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sex with ex?
What do you guys think of the idea of having sex with your ex boyfriend that you are thinking about getting back together with?
I just want to know if y'all think its a good idea or not and why.
Background info:
It was a nutural break up
We broke up becasue we kind of just got sick of each other
It was getting too serious for me (not him)
He was my first
I wasn't his first
We've been broken up for almost 2 months.
And we do entend on getting back together...eventually
i'm 17/f and he's 19/m
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i'm in your exact situation. i think it's okay to have sex with your ex-boyfriend. especially if you plan on getting back together with him! with my case; we are just best friends and don't plan on going back out.. but we still sleep together. most people see it as wrong; but i don't think that other people's opinions should matter. if it feels wrong; you can always stop. and by the way, i'm not 13. i'm almost 16. :)
hope i helped.
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maybe you want to have sex because your not fully over him and hey if your ready to slep with him agian than no one can stop you do what you think is right exspeacially if he was good j/k but hey if you want to more power to you fuck what everybody else says right there not sleping him lol hope i helped
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mmk just speakin for the little ones, not all 13 year olds act like they are thirteen. and some of them do know enough to help. but anyway.
i personally am waiting until i am married to have sex. but seeing as you've already had sex with him...
i would wait until you actually got back together with him.
or you could see if yall still have anything for each other by having sex with him now.
so in the end its up to you.
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truthfully i think you should get back together before you think of sex with him because he could just try to have sex with you then never ask you out so i say wait hope i helped<3
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no. thats a bad idea. its just wrond to get back with your ex especially if youre gonna have sex with him
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Well, he's over 18 and you're not legal yet. i dunno what the laws are in your area but in some places thats illegal. BUT ANYWAY, it will only complicate things...really. wait until you are actually back together. having sex with him won't make him love you or want you back. thats just my opinion tho. if you want to have sex with him then go ahead, nothing can stop you. <3
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Definetly not a good idea, and heres my main reason why, hes your ex boyfriend. And, I'm not sure what your definition of "mature" is, but it sounded like it would be an answer that said, "yes, of course its alright! Go have sex with him! You are made for each other!" Thats far from right if thats even close to your definition. But, back on the topic here, I say its not a good idea, unless you have a friends with benefits thing going on with him. Why have sex with someone you aren't hooked up with? Why would you have sex with someone you aren't serious with? From what you've said up there, you just want sex out of your ex. It sounds to me like you are the one who doesn't know enough yet either. I doubt that you'll get back together, or it will be a long long time.
-TheTeenGirl
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With personal expierence... and just having gone through a break up recently, my personal opinion: LEAVE SEX OUT OF IT! Sex only complicates it all, plus like they said.. How was it too serious for you?? Isnt sex serious enough?? I mean the next step is marriage, is it not?? Well according to some people it should be the other way around and I think I should have waited, but.. thats your choice. From my view, you apparently aren't over him so you want him back.. Why not try dating first, the sex can wait. If he wants to truely be with you, he won't mind not having sex for awhile.. Other ways to please you know....
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Having sex with someone you aren't in a relationship in is wrong, it doesn't matter if you might get together later, or if you love eachother.
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Well if you got sick of each other last time, what makes you think everything will go better the SECOND time? If he presents the idea of having sex, then he obviously just wants that. I mean think about it, isn't it logical to ask out the girl and THEN have sex with her. But you know, I am only 14, what do I know (coming from someone who can't even spell intend). By the way, nutural isn't a word.
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i dont know if i meet your requirements( i am 14) but anyways i think it is really up to you. if you like him a lot then do it. but i think you should kinda hold of until you really DO get back together so it would seem like he is using you for a one night stand. because in reality he can get a girlfriend (that isnt you) right after you guys have sex. but hey this is just my opinon. the best thing you should do is follow your heart and do whatever feels right to you. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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In regards you your additional info.. Suprisingly enough there ARE mature 13 year olds on Advicenators. But very very few.
Anyway, you asked what do we THINK about the idea of having sex with your ex boyfriend if you are thinking about getting back together.
Personally, I could care less. You want to have sex with him, you go and have sex with him.
However, if I were you, I would wait until you two are back together for at LEAST a week and then start having sex again... But that's just what I think because I wouldn't have sex if the person wasn't my significant other. Even if we really liked eachother.
If you two do decide to get back together, wait it out for like a week! Then you can go and do the nasty as many times as you want.
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I don't think you should have sex until you eventually get back together.
If you do you may as well be dating again. It keeps you from moving on because you are still emotionally attached. And, having sex is a serious thing. If you aren't ready to be serious with this guy then its sort of leading him on...and vice versa.
The decision is yours though. That is just my opinion. :)
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