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i went out with this guy like 5 months ago, but we broke up after 1 day because this girl from my school started a rumor that i was using him even though i wasn't, but then 2 months ago, he asked me out again and i said yes, and now we're still going out, but i don't really like him anymore because i got to know him a lot better and now i know how he really is. i was going to brake up with him yesterday, but before i did, he gave me all these presents and said that he was so glad that we were going out again, and that he hopes it lasts really long. and he still sort of doesn't know if i used him or not, and if i just brake up with him right after he gives me all this stuff, then he's gona think i just used him again, so what should i do? should i wait for like a month or something so that it's not right after he gave me all the presents and he doesn't think that i used him, or should i just go ahead and just brake up with him? i don't want to wait because i don't like him, but if i don't wait he'll think i just used him, and it'll also hurt his feelings because he's liked me for 2 years now and he's been trying to get me to go out with him ever since.
please help, i rate high for peeps with good answers!!!
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well for starters you can call him up and tell him to come over or you come over to his house cause you have to talk. but bring the presents. you can tell him that you appreciat the gifts but you cant accept them. if he asks why you can tell him because you dont feel the same way he feels about you. or you dont think that its fair that he thinks of you in a stong way and you dont think you giving him the appreciation he desirves. or you just dont think that you dont feel you can have a long comited relationship with him. [if your wondering how i got these dump lines.. ive used most of them lol]
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i am not sure how you feel but i think I can help! I think that maybe you should break up with him now! No matter how much you like the presents you should try to give them back! That way he wont think you used him! But make sure you let him down easy cuz then if you dont then his feelings would be hurt double! Maybe if you try to give the presents back then he MIGHT just let you keep some of them! I cant garuntee anything tho! I hope i helped!
~Allie Cat~
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I am so sorry this is a tough situation. I think that you should go with what you are feeling and let him loose, but make sure you explain to him why you are breaking up with him and that you appreciate all of the things he has given you but you just dont like him anymore but you can still stay friends and talk (if you want)Just be totally honest with him.
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Hey,
I know its hard to be with someone you dont like. I have been in that situation before. Once I get to know I guy I recognize all of his flaws and i get over him way too quickly.
I agree with you that it would be a bad idea to break up with him right now. If you can try and wait a week or two (at least) to break it off so he wont have any reason to think you had been using him. You dont need to wait a whole month. Thats like hell staying with a guy you dont like, especially for a long period of time.
If you can't wait that long and you absolutly have to get rid of this guy by all means go ahead. If he says anything about you using him just straight out tell him that that isnt the case. Explain to him that you just dont have feelings for him like that any more and you want to be friends.
Before you decide what you're going to do, consider this, if you take my advice and wait for two weeks, he could get more attatched to you and end up giving you more gifts, so the best thing to do would be to just break it off right now.
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tell the guy the truth. he will probably understand. tell him to stop smothering you and to give you some space. that will probably make your relationship much stronger. if you don't like him tell him how you feel and then dump him.
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this one is soo hard because you dont want to hurt the kid and you dont wanna hurt yourself, so i think you should break up with him because if it was me i would care about myself more then i would care about someone else. Myself comes first, but on the other hand if you want to put yourself through another month, then you should because like you said you dont want him to think you used him. so if you cant deal with him dump him, if you can hold on for another month. hope that helpss, even though i wasnt too helpful, rate me if u wanna
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Give the gifts back and tell him you aren't interested. Keeping the gifts just makes you look selfish and like you used him, and really why do you want them? Just to remind yourself of a guy you don't want anything to do with anymore?
Take the highroad and get out of a relationship you're not happy with. You'll feel much better about yourself if you can walk away from this knowing you acted in the kindest way you could.
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it might hurt him alot but you really should tell him because staying in a ralationship where one person is pretending to be interested in the other is not right
explain to him your feelings and how you think its best if you two broke up
goodluck i hope this helps you out if you need anything else drop one in my inbox ♥
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explain to him exactly how you feel. tell him you didn't use him, but you lost interest. tell him that you appreciate the gifts and all, but you don't wanna be in a relationship that you aren't happy in. if you basically tell him all you typed, he might understand.
good luck!
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