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hi my mom has cancer, and i have told my friends but only reluctantly about it and this was a while ago. I only didnt want to tell them because i didnt want for them to feel sorry for me. i dont need that. I was so sad when she first told my family. I havent cried since excpet when she accidently made me read an article about cancer and it was all about bad stories and unhappy endings, not what i needed to hear. my parents havent ever tried to talk to me about it but i am not the kind of person to talk openly. I try to keep it off my mind and think about what i can do, and try to be helpful. what i can basically. but at a sleepover my friends talked to me about this and they sort of emplied that i wasnt as concerned and sad as i should be. do you think I am handling this well? what do you think i should do? please dont give me something like, just talk to your friends, thanks that'd be great!
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You are dealing this situation just fine. Its how you should be handling it! Talking to your friends isnt a good idea all the time. Sometimes they just dont understand exacly how you feel. Being sad about this isnt good. Im glad that you are doing better and your mom will be fine!! Hope for the best and keep your mind on the positive side. If you are just sad and crying all the time it just lets you down and you think the wort. But act happier at least try. Think of the best. Wishing the best for your mom and your family! Good luck! x0`
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everybody deals with there pain in different ways ... if your friends arn't going to understand and support you in whatever you decide to do then maybe they arn't really your friends.. it's a hard thing when someone in your family gets cancer...i completely understand that your not always open to the thought of sharing every little detail with your friends.. tell them if they want to stay being your friends that they should support you more !!
=-) i hope i helped!!! love briana
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talking to your freinds is not a good idea all the time. you can make yourself and your freinds have more pressure than necessary. you should talk to your mom, and not about cancer. you don'r need to be open. just ease inro a conversation on how your day was and about your freinds and start to open up to her. then maybe she will open up to you. also, be sure you are always a good listener when she talks to you about it. if you can prove you want to talk about it, then she may open up
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i think this is something that an older person sould be handling. You shouldn't have to worry about things like this you should have fun and worry about other things but take care of her once and a while but you should have an adult take care of her.
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I think that you are handling the situation just fine. But if your not showing what your really feeling, then thats not good. If you really dont feel the need to cry or show emotion about it then dont. But its bad to keep it all bottled up inside of you.
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Ok. listen, my aunt had breast cancer but didn't survive. That was only because they found it to late. My moms empolyee has cancer, but she is still with us because they found it early.
I know that its hard to talk about and not everyone relaxes if they talk about stuff. And I understand that. And to answer you question, not everyone is the same. so some people will think that its best to talk to friends, but others like your self will just make matters worst. so maybe, if you really wanna know what to do, then look deep within your heart and maybe even pray to god. Talk to him. not your friends. Unlike your friends, god will understand. If you have any questions, just ak.
~TaLkToTaY~
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Everybody reacts differently when they get news like that and your friends are wrong in what they have said to you. Obviously you are going through a really tough time at the moment and the best thing for you to do is be really strong for your mum. It's also a good thing for you to tell your best friends that you will really need their help to take your mind off things so you would really appreciate it if they could help in that way. Tell them that there is no specific way to react or be when your mum has cancer and that you are dealing with it in your own way. I'm sure they will understand when you tell them. There are free helplines you can call if you want to talk to someone on the phone - people who know a lot about cancer and can give you the support you need. I hope I have helped a little
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Well..friends are there to support you right?
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Your friends aren't the ones that have to deal with the incident everyday. How you handle it shouldn't be up to them. The way you react towards something cannot be controlled by your friends. You have learned to live with it and that is the best way to take a situation like this. My uncle had cancer and i always felt personally that i wasn't taking it the right way but after he passed a couple of months ago the way i took it gave me more of a chance to see the real him without having ot think about the illness...hope i could help
aSkMe1o1...........<3
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First your friends don't know what you're going through or how you're dealing with it and until they do they can't understand so it wouldn't do much to talk to them anways. I was the exact same way when my uncle got cancer. He was like a father figure to me so it was really hard. Like you I tried to keep my mind off of it and do whatever I could to help. I don't like to talk about my feelings so I chose not to. I thought that was the best way to handle it. What you are doing is ok you don't have to talk about your feelings unless you want to. But if you want to then talk to your parents, a close friend, or maybe even just your mom if you think it will help you. Also don't be worried about crying. It's a good way to let things out. If you don't want people to know that you've been crying then that's fine go up in your room and just cry and cry until it's out of your system. It will make you feel a little better. I can tell that you obviously love your mother and that you don't want anything to happen to her. And I'm sure that she knows it too. That's what's important not what your friends think about it.
Good luck and I hope things get better for you and your mom.
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Don't let your friends tell how to feel.
To me it sounds like your handling it kinda of well. Your not pretending it's not their, but your not letting it control your life.
What did you say back to your friends? They can't possibly know how it feels to have some one so close to you have cancer.
I know you don't want to talk to your friends but how else are you going to tell them how you feel towards them and your mom? Maybe you can take aside one of the friends that you feel closest to? talk to her, and if you feel you can't talk to any of your friends, then maybe you should end your relationship with them.
Best wishes to you and you mom
~kooka
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