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Gotta get over her!
13/m, insanely long story short, we were friends, over the summer I realized I liked her, I told her because it was driving me insane, she wasn't sure in what way she liked me. In other words, she felt sorry for me and didn't want to hurt my feelings by telling me she didn't like me as more than a friend but didn't want to lie by saying she did like me. Don't give me any of that "teenagers don't know love" crap. Even if we don't, infatuation is a vital phase in our lives, eh? So anyway, after a while, I started dreaming about her---I even dreamt that I asked her out successfully one time!---and everything started reminding me of her... the usual stuff. I tried asking her out in person. Didn't work. So I was over her for about 3 days. Then everything reminded me of her---even more!!! When school started, we found things too awkward to talk to each other. It was just... weird. Things have started getting better though. But it was weird for about a month or two. The only way we talked was over AIM.
Then last week I started playing guitar, using my dad's old electric one and one of his acoustics, depending on which one my sister (she was also trying to learn) was using. So I was IMing her (she plays acoustic) and then I said that I was trying to learn guitar, and that my next attempt to play a piece was Another One Bites The Dust. Her response? "thats totally hott!!!" So that was pretty cool. Then the next day I walked into school and she stopped me right in front of the science room. She had dreamt about me. Apparently, I started rocking on the electric guitar, and then she joined in on acoustic, and it was cool, and then we went to the moon. She's a spaz.
But anyway, does she finally like me? Everyone said she liked me last year. My friends, my family, they were all saying it. But we were both in denial. Like one time my best friend came up to us and said, "You know, *her name*, you look like *my name*'s boyfriend!" We both dismissed that thought and walked away. But she was like flirting with me all year. And as the class loser/nerd, I'm blind to anyone dropping hints or flirting with me.
Yesterday I IMed one of her best friends and asked if she had liked me last year. ("She" being the person I liked, not her best friend.) She logged out. Does that mean something? Or did she honestly not know?
Last night I dreamt that the friend IMed me back and sent me the URL of a blog about me. It was all about how much she liked me last year. It was really sweet! And then in science class that day someone put the Spamalot soundtrack into a CD player and the only 2 people who knew the words were her and me. So we did a duet of The Song That Goes Like This. It was cool.
So obviously she's taken over my life, if I honestly call this a "long story short" which it honestly is, surprisingly. I can't stop thinking about her. Everything reminds me of her. Roller coasters? We went to a carnival together. Egypt? She hugged me on the day I made a presentation on Egypt. The game Batik? It sounds like a Greek-ish name, she's from Greece. Obviously I'm obsessed. Is there any way to stop that apart from finding someone else? Because right now I've kinda got my mind set on her...
A few more questions. Does she like me? How can I find out? I think I had a few more but I forget what they are...
A few things not to say:
-There are other fish in the sea. I'm not really looking for others, first I have to either get her to like me or to get over her. Take life one step at a time.
-You could probably pick up any girl! Not really, most girls hate me, whether it's because I'm really nerdy, I'm a loser, I talk too much, or I don't really care about my looks and thus aren't hot.
-You've got the rest of your life to live! Well, yes, but first, I have to reach the rest of my life outside an insane asylum!
Yeah... I'm sorry, when I get started on her I just keep going and going and going... sorry... I should probably shut up now. Oh, and any responses violating the ToS will be reported without hesitation. That includes unhelpful advice. Thank you so much, you don't know how much this means to me!!!
P.S. For what it's worth, she's hugged me three times... every time I've rejected it for some unknown reason... like if you've ever read Flowers for Algernon, you know how whenever he got too close to Alice Kinnian he got scared and couldn't go through with it for some unknown reason? Yeah, it's like that. I'm still partially child and I guess half my mind is ready for this and half my mind is still saying that "girl are icky" or something like that....
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first of all i know how you feel i feel almost the same towards a best friend of mine..thing is i just recently found he deffinetly doesn't like me..bummer..but i think the best way to find out if she likes you is to ask...thats somewhat how i found out...but girls hugging a flirting can be a good sign...but i think it would just be best to ask....and i know it will be hard and really really hard but just try to think of other things besides her...and i mean it will deffinetly be hard, and yes sometimes it will seem awkward...i am going through basically same thing...just mine ended sorta harsh..he told me to drop it..hope i have helped
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wow i feel the same way about this one boy. but anyway. yea its VERY possible that she does like you. and your dreams could just mean how much you like her or what you would like to happen or the straight facts. So i guess it depends on how you look on it. but ifyou really wanna know just have a talk with her. privatly. and get deep so she tells you more.
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Hey there,
Don't apologise for the length, it was nice reading it.
From what you've said, she is confused with her feelings, but it sounds like she does like you but is too shy. Is she a shy person?
You can find out by complimenting her then observing her reactions.
One thing I would advise you to do, for your own benefit is to hug her. Just step that little step higher because if she wants to hug you, then give it to her. You never know, she might be thinking the same thing.
I don't underestimate the power of love nor do I think there is a restricted age...you can't help who you fall in love with..but you can make yourself happy with that person.
Like I said, step that little step higher, you never know, the results may be surprising! :)
Best of luck!
x Steph x
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I believe that that she is in love with you but she has some sarta interest in you like she wants to be good friends with you. I have alot of girls that I want to be friends with. Oh and you cant realy get apart from her. Im sorry to tell you this, but your stuck with those feelings. To find out if she does like you, ask your friends to ask all her friends as well as her. Hope I helped♥
--Caden--
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look you really have feelings for her you will NEVER get her off your mind unless you move away or somthing.She likes you but...Dont ask her out again until she is ready like hugging everytime she sees you,passing notes,giving you stuff,or just wanting to go and do everything with you.You dont want to ruin this friendship,because it seems like she is starting to like you more than a friend,and if you rush that your friendship with her will be back to 0,no friendship,no nothing,nada.
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Welcome to the living Hell. You like her, you've struck out with her, you're trying to forget her, and something comes along that gives you hope and drags you back to step one.
Unfortunately, I can't tell you if she likes you, women are far too complicated for me to decide with the information provided. I can tell you how to find out though. Don't ask for a bit and don't worry so much, for a start. Realize that if she likes you, it's because of how good of a friend you are, and it's because of how you act. Because of this, don't change how you've always been, just be yourself and be a good friend.
VERY IMPORTANT: You've got to stop denying the hugs, or any other signs of affection. You didn't say anything about her response to the rejection, but I doubt she enjoyed it. Stop letting yourself get nervous about it, she wants to hug you, so you don't have to worry about rejection, and trust me, you'll like it.
I'm sorry, but that's all that I can say for now, as I have provided almost all that I can from the information and I also have some place I need to be. If you think that I could help you further, then please feel free to e-mail me at Leatherneck89@hotmail.com or instant message me (AIM) at Leatherneck71189.
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