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Hello...
i recently just broke up with my boyfriend.
now, i am a tom-girl. i hang out with ALL boys. and 2 of my best friends have a crush on me. my boyfriend was not okay with this... at all. he told me he broke up with me because he can't handle me hanging out with 2 boys (that like me) all the time. he just doesn't trust me. and he's already moving on. how can i make him see that i love him, and i only want to be with him? words aren't enough... and i just want him back.
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Well i think that if your boyfreind broke up with you because two guys like you well thats just stupid! He first should trust you and that you have no control over who likes you and that you don't like them and you love him and if he dosen't belive you then im srry but he isn't for you!
hoped i helped
*Lindsay*
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You have to prove to him that you love him and that you'll do anything for him. He feels insecure because of these boys around you. You have t o control yourself. Hug him, make an effort to be around him and make him feel loved.
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well geez woman how did you get him in the first place i mean geeez
look you have to come to him and remind him why you want to be with him and not with the other two best friends remind him why you love him tell him how special he is and i know you think that guys are supposed to do that to girls but umm no guys feel so good when girls encourage and compliment them so yeah do that and it will REALY help if it doesnt then that means hes not the right guy because your probably beautiful and nice and etc... but if he cant see it then hes a prickF***
sorry for the wak vocab anywho so yeah prove to him that you love him and if he doesnt understand how special you are than hes a dumbass and you must move on
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Try writing him a letter. Sounds silly I know but its much easier to get your feelings across to someone if they aren't interrupting!
I have always gotten along better with guys myself so I know where you are coming from. There is nothing wrong with having guys as friends. So, try writing it out and giving it to him. If he still can't get past it then he just isn't the guy for you. Even if that doesn't seem true at the moment.
Best of luck! :)
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i get that you love him but if he doesnt trust you than you cant realy show him any guy that you go uot with has to trust you, But if you still want him back tell how many times you rjected those other guys because you would never do that while you were together.
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Well he probably trusts you, just not your friends. If he actually said, "I don't trust you," then just leave him alone. In a relationship you need trust, and he doesn't seem to have that with you if he says things like this. If he just doesn't trust your friends... well that can also turn into a difficuilt thing. He might not want you hanging out with them, and if he can't accept your friends, then don't hang out with your guy friends when you're with your boyfriend.
Tell your boyfriend you love him a lot and want to still be with him, but also tell him that HE needs to trust you. You need respect from him, and if he can't give that to him, let him go.
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How can you want him back? He cant even trust you and this would lead to worst situations later. You should move on with life, there are better ppl out there.
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Sounds like your ex got tired of competing with the other guys. im not saying give up hanging out with boys bc i do that too but try inviting him to hang out with you guys and maybe that will make him realize that there is no attraction between you and the other guys.
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well for one thing and im sorry if this isnt the answer your looking for but you cant make any1 trust you and if love isnt there for him then you cant make it happen either and i dont think it is cuz hes already moving on if he didnt trust you before then he never will it will always be there on his mind even if he does love you that trust will never be there im so sorry but if he cant move on then maybe its time for you to aswell
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Youre not a tomgirl just because you hang out w/guys!!
I had the same problem. I have tons of guy friends and my ex always said i was flirting. He hated it when guys would even talk to me. He just never got it through his head that i was w/him, not those other guys. It shouldnt matter if you hang out or talk to other guys, just dont make him feel left out. A relationship is based on trust. That is very important. You have every right to have friends, even guy friends! Im closer to my guy friends because they dont stab you in the back like gfs can/do!! Just as long as you keep things in perspective w/the guys your ex shouldnt have had a problem. If hes already moved on, guess the feelings werent too mutual on the love. Unless hes doing what my ex did, and took revenge. (hanging out and doing whatever w/girls to prove a point)
If hes anything like my ex, dont waste your time. Guys like to play immature little games. Sometimes its how they handle their problems. I was totally in love, but my ex had so much revenge on his mind, i couldnt deal w/it anymore. Hes showing signs of being controlling already. Its for you to decide if thats what you really want in a relationship! It will only get worse.
Good Luck!!
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i think you should write him a letter. it shows that you took time out've it & that you care about him. if you juss show him in some way, he'll probably go back with you. trust is a huge issue in relationships & i think if you juss wrote down all your feelings, it would explain to him that you really do love him & even though guys do like you, doesn't mean anything. he should know that. it isn't like you like them, so i think he's becoming jealous over it & that's probably why he's moving on. if that doesn't work, then you might juss have to look around a bit. it could also be his self esteem. like he doesn't feel comfortable w/ the fact that you hang out with all guys & plus they like you. juss tell him you'll do anything for him, because you love him & care about him. if you can prove it to him by him giving you another chance, then it'll all work out.
-hope that helped!♥
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