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(fourteen//female) ive been friends with a guy, Chad (also fourteen), for a bit over 2 years. in 7th grade i helped him get to know my friend b/c he liked her and they went out in 8th grade and brokeup about a week ago. anyway, since july, we havent spoken much. he changed A LOT. i didnt really agree with some of the girls he wanted to get involved with && he seemed to understand. now he likes this other girl and he is hiding it from me even tho i told him i would be supportive of whatever he wants to do. (i found evidence...he asked a question on here about it and everyone knows about it). he acts different too...i dont know whats up? we are/were close && could talk about anything but now we dont talk and when we do its light conversation. no, i dont like him and no, i didnt kiss him lol. id really like to rekindle the friendship we had. any advice is great!
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I should say that he is upset that you hooked him up with someone then that resulted until failure. Talk about what's bothering you about him if he keeps the same attitude don't even bother and it's not your fault and tell him that it's not . Also that you were only trying to help like a real friend.
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Well like you said you've known him for 2 years now and I think 2 years is enough to know someone. If you think he's acting different tell him you know him well enough that he is just trying to fit in (probably) and you don't like how he acts towards you or around you, and you would like to be able to talk to him like you used to be able too about anything, everything. Also ask him why he thinks he has to act that way and -if he blows you off with a smartass answer or just straight up blows you off just leave him be for a while-. He'll come back and try to start up a conversation with you or try to apologize if he ever was your friend. Hope I helped. I don't think I really did.. Sorry.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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Rekindle an old friendship...I like your choice of words. That is always a difficult process. I would try to ask him questions. It would be a way to get him to talk a little bit more, and might actually help to lenghten out the conversation. Try and get him to care too. Like maybe you can give him a situation [not this one of course] that he could help you with, make one up if you have to. Hopefully he will try to help you with that and offer some thought. Then thats when you ask 'but what about this, should I do that, etc'.
If that doesn't work, you could try asking him straight-foward: hey we used to be friends, blah blah blah, what happend? Hopefully you'll have some answers and if not keep asking him. Let him know how you feel, that you do want to get back that old friendship. Hopefully he'll feel the same way and comprimise.
Helping him with some of his own problems could be a good way to start too. Talk about anything you can think of. Rekindling old friendships is a virtue to live by. Good luck.
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*sigh* Too many times have I seen this exact thing, people change with time. I would bring this to his attention, let him know that you feel you two are drifting apart as friends. I would ask to go do something like bowling, playing pool, or what ever it is you fourteen year olds do. I realize there's not a heck of a lot of freedom at that age. But try and reach out to him. He may feel that you're trying to sabotage his chances at happiness because you're friends with his ex, and since then you haven't approved of the girls he's shown interest in. Perhaps. Good luck and I hope I've been at least a little helpful.
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talk to him about it. i know you said you don't talk, but try to bring it up with him. i'm sure if you said that it's important he'll try to talk it out with you. tell him exactly what you typed right there. he should know all of this.
good luck!
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