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What to do next.....
ok..i really screwed up, i know. heres my story. my BEST friend was going out with this guy for like 4 months, then they broke up for no particular reason, just that it wasnt really working out. but i became sort of friends with him while they were together. all my other friends said during the time they were together that the way he looked at me was as if he liked me and all that. i took no notice because i didnt want my to hurt my friend. once they broke up... and about 2 months later he called me and asked me if he could come over. i said yes. we rented some movies and watched them. then we started fooling around and one thing led to another and we were all over each other and making out! we didnt have sex though. he left and i felt enormous amounts of guilt because i promised myself and my best friend that nothing would ever happen between me and him. i didnt want to tell her but i figured she had a right to know. i asked other people about what to do and almost all of them said that i should tell her. so 4 days later i did. she didnt take it so well. she hasnt talked to me since. she has sent me messages of abuse, turned my other friends against me, wont talk to me about it. i say to her that i will talk when shes ready to talk- she says shes not ready yet..then sends me messages saying that i am avoiding her- i am just giving her the space she needs or wants rather. all i am asking is what should the next step that i take be?? should i confront her to her face and tell her that we are talking about this now whether you like it or not...or just leave it!!?? Please help me! i am really stuck.
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i would just leave it cuz if she going to act like that she really ain't ur freind.
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Hey! That really sux! I think that your friend needs to get over it and if she doesnt i wouldnt be her friend. But yous and her are obviously really good friends so i think that u should talk to her weather she likes it or not! If that doesnt work out then i am really sorry! I dont think your friend should care that you messed with her ex unless she still likes him! talk to her about it and tell me how it goes!
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You need to talk to her as soon as possible. I've been in a similar situation. My ex broke up with me and then I found out from a guy friend that my ex and my best friend had been going out since the very next day he broke up with me. It hurt sooooo bad and I felt so awful. But we talked about it and everything is great. So think about how she feels and tell her exactly how you feel about it. Then all three of you should talk and try to work something out.
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well...technically you did mess up. You promised her that nothing would happen between the two of you, which was the only mistake i see here. If he liked you, and you liked him than theres nothing you can do about that. like i said before, you can`t help who you like, you`re not supposed to. If you even remotely had feelings for him in the first place, you should have known something could have happened ya know? theres always that possibility. It sounds to me like shes jealous that he has feelings for you and not her. But if you two are really that good of friends, i would try to make ammends with her. Give her as much time as she needs, but let her know that you truly are genuinely sorry.
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I think you should give it more time and let her cool down, then talk to her whether she likes it or not. She already knows, so why can't she just talk about it? Good luck.
-Brianna
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I think that you should definitely say it is time to talk about this. Also, you should grab the guy she was going out with and you should all talk face to face! Just say you are really sorry! Hope i helped!
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You need to talk to her. She thinks you're avoiding her because you're not pushing her, but if you were to push her about it, she'd probably get just as upset - if not more. She's feeling depressed, hurt, angry, uhappy, lost, alone, doubtful, curious and filled with negative awe. It will be hard to talk to her... believe me, I've been in situations where I had to tell my best friend something and I was so afraid... but I did it. And we're still friends (been friends for tops of eight years). Think about if you were in her shoes (I know this is REALLY hard to do, but try to imagine if you were your best friend). You'd probably be mad, too. Because you kinda lied (not purposefully! It just happened) and you kinda broke a promise (like I said, things happen.) She feels hurt because you kissed her ex right after they broke up. She doesn't understand how this could happen to her. She's depressed because she feels like she lost her boyfriend and her best friend.
Talk to her face to face. Give her a hug, apologize over and over. If you really want to keep your best friend, you'll dump the guy. Girl-friends are so important - you shouldn't lose them over a boyfriend. I wouldn't suggest talking to her over AIM, the phone, or E-mails because it's so easy for her to dodge. But if you talk face-to-face, it's too hard to dodge.
Stop giving her that room. Sit her down and say that you're sorry, you got carried away, you're not "with" him anymore, you're not going back with him, and you want her back. Hugs - lots of hugs. Don't hesitate to cry, and if she cries, more hugs are in store. Be kind and gentle with her... this is a tender subject for her. Pray about this, too. Pray with her. Ask for forgiveness. I can't promise that it'll be the same between y'all, but... it'll be better than it is now.
-FunnyCide
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I think you should confront her about this tell her that you didn't want anything to happen it just happend and if she doesnt believe you get a better friend.
_Good Luck
Zoey x x x
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Hi ... i think you should get to face her. Tell her that you haven't been avoidin' her or whatever else she's been thinkin'/feelin'. And make sure you guys talk uninterrupted. You know what you did was wrong, don't be afraid to appologize more than once. Its hard I know, (been there) but once she's heard what you have to say, if she's a BEST friend, it'll take her some time to come to terms with it. It's normal. And don't be pissed if she doesn't appologize for the mean things she'ld done as well. She will do that later. Mean while, be the friend you could to her even if she and the world hates you for what you did.
Hope this helps.
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