ok well my bf and i have been going out for about 2 mounths. well a couple days ago i found out that about a day after we were going out he made out w/ my best friend(brigitte) at my other friends house(austin). well b4 i knew this my bf and i were at a party and we made out and stuff and it made my friend(brigitte) that had madeout w/ him a couple weeks b4 really mad at me and i had no clue wut was going on! and so i found out wut had happened and i was mad too for a while but i got over it but my other freind kinda hasnt and she is like my best friend!!!!! i dont kno wut to do... dump my boyfriend or dump my best freind? HELP!
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? drownedxinxdarkness answered Friday April 8 2005, 10:03 pm: No matter what happens in life, your friends should always come first. True friends will forgive all in good time. But that does not mean dump the boyfriend right away. Confront him first and ask him why he would do this to you AND her. This isn't just about your relationship with him and it's not just about your friendship with her. This involves all three of you. First, even before you confront him, apologize to her. You may not feel like you did anything wrong, but it will make her feel better knowing you care enough to do something unneeded to make her feel better. Explain to her what happened and that you're sorry for not explaining to her what was going on. Once you two have patched everything up, take her with you to confront your boyfriend. Each of you (including the boyfriend) explain your side of the story, without inturupting eachother. Talk everything out, and decide on where your relationship is going. Be careful though, no one likes to lose a best friend. [ drownedxinxdarkness's advice column | Ask drownedxinxdarkness A Question ]
karazimonki answered Thursday April 7 2005, 10:21 pm: I think yor bf souds like a 2 timer. So talk to brigitte and tell her that you guys were makin' out because you guys are an item. Ask her why she and him were makin' out. Depending on what she says he might be a 2 timer. So may be have your friend plan a date with him and you plan to show up and sit right next to them maybe tell her to like makeout with him when you sit down and this guy won't know what hit him.
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tanya answered Thursday April 7 2005, 7:01 am: honestly i think you shd dump both agin hard to take in but your girlfreind knew you were going out with him and still made out with him,Does that sound like a BESTFREIND to you? come on. and she is mad at you.for what i mean u didnt do anyfin. and your boyfreind made out with your bestfreind. i mean uve forgiven them why in gods name shd they be angry wit u look at it dis way. they were both unfaithful
hope i helped
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karenR answered Thursday April 7 2005, 12:10 am: You shouldn't have to dump either one. What did you do? Your boyfriend made out with your girlfriend. She is the one who should be apologising to you. You forgave them, you did your part. I think she may be jealous that you are the one he chose. There isn't much you can do about that. You know if you break up with your guy she is gonna move right in on him. I guess what i'm trying to say is this. Don't punish yourself to make your friend happy.You are not at fault here so why should you do all the paying? [ karenR's advice column | Ask karenR A Question ]
HyperactiveMiss answered Wednesday April 6 2005, 11:29 pm: You forgot about this option: Dump both.
Hard to take in, but you shouldn't keep either of them.
It was wrong of your boyfriend to have made out with anyone other than you. Not only this, but your BESTFRIEND! How low is that? And then he has the nerve to continue making out with YOU.
And your bestfriend? That was wrong of her to make out with YOUR boyfriend! How could she have had the nerve to be mad at YOU for making out with your OWN boyfriend?!
YOU are the one who SHOULD be the most hurt, but you are the one that has "kinda gotten over it". That is not right.
You need to find a bestfriend and a boyfriend that consider your feelings. You need people you can trust. Once someone has done something bad, they are capable of doing it AGAIN. I don't think you want that to happen. Please find some people that deserve you. [ HyperactiveMiss's advice column | Ask HyperactiveMiss A Question ]
dancerchic9105 answered Wednesday April 6 2005, 10:54 pm: you can:
~dump your b/f and tell him that you know what he did w/ brigitte when he was dating you and that it wasn't right
~talk to brigitte and tell her that you had no clue about what he did w/ her and that you are very sorry and that you still want to be best friends!
leave me something in my inbox if you need more advice on this!! hope this works!!
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pretty_n_punk09 answered Wednesday April 6 2005, 10:05 pm: So let me get this straight...your best friend made out with your boyfriend? Maybe I'm just in a bad mood today but you best friend doesn't really seem like a best friend. I mean seriously. I find that to be wrong. VERY wrong. How can you seriously think it's ok for her to be making out with your boyfriend? I still find that wrong.
I think you should talk to them both about it and work it out. Just tell them how you feel and work something out!
therocketsummer answered Wednesday April 6 2005, 9:58 pm: You definately shouldn't dump your boyfriend. Yes, yes, he made a mistake, but you forgave him, end of story. Your friend isn't in the right place to be upset with you, after all she's your best friend and she made out with your boyfriend? That's not right. If she's upset, let her be upset because there's nothing you can do that will change her mind. Even though she did the wrong-doing, she's mad at you for makeing out with you <strong>boyfriend</strong> (It's written in the unwritten rules of dating that you are allowed to make out with your boyfriend. :D) Your friend is just jealous because you got some of what she wanted, which isn't right. ♥ [ therocketsummer's advice column | Ask therocketsummer A Question ]
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