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Sometimes I have my days where I actually feel confident, but most of the days I have no self esteem whatsoever. I always compare myself to other girls, and I hate it. I know looks aren't everything, but it seems like I'd be happier and more outgoing if I just looked better. I already wear makeup, experimented with differenent hair colors and styles, and different clothes. But there's always someone who looks 348349x better than me, and it bothers me. (Even though it shouldn't.) Any suggestions on how to gain self confidence and quit comparing myself to other people?
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The real question you should ask yourself is 'why are you alive and on earth, right here right now today?'
And a good answer would be because you are simply you. You live because you are beautiful in your own way. You are loved because of who you are. You were born to be a unique person in your own way.
Each morning you should wake up, look in the mirror, and say--"good morning sunshine, you are beautiful and today will be a beautiful day."
I know that sounds weird but it will definitely boost your confidence. Then you know that life and you are beautiful and that everything is as it should be.
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This is very common and I've suffered from this too. You might feel confident but as soon as you see other people who you think look better than you, that confidence goes. We all get it.
You need to pick out your good points. Your physical features, talents and personality traits. If you can't think of any, try to remember what compliments people have paid you.
When it comes to make-up and clothes, even if you try lots of new stuff, you can sometimes feel like you havn't found 'your style'. There's not much you can do except this: keep trying - read fashion magazines, create a lookbook of things you like, watch shows and identify which character's styles you like. Then, instead of just going shopping and picking up items, plan what you want to buy, and eventually you'll become more comfortable in your own style.
Exercising and eating healthily always helps you to feel good about yourself. Try to be positive.
BUT, the main thing that will help is this: (it may sound counter-productive at first, but trust me, it works)
With every girl you see/know (okay, not every single girl you see on the street, but say if you're in a class, the group of girls around you) look at them, and notice all the good things about them - about their looks, their talents and their personality. Although at first this may get you down, eventually you'll start to realise that all these girls have great traits yet they are all so different to each other. Remember your good traits whilst doing this and you'll realise that you're just as amazing as anyone else, you just all have different good points.
It's kind of hard to explain, but try it, it works.
Stay positive, act confident, remember you're amazing.
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There is always going to be someone who looks better, and that goes for everyone. Even those girls you think look better than you. And almost everyone has some self-esteem issues in their lives. I know it's hard, but it's best not to let those things get to you. Instead of pointing out your flaws, point out your good qualities. When you look in the mirror, focus on the things you think are good, not bad. As long as you have a good personality, you're beautiful in my opinion, regardless of your looks, and remember that everyone has different tastes and opinions, so if one person thinks someone is pretty or ugly, that doesn't mean everyone will. Focus on being a good person on the inside.
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i feel the same way i can never look better then someone else. i always think i am ugly and i always have very low self estum in myself no matter what i do.. a friend once told me this," be thankful for who you are and not what your not, you came in this world unique and you should die unique" each person is different. each eprson doesnt like something about themself.. even the most prettiest person ever doesnt have a lot of self confidence,. they think there is something wrong with themself.just keep you head up and think about the positive things. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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Try going to a place like hechts and asking them to apply make up on you...they can show you what will make your face look better. Go to a salon and ask the stylist, what she thinks will look good on you...I recommend Aveda Hair Salon & Spa. Don't compare yourself to other girls....every girl has some good qualities and some that are just average.
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Hopefully the same person isn't reading all of my replys and going [what is with this guy and making lists], but thats what you can do for this one. List what? All the good things about yourself. Make one for looks, and one for personality. Nobody will hate you if you aren't the best looking or best personality, so long as you are trying your best. I was there before, the low self-esteem every day thing. You know what I thought? There are many people who try 10x more than you could ever and no offence, but still look worse, act worse, etc.
Being your best doesn't mean being the best. As for looks, I'm sure you are fine. Would you want a boyfriend who only likes you for your looks to begin with? But what if you went blind? Would your apperance or that of your significant other matter? See what I mean. Looks aren't that important, so long as you feel good than you will look it too. Believe it or not there are people out there who compare themselves or other people to you, and not in a bad way. So what if there is somebody who has better hair and make up and all that other stuff. Would you really want that if you had to keep up with the hassle, not feel yourself, not feel great, and have nobody take notice of the work you put into it in the end?
I say just be you. The list of positive qualities is what makes you different [positive to you, not compared to other people]. Start off by saying: hey, I'm not like everyone else, thats a good thing. Anyways, hope that helped somewhat. Feel better and good luck.
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every1 feels the same way you do. you probably won't believe this, but usually the girl that you think looks better than you, is usually thinking you er any1 else looks better than her. it's juss the way it works. to gain confidence you have to pick out your good points and flaunt them. every1 looks different and that's a good thing. plus, NO1 is really ugly. try different things to see what you like.
good luck!
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I know how you feel.... Half of america feels the same as you do! No one is ugly and I am sure that you are not.... Just try to get around people that make you feel good..... like join a something that you love to do.... it will keep your mind off of what you like and what others look like compared to you......
Hope I helped <3 Tiffany
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