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just not for me
i'm a junior and guy. my friends usually like to have parties or get togethers, and i usually can't go because something comes up or i have other plans. with this group of friends, they are good guys, generally stay out of trouble, but the one day i couldn't go, i decided not to because i had to work on a project. the next day i heard one of the guys was rushed into a hospital because he was drinking too much. i dont like drinking, never have, and would like not to. so if they do invite me to a get together, should i just decline? i don't want to be left out of the loop, but personally i don't like drinking, don't really mind if others do though. what should i do...avoid it completely? will rate
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You sound like a very smart guy! First of all, you may already know this, but if your friends are drinking and you are with them you could get in trouble with the law just as easily as them.
If the friends give you a bad time for not joining their parties that's their problem, not yours. Don't give in to peer pressure, dare to be 'right'.
When I was in HS I had a friend that said he was allergic to alcohol--he said that he drank a beer at home and broke out in hives. He later told me this wasn't true, but he had to come up with an easy excuse not to drink.
Here's some lines you can use to get out of it:
"I just don't like to drink--I am a control freak and don't want to take a chance at losing control."
"You guys go ahead, do what you want--hey I won't judge you for drinking, if you don't judge me for not drinking".
"I have alcoholism in my family--and I know I have a high chance of becoming addicted."
"Let me know when your going to go somewhere or do something that doesn't involve drinking."
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I'm just an old lady, but a really together grandma and I've never been drunk and I've taken flack for it most my life... but I just don't care what people think of me. So, go to the party and take along with you whatever it is you'll want to drink while they drink what they want to. I use to drive my friends around town because they were always drunk and I never was... I often wondered how many lives I had saved...? If the pressure gets too great from your buddies, shame on them for doing that to you but misery loves company, and hangovers can't be much fun... I remember all the kids with hangovers on Mondays at school, how awful that must have been to attempt to study or focus.... just take a swallow of some of their brew and then a swig off yours(hopefully an almost empty container, and spit their brew into your container, they won't get it.... and you'll appear to them to be consuming..... and just don't let their pressure get to you... let them know you wish to be their friend because you see good things about them, but you believe that drinking doesn't add to your life or your physical well being... they'll poke fun but in later years they'll realize you were right all along..... I respect your view and your attitude toward drinking.... I haven't missed out on a single thing by not drinking... and now I have a glass of red wine with a meal sometimes because it is healthy for me....it's whatever is under the skin of the grapes that go into making red wine..... good luck and remain true to yourself, for it is your life, your choices and you will not ever be sorry.... this is the voice of experience... and an old nutsy weirdo kook, but hey I'm having a really good life.... so I have no complaints...
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You could just... not drink. It's not really that complicated. All you have to do is refuse it when it's offered to you. There you have it!
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well if you dont feel like you personally want to go then ya sure decline..but just remember just because you do go doesnt always mean you have to drink if you want you could bring your own drinks but still go..but if you dont want to then dont..hope i have helped
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If you don't mind hanging out while they drink, and you can stick to your morals, then go ahead and go! You can still have fun with them without drinking yourself.
My friends throw a lot of parties, and I love to go. But there is always ecstacy there. I go anyways, and I have an awesome time staying sober watching them roll. They've actually come to respect me for it. They've come to trust the fact that I stay sober so much that I'm now their sitter to make sure they stay safe.
If I were you, I would try it out once. Go hang out, and see if you can have fun with them without drinking. If they won't pressure you, and you are still enjoying yourself, then by all means keep hanging out. If it doesn't work out, you at least know that you aren't missing anything.
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if you dont mind if others do and can withstand the peer pressure, then go and dont feel left out of the loop. just dont let yourself get sucked in to something you dont want to do. and if something ever goes wrong or you get sick of it, just leave. simple as that. happens here all the time. hope i helped!
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No. Who is to say they didn't learn their lesson and may not drink again? Also, just because they did something doesn't make them bad people, and maybe you will see that others don't drink that much either. If you feel uncomfortable around them, then yes, don't hang out with them, but don't cut them out completely until you know for sure what the story is.
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ok, i dont know if you are going to like the advice that i give you or not, but hey i was in the same situation...ok here goes it...i would say that if you just dont want to be let out of the loop then you can still go to the parties. just because other people at the party are drinking doesn't mean that everyone is, im sure that you would be able to find another person who feels the same way that you do, if not then don't feel bad not drinking is a personal choice. BUT if someone offers you a drink you can just be like "ey i dont drink" and if ur friends are assholes theyll act it but if they are true friends they should understand. Ta Da. Unless you are uncomfortable just being around the drinking. But like I said i am just giving my advice and what i would do in teh situation if i was you. Good luck!
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well, i think you should hang out with your friends. if they offer you a drink, just say no. it will be hard, but it's the right thing. if they start going to far, just leave, say you have other plans or somthing. hang out with your friwends, just be aware of your choices.
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This situation depends on you. Do you want to go to the party? I wouldn't want to go if everyone there was going to drink and get involved in illegal activity when I didn't want to be involved in it. If you know that your friends won't get drunk or drink too much, then I'd see a point in going.
But for now, it seems that your friends are in this too. What I'm saying is that you'll be singled out if you're invited to a party that involves drinking if you aren't going to drink. You'll be the only sober one there. Thats being left out. So personally, if I were you, I'd have no interest in going. But, if you do go, you have to do whatever you can to stick to your personal goal. If you do not want to drink, or get drunk, do not let this change even when times where you feel like nothing is worth living for or if your friends are begging you. The key is self control in this situation.
-TheTeenGirl
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Well I see where your coming from. If you don't like drinking your really don't have to. Peerpressure sucks but, it always happends. I don't see why you should'nt go to that party and have a good time withount drinking, and still being friends with thoes guys. It's not like there going to stop being your friend. Goodluck, hope I helped
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You really seem like you know what you are doing...
On the back of my agenda theres this dumb saying "Real friends dont let real friends take drugs"
My point is, if they are really your friends they'll respect your descision, but DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE DRINK. Do not ruin your life because of peer presure.
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with my friends, its totally cool if somebody decides not to drink. if your friends are generally relaxed, they should ask once, and if you say no, theyll just leave it
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You can go and not drink, or just not go at all, but dont forget life needs fun! hope this helps!
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wat's up?
your a pretty smart guy. it's alright if you have other plans(more important)and you can't hang with your guys! and it's alright to go to that party just don't drink. don't feel like your being pressured from your own FRIENDS. they shouldn't because they're your friends and your friends should let you feel comfortable and unpressured!!!!! thanx 4 writing!!!
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well you could always say something like "I have a urine test tomorrow"(that is if you have sports or say ur going to the doctors.) haha wierd i know..
or you say that you just plain old dont want to drink. i think your friends would understand.
just get something else to drink, so they think that you already have a beer or something. otherwise they will probably ask you if you want something to drink.
sorry..i attempted it..
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dont avoid having a good time with your friends just because alcohol is present. go there and if you are asked if you want a drink just say no and there is nothing more to it. they make say things like "cmon" or "its just one drink" but after saying no once or twice the point is usually left alone. im like you too. im not one to drink alcohol because i think it makes get togethers no fun. i always ask for a soda or something else to drink. if they are your real friends they wont get at you about drinking. if it gets out of hand, then just avoid the person who asked. later they will realize how much of a jerk they were being. xo.:Heather:.
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