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Q: Please don't skip this cause it's long. It's good and here I go okay I have this boyfriend that left for the summer well technically were not really going out but we didn't break up we just decided it wouldn't work out long distance. We were just going to get back together once he came back well the thing is since he left we've been going through some rough times I really do love him and were crazy about eachother we've been going out for eight months. So here's the problem this other guy came into play which happens to be a really good friend of mine and we were talking and he wants to go out again. And please don't be like then you really don't love the other guy if your even thinking about dating another guy cause c'mon girls we all do it. But see I really wanna be with the guy that I've been with for eight months but see I don't know if there is ever gonna be anything between us because of all the fighting we've been doing. So I'm thinking getting with the second guy might not be such a bad idea. So please help me which one should I pick? I'm so damn confussed. here's some background info. The guy I've been with I cheated on with the second guy.I've dated both guys. Plus the first guy has cheated on me too. Im 14 the first guy is 15 and the second guy is 16. The two guys know about eachother and hate eachother.
honestly the best thing to do iz to stay with the eight months guy because in every relationship there are ups nd downs and it will pass over so i think you should just stick with the eight months guy.i think that the second guy is probably a saftey net you think you like him but you dnt you just want someone else to comfort you because your having problems with ur long dist. guy. it will all pass over hope i helped
tanya
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Q: does anyone know where i can buy the seasons of smallville on DVD that's not ridiculously expensive?
try their website its kryptonsite.com hope i helped

Q: My best friend(we'll say lucy) is going to prom with this kid(we'll say nick). Well recently they got into a fight because nick went out and picked up our other friend and brought her out to lucy's house after we had asked him to. Well we promised that we would give him ten dollars gas money, since he was low, if he did this for us. Well lucy has been practically obsessed with nick for the passed two years but he won't give her the time of day. Before lucy and i started talking i had dated nick and it was actually through him that lucy and i became aquainted. Lucy and nick are both seniors and lucy's dream was to go to her senior prom with him. Luckily thanks to the help of her friends, nick agreed to go with her. Well when lucy worked her ways nd talked nick into leaving without that gas money, he got really mad. (because he was on E when he got home) And the reason she didn't give it to him was because she didn't have change for a twenty. When nick got home he txt messaged me to tell me that he wasn't going to prom with lucy and this really upset her. Then another fight broke out because I have been talking to him AS FRIENDS and some of lucy's other friends don't see this appropriate. But when i don't talk to him, everyone gets mad at me and yells because they say there is no reason to hate him just because he broke my heart. So me, trying to be the peace maker, started talking to him civilized once again and now we're friends. (NOTHING MORE)Well he called me today and we got to talking. I begged him to reconsider taking lucy to prom because i know how much this means to her, nd he said: "Hmmm, i have an idea". Well this idea isn't any good :( AT ALL-- He agreed to go with lucy again to prom on one condition; if i sleep with him. He has been bugging me to sleep with him for the passed 7months because i turned him down the two times we were together. I know I can't do that to her even though it would get her to prom. And i don't know how to tell her because it would devastate her. But what if i tell him no and he wont go to prom with her? Then i will feel like this is all my fault because i didn't betray my friends trust.. I'm so hurt and confused-- please and thank you for listening to me babble!!
heya
i think you shdnt sleep wid him. i think shld go 2 lucy and tell her you hav sth to tell her tell her then that uve been after the fight. you knw what tell her the truth tell her what relli happ. because you dnt wnt her finding out from sbd else or if this nick guy is as bad as he sounds he cld always say to her that she said she wld sleep wid me if i went to da prom wit u so i think u shd jus tell her.hope i helped
tanya
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Q: Hey im looking to tone my belly up its alreayd slim but has no shape.. i dont want to be like a musle man [coz im a girl] and i want muserly'er legs than i have becuase my legs look fat at the moment and also my arms.. yeah anyway.. what weight or work out or HOW DO I TONE OUT MY BELLY??!?! Please list.. i could use my brothers weights maybe or is that for your arms.. or that pole with weights on the end..? or maybe a simple run up and down the stairs? i dont know you tell me ! please lol :P
lush me x
hey
you can go to toneteen.com theyve got all srts of exercises

Q: oww
ok today i had gym, and i was playing with frisbees. all of a sudden a frisbee hit me right smack on my forehead. it hurt like hell. i have sensitive skin, so after the frisbee attacked me, my forehead became really red, and it was swollen. now, like 11 hours later, there's a bump on my forehead, and it hurts to touch it

are there any ways to make the bump smaller and less red?
best to put ice on it

Q: Ok, my friend has this Compaq Presario (laptop), and there is no print screen key. She really needs to get her screen copied to her 'clipboard' so she can put it on paint (she wants to make msn avatars using cartoon dolls) and I don't know how to help her because I'm not using a laptop!!! Is there some control+? combination or something? This is urgent...thanks!
NOTE: I've tried google and other help sites but can find nothing...
there might be'sys rq writen instead 'of prt sc'

Q: ok im having my sweet 16 in a couple of months. I made my guest list and came up with about 40 - 44 girls and only about 33 guys. I want to kind of make it a ratio but i dont want to invite just anyone so its even! my one friend invited a bunch of people to her party and some threw the invites on the floor. i dont want to be dissed..but at the same time i kind of want it even. SHould i leave my list as it is..invite more guys...any experiecnes where guys to girls wasnt even but the party was still good?
heya
i think you shd em send out flyers instead of invites then a whole bunch of girls and boys will come

Q: ok i know im really skinny, but i cant help it! i eat like a fucking dinosour and i still weigh only 70 pounds at 13! i was wasndering if there is ANYTHING for me to get guys to like me. i think that im to skinny and thats why guys dont like me, but i do like guys and not a single one is interested in me! i think im pretty all but my weight, i have white strieght teeth, blonde hair, no pimples and i have big green eyes, but what the hell is with my weight? i mean is that why guys show no interest?!?! please help me. people who give me nice answers i rate 5s!
heya
em my freind had this thing that you eat alot but you dont put on weight its a sickness but dont worry bout it it can be fixed. you may have that anyway maybe you maybe thinking that boysdont like you but reli theymay be thinking shell say no if i ask her out cse shes perfect or sth like that but anyway jus be you u get betta boys like that lol. some boys jus think of your personality anyway wat wd i no im not a boy.gd luk hope i helped
tanya
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Q: Hey, i'm a 15 year old black girl and at my high school if your a certain color, you are expected to like certain things and listen to a certain type of music.Well i'm not like that i listen to "other" music.And when i say other music i mean stuff liken green day and maroon5 and stuff like that.Also some of the stuff that my caucasion friends talk about i can identify with and some of the more preppy clothes they wear i like.i'm afraid to tell my friends this because i am afriad of their reactions.what should i do?
heya
first off all you shdnt be livin 2 lives you shdnt do what they expect you 2 do. you should be your own you and it doesnt matta what people say you know why cse 1. when someone sees you they have already made a sketch of what they think youd be any way you shdn let them do that.its up 2 you.anyway hope i helped tell me wat happens you can leave sth in my inbox
tanya
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Q: OK I HAVE ONE HUGE PIMPLE ON MY CHIN. IT REALLY BIG!!Does any one have a way to treat it, its just one, thnaks!
try witch product i had a spot and it went in like three days heres their website
witchskincare.com(it got nufin 2 do wit witchcraft

Q: I recently asked a question about my upcoming talent show auditions. I decided to do my act solo and I have a few questions. First off I signed up saying I will play the piano but now I am planning on searching on iTunes for a song and downloading it to my iPod, then burning a CD. So does anyone know a website I can copy down piano sheet music from (prefferably a site with cords)? Also does anyone know any songs that are fairly easy to learn to sing and are for a alto soprano (leaning on the alto side) with a short range? Thank you in advance.
try em 'Yesterday@ i only heard it once seems fairly easy i fell in love wid it wen i heard it its also quite easy to play

Q: ok well my bf and i have been going out for about 2 mounths. well a couple days ago i found out that about a day after we were going out he made out w/ my best friend(brigitte) at my other friends house(austin). well b4 i knew this my bf and i were at a party and we made out and stuff and it made my friend(brigitte) that had madeout w/ him a couple weeks b4 really mad at me and i had no clue wut was going on! and so i found out wut had happened and i was mad too for a while but i got over it but my other freind kinda hasnt and she is like my best friend!!!!! i dont kno wut to do... dump my boyfriend or dump my best freind? HELP!
honestly i think you shd dump both agin hard to take in but your girlfreind knew you were going out with him and still made out with him,Does that sound like a BESTFREIND to you? come on. and she is mad at you.for what i mean u didnt do anyfin. and your boyfreind made out with your bestfreind. i mean uve forgiven them why in gods name shd they be angry wit u look at it dis way. they were both unfaithful
hope i helped
tanya
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Q: Can anyone tell me about any awesome free online adventure games? I've already been to runescape, but are there any other good ones?
http://www.miniclip/com

Q: i decided i need to get into shape. so today i did 100 sit-ups (within 15 minutes.. i know, that's a LONG time =(..). is that too much to start with? does anyone have any other good exercising tips, for your stomach? (besides sit-ups and crunches).

also, can you do sit-ups by laying down and then going up, instead of bending your legs? Because i don't bend my legs.. so maybe it's not considered a sit-up.

thanks in advance!
heya
em first of all your pushing youself too hard and u have to put your legs up other wise its not considered a sit up try em toneteen.com its reli good it gives you exercises and stuff
tanya
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Q: ok i have a really good friend and she is hurting herself by like throwing herself into walls durring school because i think she is depressed. It seems like she really doesn't want to talk about it to anyone. The other day she almost cracked her head open. (she kind of did or maybe she just got a cut on it and it started bleeding because she was banging her head on the lockers) ya i know it sound phsyco...but i don't want her 2 be like this! i mean 2day she was slamming her head against the concrete until i made her stop! what should i do to get her to either tell me whats going on or to stop her from hurting herself????? (i rate high)

ThAnKs A BuNcH!

-*Marissa*-
heya
well first off all i think you shd sit her down somewhere private (ive been through this b4 with a m8)and then tell her that ur her freind/best freind and wts the use of you guys being freinds if ure not going to be able to tell each other bout each others problems and that you hate 2 see her hurt herself like that i think ive got you strted the rest will jus happ. hope i helped
if You eva need anyfin jus email me on dayeshas@hotmail.com or jus leave sth in my inbox

Q: Hi,
I'm a kind of story-editor online. People write stories, look through an 'editor directiory', a site I'm part of, and choose the editor best suited to their story. If I'm chosen, they email me and I will work on this story. The thing is, this is a very full-time job and I'm editing for around 7 people at a time, constantly. They usually have anything up to 50 chapters, at an average length of 3000 words per chapter. I can't do this much work, especially with exams coming up...plus I spend all my free time on Advicenators now. I want to quit my editing because it's just not fun for me any more and it's too much work, but I dunno....I feel like I'll have failed if I quit. And I also feel like quitting that is a step towards quitting other things, like this website. I'm scared that if I let myself quit one thing, I'll end up eventually getting bored of this place and quitting here too, and I really don't want to do that. What do I do?
Plus, how do I tell the owner of the editor directory that I want to quit? She's become a great friend of mine and I don't want to disappoint her. If anyone can think of any good excuses, or a better way to phrase mine...please give them.
Thanks! xxx
heya
well i think that you should be happy with whteveryoure doing and i think it will be for the best if you do quit cause i meen u have exams cming up nd ure going to be so uptight and stressed and honestly youl feel like shit i think the owner of the directory will understand if shes your freind and because your quitting this job doesnt meen youll be a quitter foreva jus tell her the truth. anyway hope it helped
tanya
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Q: Does anyone know what I could use to clean my laptop screen without damaging it?
hya jus use a lil glass or window cleaner

Q: I need some good advice. I am homeschooled and I would like to get into something like football. This years been rough and im considering going back to public school for 10th grade. If I go to public school though my parents are afraid that my attitude might change to match the people around me (which is very true and might happen and it'll be worse). Should I go back to public school and stay caught up, play sports, and be around other people. Or should I stay homeschooled and not be influenced by the people around me?
heya i think you should go to public school because
1. your attitude is not going to change unless you want to change it
2. your watching your wholle teen life pass you by there are alot of pros with getting friends however everyones not perfect so there will be cons aswell
3. and you can find u have a hidden talent in football ect
4. and it is fun!!

email me bak on dayeshas@hotmail.com
hope it helped
tanya
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Q: i wash my face twice a day (once in the morning, once at night) but after i was my face it gets really shiny. and its really noticable (a few people have asked me why my face is so shiny...which is really embarrasing.)....is there any product that wont clog my pores but will make my face less shiny?

thanks.
heya have you tried any witch with hazel products there reali good i think you shoud try the witch stick or the daily cleansing lotion basicly the witch stick stops you from having spots, blemishes ect it also absorbs oil(thats probly why ur skin is shinny and it just keeps ur pores clear and healthy you can go to www.witchskincare.com

Q: how do i tell my boyfriend that i really like him and enjoy being with him but he can be a little to hyper? i know this is really shallow but it kinda annoys me! thanks again!
i think you should tell him up straight not 2 harsh cse then hed feel offended and not to polite then hed feel u want to break up with him and wateva you do dont say ' i like you but ....'
nd everything be fine
tanya xx

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tanya
heya guys,
my name iz tanya and this is gna be so cool.you can ask me anything you want feel free to email me if u have a prob. or anyfin and remember never say never.
tanya
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