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i cant ask for help.
okay, i have this problem.. adimting i need help. and after what happened last night, i really need to ask for help. so i was at the mall with 2 of my friends, my mom, and my sister. well my mom called the the B word, and i go w/e and walked off. then she came up and hit me with a rather heavey bag, and i just turned around and pushed her. i had NO idea what was going on. like .. i didnt relize what i did. and i was supposed to go to a party that night with those 2 friends. my mom took them home, and me back to my house and grounded me for the day. she also took away my cell phone, and she had taken away my AIM last weekend.
i dont know what to do with my self, i dont know what has gotten into me.. it just feels everything is happening. and i cant controll anything, also i suck at asking for help.
can any one help me on here?
13/f
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how do you know it is something in you? what is its something in someone you know (ex. your mom)? but if anyone came up and hit me with a heavy bag, i would have held them back and gotten mall security for her/him hitting me. even if it was my own mom, dad, best friend, sibbling, anyone, i would get security. but all i can say for you is that if it is a problem with you, you got to learn to get over it yourself, and maybe with the support of a friend, because friend's make all the differece, they can mean the difference between life and death. if the problem is inside you, sit down, get very relaxed, and think, think a hard think about what has changed, what has become differnt around you. this may help in finding your problem.
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let her know that you were ust trying to look good in front of your friends - regardless of whether its true or not- it almost always works- and be nyce! good luck.
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wow, your mom shouldn't be doing that to you at all. and since your only 13 i don't think you could save enough money to send her to the chiropractor or something (a massage therpist) because your not the one that needs the help. she does. what i suggest you do is start kick boxing when you get mad. close urself in your room with the radio on and concentrate all your anger on your strikes, it's a great stress reliever and it stops you from doing something stupid to yourself and others. if you do get to save up money, send your mother for a chiropractor appointment where she can relax and come home in a better mood. you'd also surprise her with your nice deed and you might get some of your things back.
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First of all, it is not OK that your mom hit you, but that is another story.
Is your behavior getting you into a lot of trouble, with friends, at school, with teachers, with your folks? If so you really have to look at your behavior and how can you change it. It is selfish and self-centered? DO you only think about yourself and never anyone else. Or do you friends just love you, and you have no problems at school, and it is just your mom.
If so then, what girl your age doesn't go through these kinds of things especially with their mom. But I'll say one thing, your mom is NOT setting a good example. It was Bitchy of her to behave in that way. If that is how she solves problems and deals with disrespectful teens, then she needs help too, because you may just be copying her behavior. Leave it to parents, they often behave atrociously then have a fit, when they see the same behavior in their kids.
My kids are teens also and they get annoying, all kids do. In fact all humans exhibit annoying behavior once in a while. But I would never call them names in front of their friends, and hit them with my bags in public.
I would take them aside after we got home and tell them how their behavior was inappropriate and why it needs to change.
If you are immitating your mom, and she won't see it for what it is, you may just have to find another role model, that is if you really want to change and be the kind of person whom everyone likes. It is all about respect. Every human deserves respect. (well except pedohiles and rapists, wife beaters and oh well I could go on, but you get the picture.)
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At school go to your school guidence teacher. One big problem is that your mom callled you a bitch and hit you. Go to the guidence teach and tell him/her what your problrm is (both of them). I don't think talking to your mom is going to be a great idea, most likely she'll just ground you again. Can you talk to your sister? Or your best friends?
Hang in there you'll be okay.
all my luck
~kooka
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try talking to your mom and telling her that you dont know what you where doing last night and that you are really sry... try thinking before doing something. hope i helped you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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not many people are perfectly comfortable about asking for help...like family help...because its not just you, its your mom too. family counseling would be great, but who knows if your mom would go for that. whats important is thatt you would like some help (its not like your so0o0o abnormal because of what you did.,..it happens a lot ..especially wiith teens and their parents)
a friend of mine (shes a distant friend now..)has had 3 fights (that i know of ) in public with her mom...now these fights werent just pushing..they were FIST FIGHTS...ON THE GROUND PUNCHING AND PULLING HAIR FIGHTS... it was BAD. one of them was on school grounds...and the whole school saw...it was bad!
maybe hearing that will make you feel more comfortable about getting help. take baby steps..like go to the school guidance and talk to them..telling them what happened at the mall and how you would like help, etc.
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