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Alright. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months now and I'm having a little issue. Whenever we first started dating he cussed a whole lot, and to me cussing is kind of unattractive. Well, he stopped cussing for me. He just went to Arkansas for the weekend with his cousin and I called him today and he was cussing like crazy. I asked him how much he has been cussing and he said in a real sarcastic voice "I don't have an exact number." Earlier in the month I told him he acted sort of different around me and his friends. He sort of blows me off. He becomes very sarcastic and sort of rude, just like in his comment about cussing. What should I do? Am I right to be kind of upset about this? He knows how much I don't like him cussing...
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alright well i no sometimes i cuse too! we all do, but my friends really do't like it so they decided that every time i cuse they snap the rubberband on my wrist! It really works try it. So for example take a rubberband and place it around ur bfs wrist so every time he cusses u snap it!
Xx_Jenny
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Hey, I understand what you mean. Cussing is unattractive. I would be upset about it too, especially if you knew he was able to stop. I would let him know that you are tired of him being rude, sarcastic, and cussing. If he doesn't stop soon, I'd let him go.
~*Tiffany*~
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If that is how other people he hangs out with talk then hes probably doing it out of habit.
The fact that hes making sarcastic remarks about it tells me that he thinks your not wanting him to cuss is silly to him. I don't think he will stop. If it is really a problem for you then I suggest you find someone else for a boyfriend. If you can live with it...then do it without doing a lot of nagging him about it. :)
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you coldnt be MORE right to be mad at him. he pretty much vowed to you that he would give up cussing, just for you. i understand completely where youre coming from. i will tell you exactly what i told another person, just recently. - the main joy of having a man in your life is for him to make you happy- and if he's not fulfilling that duty, then get rid of him!
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yea you are right... & you should try to stay away from guys that can't control their mouths... people dont choose to control their mouths usually dont choose to control their actions... & he sounds like he is being disrespectful... & no one wants to be around sum1 who doesnt show them respect... i would say dump him...
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I some what think you should be upset .Becasue the way hes treating you ..and yes your right when guys keep cussing all the time it just makes them look stupier.
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APPARENTLY YOUR TO YOUNG TO KNOW THAT YOU CANT CHANGE SOMEONE TO HOW YOU WANT THEM TO BE I HOPE HE LEAVES YOU YOU Immature brat!!!Dont get on here if you dont wanna hear peoples advice i didnt like the smart message you left me!!
steven
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Yes you do have a right to be upset about it. He knows that you dont like cussing and out of respect for you, he should not cuss. After all, it is not like breathing, some thing he has to do. It is a conscious choice that he makes. What is happening is that the two of you are growing apart. You are becoming the person that you want to be and he is becoming the person he is going to be, and perhaps the two of you won't see eye eye any more..on some very important issues. When grown ups date, fall in love, get engaged, get married, etc, they both realize that they have to change some things to keep the love and respect of the other person. A person who really cares or the other one, will gladly give up cussing rather than loose them, because it is a small sacrifice to make for someone who fills all their other needs. If he is so willing to discard you and discount your feelings because you don't like him to cuss, then he is not the person for you. What will come next. If you don't think he should smoke because it is bad for his health, and yours, and for any kids you may have some day, isn't that a deal breaker. And it can get worse from there. You sound like a nice girl, find a new boyfriend who respects your feelings.
Michele
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Yeah, dump him. You sound unhappy.
Or kick him in the nuts everytime he usues that foul language.
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I think that you should really tell him how you feel and yes, you should be upset if hes treating you like this. Make it harsh like you really mean it because I can tell you do not like it when he does that. Sit down and have a talk with him about his rudeness towards you and talk to him about cussing so much around you. My boyfriend was really rude to me and ignored me when he was around his friends, but then I talked to him about it and he could tell it made me really upset and he doesnt do it anymore. Hope you and your boyfriend can work it out!
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If it bothers you than you have a right to be upset. He is treating you like trash and you need to put a foot down. He has no right to be sarcastic and rude to you. You are his GF and he should treat you like he cares about you. Since he abviously is treating you like he doesn't care I suggest a serious talk with you BF. Try to talk to him when he is a way from his friends and when your away from your friends, tell that he is treating like trash. Tell him its not just the cussing any more its his whole attitude, the way he treats you. Tell him if he really cared about you he would actually try to be nice to you. If blows you off by being sarcastic or rude I suggest you tell him its time you two broke up. He doesn't deserve to have such a nice girl and then treat you like shit.
Good Luck
AG
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If I were u I wouldn’t just through that 9 months away its a long time and you obviously care for each other loads so just have a little convo with him again an see if he can change again but remember its give a take ask him if there’s anything he don’t like about you, I’m sure there's nothing but if u bring it up it might make you a stronger couple and able to talk about the problems more Good luck
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Well I find excssive cussing unattractive as well... I would upset as well. You have been going out for 9 months!, and if at one point he stopped for you then there is no reason for him to blow you off or to be cussing around you again.... I would just have a one on one conversation with him. He may know how you feel about cussing, but it can't hurt to remind him.... Hope I helped!!
~Linda
...and remember that everything happens for a reason and don't blame yourself! :D
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