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Overprotective Parents
Ok.. well my mom works for social services. and she got this job when i was in third grade (i'm currentlly in 8th) and ever since then shes been SO overprotective. She doesn't like for me to do things without her knowing every single detail. She's takin the lock off my bedroom door. so that she can walk in at any given moment just to see what i'm doing. And it's getting worse every day. Even when i was in 3rd grade i didn't have a 'bed time' but now she's making me go to bed at 9 oclock. it's getting really bad. i'm getting ready to be in high school and i still have a bedtime. i feel like such a child because i never get to do anything. And i've tried talking to her. And i've told her that i think she is to protective. Yet nothing ever changes. What should i do?
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think of it this way, your mom obviously cares about you since she's so overprotective. yet 9:00 is a really early bedtime. tell her instead to knock before going into your room instead of just walking in. i mean, you could be naked from the shower and she just randomely walks in. next time she should KNOCK and then come in *that's what most mothers do*. if you tell her to go away, make sure to explain to her WHY so that'll actually make her leave (that's what the case usually is). you're going to high school next year, and like nobody has a 9:00 BEDTIME in high school!! it depends on your high school, but high school can give you so much homework that you may have to stay past 9:00 to do it. make it slow at first. tell her to make your bedtime go to 9:30. then after a little while, tell her 10:00...and so on. you have all summer for her to do that. and if she doesn't, dude you're going to high school and in 4 years, you're going to college and you might as well have her get used to giving you more freedom because in 4 years you will be OFF ON YOUR OWN!! it's not like you're 5 anymore. ask her, why do you need to go to bed so early anyway? she's afraid you won't get enough sleep? that's about 10 hours of sleep (even on schooldays!!) that's a lot of sleep... and you could afford less anyway. you have to try talking to her and i'm sure that if you're reasonable enough and all that she'll give you more freedom. if not, then you should talk to a counselour or youth group or whatever to ask what to do. seriously, moms tend to listen more to other adults more to their daughters so it's worth a try. anyways i hope i helped!! good luck with your mom!! :)
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If she could take you to work with her for a day i'm sure you would understand why she is that way. Tell her to at least knock before entering your room. That is only good manners. You need to talk with her. Don't just say she is overprotective...talk out the reasons why she is. :)
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Tell your mom that you are growing up and that she needs to trust you. She won't always be there for you and you need to learn how to take care of your self. Tell her that she can and should trust you.
Hope I helped!
P.S. your mom loves and wants you to be safe.
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punch her in the face if it bothers you when she walks in on you masturbating in your room
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You should thank your lucky stars that your mother cares about you. It is better to have an over protective parent then an absent parent. She doesn't want you to become another teen statistic and as long as you don't get it in your head that you don't need to listen to her, you will eventually exceed in life.
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First, I had a bedtime till I graduated. 10 'o clock every night.. in the house by 9... friends gone also at 9.
I was allowed no lock on my door.. no boys in my room.. and couldn't even "go on a date" till I was 16.
Your mother just cares about you, and seeing what she does at her job.. makes her worry about you even more. She knows that even the saftest homes things can happen to children and is just looking out for you.
Your only 14.. show her your responsible.. ask for a cell phone, and agree to call her every hour or so to "check" in when your out at friends, or at someone's house..
Make sure to be home by curfew, and show no gruff telling her where you'll be what you'll be doing, and who will be there..
If you show her you can follow her rules, and can make plans, sticking to them not accidentally going "somewhere" else.. then eventually she'll give you more freedom..
Part of of being young is that your mother can control your life till your 18.. so make the best of it.. and know she's only doing it cause she loves you.
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Yeah, my parents are overprotective too. If she works with social service, she's probably seen a lot of things that happen to kids(preferably girls) of your age. She just wants to protect you because she loves you. But there's a difference between protecting and then smothering. You really need to talk to your mother. Tell her that you have to write your very own story and that this over protective-ness is doing you no good at all. Let her know that you know why she's doing and don't ever say that you understand why unless your parent isn't controlling . Tell her she is smothering you and that it's wrong. Mention that this could cause you to be more rebellious if you lose too much freedom. Just try to be calm .
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hi there, i don't know why she's being so protective, it shows that she loves you its better to have a protective parent and that yo'll know you save than one who dosent care, well my advise it for you to have a serious conversation with both of your parent because you arent going to be little forever , sooner or later she's going to have to let you have you're privacy or try talking to a relative or your dad , she might be worried just incase something happened to someone she knew just be honest talk to her in a mature way so she'll see it from your point of view not just from her view as a parent
whatever you decided good luck and stay safe
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