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i dont know if i should put this under love life but here it
alright, im 13 and my mom put me on birth control pills...but im a vergin. she doesnt belive me so now im starting the pill on sunday. so i told my bf and he said that if his mom knew about it she would buy him condoms. so we both laughed....sigh...ok now my problem. does this mean that he wants to have sex? or wat? i mean i LOVE this kid...and i was thinking about having sex with him for awhile now. but im not sure if he wants to. i mean i know were like really young but i really do love him. so do you think i should have sex with him and do you think he wants to have it with me or is he just kidding around? and if we did have sex where would we have it? please help me im so freaking confused! I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!! sorry if this is too long.
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Don't have sex with him, but of course he does! He's a guy! And you're right, you are too young. It'd be very akward afterwards and could ruin the relationship. Hold on to your virginity. Good luck!
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ok first of all, you should tell your mother to cool down because you are telling the truth and she should trust you, and when you are telling this tell it calmly and adultly...(sorry not a real word but anyways )
such as like this
"mom, i know you are trying to protect me and help me but i would never do that when i know i can not take the responsibilty for it, and i have a good judgement so i know what i shouldnt do or do. so please mom trust me on this and i never will do anything stupid without consulting you first when its things that big."
and well you dont have to but i think taking pill when you are not preg is kinda bad for you. because taking any pill can be bad for you. even a tylenol for a simple headache.
anyways and i think he was probably joking but i dont think you should really lose your virginity when you are still young. but if you really really want to and if your heart say so, then i guess you must do what your heart says but to me you sound like you shouldnt. because if you are freaking out and dont know yet, it means your concious mind of heart is saying that you are not ready. and trust me you have plenty of time to do 'it' later =)
and hope i helped but most importantly, follow your heart. it may be wrong later, and you might regret it but you will never know if you never listen to it so trust your judgement.
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This isn't going to answer all of your question and i know i'm probably going to get some nasty feed back, but... I'm a Christian so I believe that you shouldn't have sex before marriage. If you love eachother so much... it will mean so much more to wait until your married, but that doesn't mean for you to go off and get married when you're 16 or so because those stories always end up taking a wrong turn... what i'm sayin is... you should wait.
God Bless
~aeromonkey
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I really strongly advise against your having sex. I could tell you the usual stuff about how you're too young, you're not ready for it, your teenage mind can't handle it, blah blah blah.
But I won't. You're likely sick of hearing that.
Here are a few little facts to keep in mind about sex.
One, you are under the age of consent. Until you reach the "age of consent," the law says you're not mature enough to agree to have sex, so anyone having sex with you is rape unless they're younger than you. If they're younger than you, then they consider YOU to be raping THEM, if I remember right. Basically, you or your boyfriend could get in big legal trouble for this. Do you really want him or you to go to jail?
Two, birth control is not 100% effective, and neither are condoms. Together, they're still not 100% effective. While it's better than nothing, certainly, they're still not perfect. And as young as you two are, you're more likely to use them wrong. So you still stand a chance of getting pregnant.
Three, there's a high chance of STD. Yeah, condoms help. But they aren't perfect. And a lot of STDs are really hard to treat... some are even incurable. And they're all embarassing. The risk will still be there when you're older, but when you're older, the media and your school wil have prepared you for it better. You'll be more likely to use birth control right.
Four... well, Okay, I have to do a little nagging. You are kinda young. At thirteen, your body is still changing, and so is your mind. I mean, your body is still adjusting itself, and having sex while you're still growing and changing could be awkward for you and yourboyfriend. Also, your mind is still fairly undeveloped. I'm not saying that you're stupid or immature overall... but compared to the you you'll be in five years, you are. In five years, you'll know more about sex, and be better prepared to make a decision. YOu'll understand what it is, its consequences, its risks and benefits, and what your boyfriend wants, much better.
It is with those factors in mind that I advise you to wait until the age of consent in your state before having sex of any kind (including oral, anal, etc.) with your boyfriend.
As for the pills, the other posters are right, you're too young to be on it. The first thing you should do is research the pill, its chemistry, its side effects and function. etc. Understand just what it is you're taking.
Then, you need to talk to your mom. Tell her that while you're not having sex, that's not why you're bringing it up to her. Tell her that you're worried about the permanent side effects the pill could have (which, IIRC, include at least one form of cancer, and blood vessel problems), as well as the less permanent ones. Point out that your body is still getting into this whole "period" thing and would probably adjust better on its own. And ask her if there are any alternatives to hormonal birth control you could use that would ease both her fears and yours.
Condoms are a major one, as are devices that you insert into your vagina. That's about all that's availible that's nonchemical. However, maybe bringing this up will bring up why she thinks you're having sex in the first place, and you can reach a reasonable compromise.
You might want to ask her why. Why she thinks you're having sex, why she insists you be on birth control. Try to find some sort of compromise ground where you don't have to take the pill, and she can rest easy knowing you're not sleeping with anyone.
But don't lie to her. If you're going to have sex, then be honest about it.
Just remember... don't have sex until no one can get arrested for it, talk to your mom about better birth control, and be honest! Good luck.
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Don't have sex with him. Your 13 which is way way too younge to be having sex. So really don't do it, it has nothing to do with 'love' at this age you will just end up wishing you didn't do it, even if you still love him later.
P.S. Your mother should really take you off the birth control because it can cause some real problems later in life being on it so younge, such as not being able to have children later. Or cancer.
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If he truely wanted to he would of said something. I mean all guys do want sex. If you are'nt sure why dont you ask him? Just be like were you serious or were you just joking around? If you did happen to have sex eather at your house or his when parents are'nt there. You cant really do it anywhere else. ♥ `
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About him wanting to have sex with you, he probably does want to. You know guys; all of them are horny and think about sex mostly everyday. Guys will be guys I guess, you got to love them though, right? If you want to have sex with him, do so. If you feel comfortable with him and you love him, go for it. If you feel like you're ready, then you're ready. No one else can answer the "am I ready to have sex" question, but you. Just follow your heart.
♥ Krissy
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anonymous -
He was only joking with you. Don't take it so seriously.
Trust me, if he wants to have sex, he'll tell you. He won't play it off as some double meaning with white fluff on top.
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I think he was commenting more on the fact that if his mom knew you were on birth control, she'd think you two were having sex. For now, I would wait on having sex. Since you are just starting your pills, you need to at be on the pill at least a couple months before they reach full effectiveness.
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ill make no comment about you being to young, everyone else who answers this question will do that, but only you can truly know. but ill answer your other question, yes he wants to have sex. all guys do, its genetic
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