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my girlfriend and I technically arent going out anymore.. but nothin has really changed, like she is my best friend and i still care about her so much and she says that the only reasons she isnt going out with me anymore is because she has some issues with herself that she needs to deal with. i tell her thats alright and that i can wait for her to do it but she keeps trying to insinuate that i like other girls and that i should go out with them. She seems to want me to move on but im not giving up on her ever.. i really dont know if she just doesnt care about me anymore or whether she really does have some stuff she needs to deal with and just wants me to be free to do what i want? The weird thing is that when we are together we act the same as when we were actually going out.. just we talk more now. which is really good because im finding out some things that i never knew. but i dont want to be in a relationship thats not going anywhere.. and she knows how i feel, so why would she tell me that she cares about me, and that she wants the best for me.. but then push me away like this?
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Becuase she's afraid. At least at what I gather. She probably does have some things to deal with, they could be some really BAD things that she needs help with too. She doesn't want to hurt you so the best thing she can do is push you away and try to get you to date someone else.
Figure out what problems she has and what she needs to deal with, see if you can help her through them. Try not to be too clingy with her, she may need a little bit of space.
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She knows something about herself that you don't obviously. She wants the best for you, and she knows that she isn't the best. So maybe, instead of being selfish and making it seem like you're forcing yourself to wait for her, just listen to her. I can't imagine you being out of high school, so there is really no point in waiting for her forever. Date other girls, if those don't work and she changes, then you have her back, if not, maybe you'll find a better girl.
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ive been in the same situation apart from im a girl she could either be playing hard to get or she just doesnt feel the way that u feel about her. but if you really like her just try and make her feel really special and be really sweet. good luck xox
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If this girl is pushing you away so much then just move on. I know it's easier said than done but there are some things you just have to accept and let go of. In my opinion she still likes you but maybe shes having feelings for someone at the same time. If you feel like you are more in tune with her now that you all are not together maybe that's better. If it's meant to happen it will for now just let it ride out.
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The issues about herself that she needs to deal with, is probably the feelings shes having about you. If she truly still liked you, shed still be with you AS BF/GF, no matter what the circumstances are!!
In my opinion, if some1 breaks up with their bf/gf, it means they dont have the same feelings for that person anymore!
If she still liked you, she would NOT be telling you to move on and to go out with other girls. Shes saying that she still cares about you, because shes being nice. The part where she says, "she wants the best for you", says it all! What shes trying to tell you is, shes not the 1 for you.
Dont wait for some1 that most likely wont come back to you.
I know this isnt what you want to hear, but excuses are just peoples way of avoiding the real truth!
You sound like a very nice guy, someday some1 will be deserving of you!
Good Luck!!
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I think she doesnt like you anymore to tell the truth. or maybe she just wants some time to herself you know, to think things over. Also maybe she does care about you, but doesnt want you stuck with a relationship thats not moving. I think you should give her time alone, but not date other people, good luck btw you dont hav to do this. rockergurl
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If she's telling you there's something she needs to deal with, then she probably does. But if you guys are still so close, and she DOES care for you [which I would say she does], then don't give up if you still care. Maybe she's scared of her own feelings so she's pushing you away. Just talk to her about it, that's the only way to really be sure. Hopefully everything works out! Good luck!
♥ Melissa
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