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WEll me and my boy friend diego have been dating for almost 4 years now( im 17 he is 18) and well we both love each other. he even promised me many times the day i turn 18 he is proposing to me which happens to be in about 3 weeks. well his birthday was a couple of days ago (our birthdays arent that far apart) any ways well on his birth day him and his guy friends went to a club. there diego saw an old friend from when he lived in mexico. well they started talking and some how he got a hold of some drinks and he got really drunk and him and his friend Andrea went back to his house and had sex. i found this out through him only cause i got lucky with such an honest man. he said he was drunk and he saduced him. well i believe the seducing part because i had met her when we went to mexico so i could meet his family and she was all over him. well any ways im still really in love with him and hes the one and only person i have ever had sex wit and for me that means alot cause im am definantly not easy. i really love him. we talk were each others best friends and lovers and everything else. i am still going out with him but i dont knwo since he promised me when i trun 18 he is going to propose to me should i say yes our should i wait and see if this happens again cause im really confused and i dont know if i should say yess or iff i shouldd sayy lets wait a little while to see cause i have always thought im gona say yes. i dont knwo what imm gonna do
PLEASE HELP!!
~Princess Ava~
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In my shoes I would say put that on hold until I am ready to decide becuz after what went down I don't know if that getting drunk part was an excuse of getting out of the fact of having sex with one of your friends and then said i got drunk and seduced her i would wait becuz even while drunk you can still decide yes or no through your emotions it doesn't matter if you were drunk yes or no is your decision i think he meant to do it.
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Well, it looks like your in a bad situation. even though he was drunk, he still did it. i wouldnt accept him back into my life, but thsi isnt my life either. you should lay off it for a while, but still go out with him. then, when you know that he has spent enough time with him, and you know that he hasnt done anything behind your back..(you said he was honest), tell him your ready. i think things will work out great!
Good luck =)
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well its great that he is so honest with you! but thats a bad thing i know he was drunk and if you think that you can forgive him then go ahead this is a tough one. so he is going to purpose at 18? do your parents know about this? you left that out. well since you said he is your soul mate i say you forgive him because the moto i live by is Life is too short, so kiss slowly, laugh insanely, love truly, and forgive quickly. follow that moto because it is right. forgive quickly and love truly you already have the love part down and now you jsut need to forgive quickly. i say that you should say yes. if you know that he is your one true love then follow your heart. hope i helped *Kelley*
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Wait. If it was a one-time, never-happen-again incident, then it will blow over, and you won't have any doubts going into the engagement. If it is a trend, you'll have time to see that, and avoid it.
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I think that if Diego really loved you he wouldn't have cheated on you ...even if he was drunk. The way i see it....once a cheater, always a cheater. If i were you, i would definately move on.
I hope i helped
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If your asking if you should say yes or no or wait a while you oviously don't want to because if you really wanted to marry this guy you wouldn't be asking, and personally i believe you should do and say what you feel at them moment and only you can tell you what to do so i wouldn't listen to any of these people bc half of them have no idea what they are talking about
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You should say lets wait a little while.In case you'll change your mind. And in any case he's just not ready for the next step. He's just a man anyway. He's just doing what everyone else's doing. I could understand what you feel rite now. You had sex with him, and you hope that you'd have it only with him and no one else. And I think that I have a good question for this case. After you knew what he had with his friend, Andrea, what would you say to him? And are you sure that he'd propose you after that?
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I would say yes if he asked you. though he made a mistake...everyone deserves a second chance. as long as he knows that what he did was wrong, i would forgive him and say yes...
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well i wouldn't say no to him..but i would have a pretty long engagement just to seee if he would do it agian..but i dont think he would tell u about it if he really wanted to have sex with her unless he really really felt guilty vut sometimes it takes something like that to happen for someone to realize how much they liek the person they ahve been with...hope i helped rate me !
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HELL NO!
if he did this before he could get drunk when ur married and do it again. and if he did this once he probly WILL do it again. and u can get better! and now that weird girl has had sex with your man. tell her off and then tell him off.
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To put it bluntly: No, you shouldn't marry him.
Most marriages that begin at your age fail, and unpleasently so.
Children born to women who marry at your age are much more likely than normal to do poorly in school, and are more likely than normal to get into trouble with the law.
This has nothing to do with the individuals themselves; many teenagers who get married are good people. The problem is that they are not intellectually or emotionally mature enough to bare the burden of child rearing and lifelong commitment.
Your boyfriend clearly isn't ready. A responsible adult does not get himself drunk senseless, nor does he allow himself to cheat on the woman he plans to propose to.
Do the right thing. Stay single, get an education, and get a job. If you and your boyfriend are still in love when you're thirty, then i say, go for it.
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the exact same thing happened to me (excpet the age and proposing) and pathetic enough.. im only 13. It's going to be a tough decision to make and no one on this website will be able to change your mind completely. What you need to do is sit down and think to yourself of * i know this sounds lame but:* the pro's and con's of the situation. What I did was I broke up with my boyfriend immeadeatly. But since your's might propose to you.. i dont know. All I can say to you is to stay positive but know that he is capable of breaking your heart. And know that it was him that went to the club, it was him who had the drinks, and it was him that had sex with another woman, just WEEKS before he proposed to you. But you also need to remember that this is the man you love and that loves you too. All I can say to you now, it good luck from the bottome of my heart. And i truely hope everything comes out alright. xO ali
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umm wait && see what else happens i mean if he does it again id say no but if he doesnt do anything like that again id say yes.if he rilly loves you he wouldnt do that more then once
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