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um.. name calling? i guess idk
alrigh tim 13 and well im half a virgin ( i havent had sex but ive given something) and well it was with my x boyfriend and this was like in april of this year and people are still talking about it and every since then theres this group of boys in ym class that are all my friends but ever since that thing in april they've all been like well kinda giving me names and stuff like today they said im gonna be a hooker when i grow up, you know stuff likw that and i was just like wondering if i should be worried about that.. like do you think it'll go to far and well how oculd i convine them to stop it?
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sweetie giing oral sex and anal sex means that youre still avigin you cant be halfway in between.
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Alright, I will tell you from personal experience, just ignore the stupid fuckers! People that used to be your friends, especially guys, sometimes get upset when the innocent friend they once had changes and does something they might take offensively. Or they might actually be into you, and are upset and jealous over what had happened, even if it was a while ago. A few of my guy friends got real shitty with me when tons of rumors were circulating that I was "a big whore", "I work the street corners", and "I've fucked tons of guys" (which I ignored all rumors becuase I'm a virgin and the only people who talk shit are people who don't have a life so they have to talk about everyone else). My guy friends got to the point where they called me names everyday, saying "You're such a whore", "Move it slut!", "Go suck some guys dick!"... and the list goes on. I just laughed it off. And the next time they called me a name, trying to offend me I got up in their face and calmly asked, "So, since you act like you know everything... What makes me 'such a slut'?" And they had no reply. They would try to bring up things that they "heard" I had done but everything they said I shot down. I told them that the funny thing is that they are talking about me like they know me, when they really don't know shit. And the shit that they do know, wasn't even that big of a deal. So just don't worry about it. Laugh off their stupid attempts to make you upset, because a few years from now, when you graduate from school, you probably won't talk to half of the idiots in your school anyway. Just have fun while you are still in school, and don't give a damn what people say, because half the reason they talk shit is to make you mad in the first place. So don't let them win. Play it off and everything will be fine. ~Sherah
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I think you'll be stuck with it until someone else does something worse. Sorry to have to say it though. You need to ignore it as much as possible. Even though it bothers you try not to show that it does because that will only make them worse. How did this get around anyway? Ex with a bigmouth? If so, stay away from him because he is a Jerk! :)
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well its up to you if you wanna continue doing that but who cares what other people say its none of their business their probably just jealous anyways
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Okay, first of all you are technically still a virgin (you weren't penetrated). As for the gossip stopping...well...I think it won't be such a big deal once you are a senior in high school, because most people will be having sex every night by that time. But it depends. Sometimes it can follow you for a really long time and you will always have a bad reputation. Only be worried if it really bothers you. You could ignore it, or you could just joke around with them and say, "Yah, I am a slut, and so are you...and so is everybody else in this whorehouse school." It might blow over or it might not, but have confidence and faith. You know you're not going to be a hooker, the people who matter know that too.
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If you are going to try to change your reputation then you should:
-pick a goal on what you want people to think of you as
-start taking small steps to show people you are not a hooker and not ever going to be
-i would suggest getting an adult mentor to observe you and help you in the process of changing your reputation.
I hope this helped!
xoxo*london
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heyy .. if you havent had actual sex then your still a virgin just because you gave a guy a blowjob doesnt mean that your virginity got taken away and every one makes mistakes but let me tell you if you keep it up doing things like that then you will be a hooker so stop while your ahead
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well i guess your ex bf wasnt very trustworthy if all those guys know about it! but anyways, its not something you should really worry about. you know that you arent going to be a hooker, you know that what you did wasnt bad and thats all that matters! boys will be boys!! just ignore what they say =)
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giving head doesnt make you "half a virgin".. if you havt had sex then yer a virgin.. plus if yer school cares so much about 3rd base then you go to one prude school
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You can never convince them to stop it boys will be..jackasses..thats the way it goes
Like during a football game at my school, i made out with my boyfriend at the time, on the treehouse in the school's nature center and there was this huge rumor that we had sex and it was all around school about the "big orgy in the treehouse" Guys still label me as a "slut" or "whore" and it's funny becuz all i did was kiss with my boyfriend....big deal...most of them said that just to get my attention and they loved to see my angry reaction, they tease you about it becuz they probly like you. How much you wanna bet these group of boyz want you to "give sumthing" to them to?
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This is what happens to girl when they have sexual relations to young. Now you are not able to deal with the name calling by the boys. I think all you can do is wait until they have something better to do. When someone else tries it, they'll talk about her instead. ANd don't do it again. No matter how much your boyfriend says he loves you, or how much he wants it. You see, your old boyfriend told everybody. That was not very nice. But that is what young kids do. You know your not going to grow up to be a hooker, so don't pay attention to them. In another year, they'll all be doing it, and then they won't be talking sass about it, because they'd have to talk sass about themselves. But just make that first time your last time for many more years.
Once you are older and more mature, your friends will be too, and they won't kiss and tell. Kids do that. Kids who are too young to be having sex of any kind.
Michele
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You haven't had sex... you are *still a virgin...
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