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shy
I am freakishly shy, and its a real real problem. I thought I was over it, but I went up to my new school, [it was just built so everyones new but I know like everyone there, kinda not really though] and I just couldnt act ike myself, I was so quiet, I barely said anything. I wanted to cry all night, even though I was with my friends! I guess its just akward because I switched schools 2 years ago and didnt get to see them that much so its really weird being around them yet not weird at the smae time. Im so worried about myself and what Im going to do once school comes. Please Help me
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You sound like me. Honestly *sigh*. I've hit rock bottom with how shy and quiet I was before. I found a group of friends I was able to be myself around. I experimented on people when I entered high school. With some people I would be really quiet, with others I would be totally random. And you know what? I attracted so many people like me. It was awesome. Don't feel upset because of this. I'm freakishly shy too, I'm just learning not to show it. Like HONESTLY IM FREAKISHLY SHY.. It's a bit ridiculous but I dont always show it and I cant help it. I just try to be crazy and fun but my mind goes completely blank and I start shaking kind of.
Anyways, find at least one poerson you can be crazy around. Then you guys can go around being random and having fun together, which will attract more people. Become friends with their friend eventually and in no time you'll have an awesome group of friends.
I know its hard. Anytime you have a question about this ask me in my inbox.. I can help.
dont worry.
"Live life as best you can, because nobody gets out alive"
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well your shy because when you meet someone new alls you can think about is saying the right things and wondering if your looking a certain way. to get over being shy you just have to stop caring about what other people think of you. and since everyone is new at the skool everyone is gunne b thinking the same exact things as you are.so dont worry about it and just have fun.hope i helped XoXo
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I found this website for you. I hope it can help with your shyness somewhat. :)
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Part of what might may make you feel shy is that you're worried about what other people are thinking of you, but take heart! Everyone else is wondering the exact same thing about themselves. To be honest most people are so worried about what you think of them that they sometimes aren't thinking about you. (A little confusing but I hope you followed it ;) .)
Transition takes time, so don't be hard on yourself for not being super popular in only a short amount of time :) . Just relax and realize you are a lovely person and things will come in time. The more nervous you seem the harder it is to meet people. Take a deep breath and see each situation for what it is: not that big a deal :) .
Get involved in something on campus that you enjoy doing, not only for the sake of meeting people but because the actual thing makes you happy. You'll consequently meet lots of people that way. And never be afraid to be the first person to say hi. Everyone else is a little nervous too. To have friends you must be one.
So before you go to school have a little morning ritual that relaxes you. It can be a cup of cocoa and some music you love, or if you pray it can be some time spent in prayer, dancing around to some music while getting ready, it can even be putting on your favorite perfume and makeup in front of the mirror. Whatever it takes! Just realize everyday is an exciting opportunity and you are a person of worth and charm :) . Best of luck dearie!
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I'm not a psychiatric professional, nor a doctor. But it sounds as if you may have Social Anxiety Disorder. If so, there are treatments that can help you.
It would be a good idea to talk to your doctor about a possible referral to a specialist. They would be able to evaluate your condition.
Here's some useful information about Social Anxiety Disorder:
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On the other hand, this might just be the normal pangs of adolescence in extreme form. In which case there are still ways to cope and feel better. You might want to talk to your parents (if you feel comfortable with that), a school counsellor, a teacher that you trust, or some other responsible adult. They should be able to get you some help.
Good luck!
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A lot of girls go through an awkward stage like this. I used to be super shy (I still am sometimes!) but then I realized that the only way you're going to make friends is to be outgoing. You don't have to be crazy and the life of the party, but when you're with people you know it should be fairly easy to open up. If you think of something to say, just say it. Your friends aren't going to be like "OMG I can't believe she said that, she's so weird!" I always used to think that but you just have to give people a little more credit. They're your friends so they must like you already and they aren't going to be judgemental. The best way to get conversations going is to either ask someone a question or give them a compliment. Remember to be a good listener but still give your own input. Just try to be yourself and don't worry what people think about you. Everyone loves to be around people that are fun, so remember that the next time you're feeling shy. I really hope this helps. I know how you feel and if you need any more advice, please ask. :-)
X0C0URT
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juss be yourself, and the 1s that accept you for who you are, are the ones that really matter.
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