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abuse?
ok the love of my life (but he doesn't like me more than a friend) told me last nite that his dad was beating the sh*t out of him by a text message. so i then talked to a mutual friend and she said he said the same thing to her but that he pushed him down a flight of stairs and it really hurt him!! we dont kno weather or not to believe him. like he tells everyone this but none of his guy friends believe him really, just the 3 of his closest "girl friends" (me, and 2 mutual friends). they have different stories (ex: "we were on the phone and he started screaming and crying because he was in the shower hiding from his dad when he heard him coming and had to hang up"). we dont know whether to believe him or not..
once, one of his guy friends told us that he saw his dad smack him REALLY hard once..i dont know where.
please help..what should i do? its serious..also, no one knows what happened to his mom
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yeah..i would believe him. i dont think guys woudl tell the guy friends because it sort of shows that they cant take care of themselfs. and get pushed around by other people. stupid i know.
but believe him . most deff. because if he's joking, or not. he needs to get help. maybe you can talk to a trusted teacher. or school guidence. and tell them (you 3) what he's said. and whats going on. also mention something that there is no mother. just the boy, his father, and any brothers and sisters.
but tell some one.. before its to late.
good luck.
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This is a pretty serious thing to just make up for the fun of it. Evem if he normally is an attention seeker, anytime anyone mentions abuse it's something to take very seriously.
He's telling lots of people. People have witnessed it. People have overheard it on the phone. Why not believe it, and take action?
He may be telling all of you because he wants help and cannot help himself. Have a talk with him and offer to support him if he told a teacher or other person he trusted. If he's unwilling to tell someone, but still appears with bruises or tells these stories, then you'll have to think about whether you'll want to tell someone even without his permission.
Abuse might be physical, but it can really mess someone up emotionally. Believeing him can be the first step in helping him - whether you give him courage, or you tell someone you trust about it.
He's asking for help. Will you give it?
Best of luck.
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well he's telling all of you that he was abused but in different ways so maybe he really was but he just has certain ways of telling different friends.
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Well what I would do is the next time you see him, check him for bruises or cuts or anything. =/ It is kinda weird that he went around telling people, because people who are being abused usually tend to be quiet about that and are afraid to tell even just one person. =/ but I don't see why he would make something like that up...I mean if he finds thats humorous, that's kinda stupid. That's not humurous at all. And if he is getting abused, tell someone right away and have them call the police ( or call them yourself ) and report it. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
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abuse is heartbreaking.
look at his face, neck, arms, legs, see if there are bruises
it does seem odd, cause when stuff like this happens, people usually dont tell others...
sit down and talk to him, ask to see marks he may have left...and tell him u are going to report his dad, cause if he is lying he wont want you to do that.
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Call Child Protective Services and report the father. If your friend is being abused, you will be doing him a favor. If he's making it up, he'll learn a lesson.
Dr. Chad
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yea scary that no one knows what happened to his mom and also i think u should like hide a hidden camra to really see his father doing this one it can make you a believer that this is really happening and two if he wants to go to court he would win because you have it on tap for the time being play it by ear and tell a school counseler!!
hope i helped!!
ml
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ok well you should talk to your friend. have him tell you everything. if it turns out that you believe its true, call the police anonymously. he may know it was you, but trust me its better for him and his family. his father, if this is true, needs help. if its NOT true, you should tell your friend that is not funny in the least to lie like that because serious things can come from it.
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This sounds like he's telling the truth, BUT just in case talk to him. Ask him if its the truth and tell him you are going to report your dad. That will get him to tell the truth. If he lies he'll get in trouble. I reccomend you tell an adult at school or the police.
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