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hey im a really horny girl.i think about sex a lot. im not a virgin. but my bf is and he thinks i am. what should i do.i dont want him to know. but we agreed to communicate. i want to be sexual with him but i dont know if he is ready. and i dont know what to do to tell him both things. im not a virgin adn that i watn to have sex. not becuz im horny cuz i no i love him. i didnt loose my viginity to willingness either. just to help. and i dont know if i want to tell him that. we have been dating a while. i was 13 when i raped then again wheni was 15. me and him have dated since i was 13 and i never told him. we r now 16. what should i do
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wow.. sounds so much like me =[ i was just raped july 1st.. over the summer.. it was soo horrible.. im surprised you want to have sex.. you should be careful with guys since it happened 2wice.. you should tell your boyfriend..but yeah i lost my virginity to gettin raped to.. it happend to me when i was 13.. and 14 and both times i was high on weed.. and then i got a date rape drug.. i ahvent had a boyfriend since.. cause both times.. i didnt no the guy and its so scary.. and luckly i dont have anything..t hank god.. but really.. you should be careful.. you should talk about what happened with you to a counsuler.. cause with me.. i sometimes cry out of nowhere.. and im scared about seeing guys.. and honeslty.. i usd to be a big slut cause i used to like attention from guys.. which is stupid..
ok.. so back to your question cause i got off topic.. i think you should tell your boyfriend that you got raped.. but you want to have sex with him.. mayvbe he wants to have sex with you too but hes too shy.. communication is everything..
hope i helped =]
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ok well i was in a situation similar to yours before so ill tell you what helped me. well i was raped when i was younger to but i never told my b/f( we started going out when we were 13 too and are now 16..ha.) i finally decided to and it brought us so much closer together and he helped me through all that. i really think you should tell him, he will more than likely understand why you hid it and want to help you out with that. after that it may bring you two closer together, and when it does, then you can worry about bumping your relationship up a notch. just ask him if he's ever thought about having sex or something like that and play it by there. well i hope i helped!
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wow you have been through alout i think you shoudl talk to him becasue he has no reason to get mad at you its not liek you choose it to happen to you he'll understand well he shoudld hoep i helped
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omgsh! you do know guys get horny ALOT! haha especially around your guy's age! haha dont worry ~ im 13 . im not a virgin . and im a really horny girl too! yeah i think you should tell him your not a virgin and you wanna talk/do some stuff with him! i mean ~ not to sound like a slut but its just...yeah! and since you guys have been together that long you should be able to tell eachother everything ;; me and my boyfriend have been tgether for over a year now and we have been through everything together and i dont know i can talk to him about everything !! so yeah i dont know! i totally think you should talk to him about it!
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OK.
my sister just got married.
and her huspand left for awhile.
she was rapped.
she told him and said please it wasnt my fault.
he forgave her because he loved her.
so just tell him.
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If you were raped, then I would tell him. Say "We need to talk about a few things. It's not about us, so don't think that. It's about me. I sort of lied to you before. I was raped at the age of 13. I didn't tell you because I was embarressed. I didn't want anyone to know. I'm sorry if this makes you mad. I just couldn't stand the thought of you breaking up with me over rape. It wasn't out of my will at all. I love you and I hope this doesn't ruin our relationship." Wait about 2-4 weeks after telling him this to tell him that you want to have sex with him. He may feel pressured that he has to do better than the guy who raped you. He will need time to think about things. I doubt he breaks up with you over rape though. Good luck.
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okay listen. you just need to on the phone or in person and be like i need to talk to you.
just tell him straight be like i'm not a virgin because i was rapped. and i really love you and i hope it doesnt change anything and i want to be sexual with you and go to the next level cause i love you. if yall have been dating for 3 years he should understand.
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im soo sorry you got raped =[ that must have been terriable ... well i know if you tell him you were raped hell be like why didnt you tell me and he might not take it so well at first hell have to let it settle in his mind first. you should really tell him and tell him you love him alot and you wanna really experience making love with him. hell understand youve been together for a long time
♥ bekkee
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You have to be honest in a relationship or it wont work out. Tell him you're really sorry and you're not a virgin. Also ask him if he would be ready to be sexual and if not, wait for him.
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well i think you should tell him and be like im sorry i didnt tell you its not so easy to tell people these things trust me i know how it feels to be in the rape situation expecially when having a boyfriend anyways .. be like.. i know i should've told you a long time ago but i just couldnt but im ready to tell you cause i really do love you and need your help with this and then be like.. and then start talking about taking the relationship to the next level and be like.. well im ready to have sex but im not pressuring you .. just tell me when your ready and be like .. its not cause im a horny girl its cause i really am in love with you
hope i helped tell me how it goes ;)
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Communication and honesty are number one in a relationship. I think before you even think about approaching him with having sex you should be honest about not being a virgin. I know that it is a painful subject and you have no desire to drag up any old memories, but its something that he needs to know. If you guys have been together for that long he should understand and be really caring about it.
Has he told you he loves you? Have you guys even talked about sex? Does he want to wait for marriage?
If you havent discussed these things you should also do this.
I think the best way to approach him about having sex is to talk to him about it. tell him that you love him a lot and you want to be able to express your love to him in othr ways. Make him feel comfortable about the idea. Ask him if he is ready to take that next step. Dont pressure him.
Hope I helped ya hun. If you have any more questions just drop it in my inbox!
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