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I’m really into fashion and my parents know that. My mom and I have talked about me going to an art school before and she wouldn't mind if I did. I have a very good chance of getting into UCLA but there is one problem--my dad. He refuses to let me go to an art school. He wants me to go to UT (Texas) which is where he went. I'm in the top 10% of my class so I'm in automatically there. He told me that in the end it was my decision but if I decided to go to UCLA then he wouldn't pay for it. UCLA is an expensive school and it'll be even more since I'll be coming in out of state and I won't be able to pay for it on my own. I need my dad. I tried to get my mom to talk to him about it but it didn't help. So now I don't know what to do-- go to UCLA and pay for it on my own (which I most likely be able to do) or go to UT and have my dad pay for it. What do you think?
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You have to follow your dreams. If UCLA is what you REALLY want, go for it. Does UT have any art or fashion programs? Are they good enough for you?
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i guess the real question is how serious and committed are you to what you want to do. and i hate to be like this, but it wont be near the last time something like this will come up. but hey, the good side is that your finally becoming a real person who is starting to feel the weight of your own destiny.
the real problem you face isn't about school (you could always transfer later, after he's paid for your basic classes) but weather or not you're ready to fully take your life in your own hands (and to be honest, most people aren't and most people don't even get the choice you have) either your dad doesn't think so and he's being an ass about it, or he's secrectly trying to push you into a independence that you yourself don't even know you're ready for.
what you should try to understand is although what your father is doing kinda sucks(he's using his money to try to influence you), he totally has the right to do this. after all, it's his money. also, you might as well get used to this because this is pretty much how most people with more money act. most of the time, they're not even trying to be jerks, they see something that has worked for them and they really can't see why other people don't do it too. jerks.
this is where you come in, if your dad can't see how important this is for you, then you have to show him. if he didn't want to support you, he could've just refused to give you any money at all. show him that you can respect his position and why he wants what he wants, but he has to also acknowledge the fact that you are now becoming your own person and sooner or later, you will have to do whatever it takes to make that happen or risk never being truly fullfilled.
if that doesn't work, and your heart is sold to ucla. then apply for scholarships, grants, and loans, move to california (after i think 2 years you'll officially be a resident and will qualify for way lower tuition) and get a job. save up as much as you can and be creative.
yes this plan sounds like it will take a while longer. but actually the wierd thing is, no matter wich way you go with it, it will take the rest of your life.
however you choose, good luck to you.
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pay for it yourself and when he realises that you are serious he will help you
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UCLA. Definitely. It's not his dream, it's yours. You do what is in your heart. It's a shame to see money go when your dad could have paid for it, but you should go to UCLA. Also, talk to your dad. Tell him that this is <i>your</i> dream that you want to go after, and not his. Tell him that you want to succed <i>your</i> way.
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Just try and explain to him that art is your passion. It is something you'll enjoy WAY more than anything you'll learn at UT. Or, another option, go to UT and get all the boring core classes out of the way, save up money while doing it, then go to UCLA.
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Like everyone else said. Go to UCLA. It seems like your desire is for art school and your dad shouldnt stand in your way of your dreams by wanting you to go to HIS school. If he refuses to pay for you, there are other ways, such as financial aid, scholarships... but i think you should have a talk with your dad. Tell him why you want to go to UCLA, make him understand that it is your dream, like it was his dream to go to UT [?]. Going to UT wont help you get a better future if it doesnt teach what you want, so I say, go to UCLA! GO UC schools! XD
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It sounds like your in a very tough situation. The best advice i can give you is to go to art school if thats whats you really want. I understand the money situation may be toBugh but just make sure you keep up your grades, they will help u get scollarships to help pay.think of it this way, wouldnt you rather have your dad pay for u to go to somewhere you hate or would you rather work extra hard for somthing you love?
Best wishes!!!!!!
~Smalls~
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Go to UCLA. Your Dad should come around after a semster or so. This is your life decision and your Dad shouldn't affect what you want to do with your future. Wanting you to go to college where he went is silly. I'm paying for college completely on my own because I'm going where my parents didn't want me to go and I'm doing alright. This is your life, make it turn out the way you want it to, your Dad needs to stop trying to control you and let you make your own decisions. Good luck!
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