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I ADORE MY MOTHER! and i feel a little bit bad about writing this, but i think i should because i dont noe what to do anymore. let me begin... i go to an all girls school, and towards the end of last year and over the summer was when i really started meeting guys. so, the first times she would sit right next me and watch what i was saying. and she still duz that. she doesnt sit by me when im on the phone anymore, but this summer i was on the phone w/ my first love, she would sit there and listen to everything we said. but, she still sits by me when i'm online and i dont noe what to do. cuz, now its beginning 2 feel like a security to hav her there because i dont noe what to say to guys. and when im on the phone, i do! and she updates my profile and goes to places for quotes and puts them in my profile while im @ school and makes me invisible. and i dont even like the quotes sometimes. i've tried talking to her. and ive tried to get other people to talk 2 her... like my aunt, and a friend of mine. and when i tell her, "im gonna tell tia," she goes, i'm not afraid of ur aunt. and she duznt listen to my friend either! i dont noe what to do anymore. when i talk 2 her, she says she'll stop and then she doesn't. i cant change my passwords b/c she'll get mad. but, she's a single mom and i'm her only child. i understand that we're close, like best friends, but i'm 14 years old and i need a little privacy
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explain to your mum how as your getting older now you need your privacy and your own private love life. If you do change your password, then she may be angry at first but soon enough parents do get over it. Your mum has to realize that being a parent lets her look after you and love you but she doesn't live your life you do. just sit uour mum down and talk to her about what has been worrying you. Tell her you are v sorry and apologsie (parents love that) and tell her how you feel. Also if all your friends know what is happening to you then they will understand that the profile isn't yours and it isn't best to phone at your house/mobile your friends should understand and your mum might even forget about monitoring your calls and profile. Hope i helped :)
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Tell your mom the way it makes you feel. Tell her that she wouldn't like it if you listened to her conversations and talked with her friends and whatever when you weren't home. Good luck!
-Brianna
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TEll your mum you want a little more pravicy. I t may be very herd, for the both of you. But, you don't want her to come inbetween you and your husband when you get older. Tell her that you know shes trying to keep you safe and you love her soo much but u need your space. That you are getting older and that you two will still be the best of friends.Tell me how it works!
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thats really bizarre. why don't you visit this site while she's watching you and read this like you're going to answer it and ask over your shoulder how you should respond.
-hitler
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Your mom is concerned for your saftey on the internet. There are lot's of weirdo's out there!
So, I do understand what she's doing to an extent...you probably do too.
I think you need to tell her (again) that you realise the dangers. Let her know that she has raised you to do right and that you will not do anything stupid. You will talk to your friends only. Tell her that while you appreciate her thinking of you enough to update your stuff, that you want to do it yourself from now on. Tell her if she does it again that you will change your password and not give it to her.Let her know that you could easily go to library or school and play on internet if that's what you were up to, which you are not. Tell her you would like her to trust enough in her upbringing of you to give you a little freedom. Good luck :)
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sit her down and talk to her.say 'im are responsible and that im not a little girl anymore.i no you love me but i need my freedom.i dont want to offend you in anyway but i feel like im being watched for every move i make,even though they might not be good, i need to make them because they will help me realize what i do.'thats off the top of my head so something like that
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if you ignore her and act like you dont care she is there she will probably think o she doesnt care anymore so why do it now. if you react to it she will want to do it more because she is going to think youre hiding something from her or something like that. so it makes sense to just act like she isnt there. but also have codes like 24 could mean my mom is here again lets talk about school or something like that. i had the same problem and i dont have to worry about it again.
GoOd LuCk!!
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this is a toughy.....i think that frankly you should just tell her to but out of your life i mean youre a good person right? youve got decent marks i assume? then you deserve some space.i can understand her fear of you doing some....inappropirate...things but your smarter than that and deserve better. i guess shes afraid of losing you to some jerk or something but still your life is your own and she needs to learn to respect that
Solemnstar
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try talkin to your mom again and tell her she was like that at 14 too dont be scared to exspress your feelins just say what you gotta say and you can also try to talk to your mom about dating and maybe she will think a little more about letting you have some privacey
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Simple change your password...tell her you need some space i'm sure she will understand!:)
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