive no matter what. Wouldn't you want to be supported, loved, and helped if you were in her situation. She is only human, of course she is going to make mistakes - some worse than others- but you have to stick with her.
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Is your daughter already pregnant or is she trying. And did you show her a picture of the std and all the things that can go wrong
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Im not 25 Or older, But Im going to respong anyways, I watched My 16 year old cousin, tell her mom she was.
Her mom was Dissapointed in her, but was still supportive, beacause its her daughter, and She knew her daughter would need her.
My cousin and her mom and not close, at all.
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i would try to act calm about the situation. and try to help her but lay a few ground rules to know that this is her problem and id be there for her but she has to control to what she thinks is best. or somthing along that line anyway.
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I would be angry, disappointed and hurt.
I would feel like a failure as a parent, as I wasn't able to protect my child from a bad situation and stupid decision. And I would be furious; because I would be sure I've taught her better then to take dumb risks with her body and life.
Unless I could truly believe that my daughter had taken all the steps to protect herself possible, seeing a doctor, using protection and talking with me about her choices, I would be heartbroken. After a little while I would calm down and we could begin to make realistic plans for her future, but at first I would probably yell and scream and cry.
I would be hugely disappointed in my daughter and in myself.
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I think you need to stay calm. Don't get really mad really quick, even though something she says will get on your nerves really easiily. Remember, she has a lot of things going on in her mind too. You just need to talk to her, I think you might try to mix in some other conversation things. like school, and stuff. because if you go full on about pregnacy, she might get a little irrated, because she learned about this stuff in school and it's like you are lecturing her with the same thing. Just talk to her like you 2 are the best of friends and you 2 are the same age...or close
Good Luck!
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You haveto keep cool about it. If you are not cool about it the relationship might quicky go away.
Sit down and talk to her abouut pregnancy. Keep cool about it,. Tell her the risks and the mistake she may have made
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