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love...
okay theres this guy named ryan. i love ryan. ryan says he loves me.. but me nd him get inalot of fights.. not big ones though they last like 1 hour. soo today is my birthday.. me and him were gonna hang out and i walked really far to hang out with him and then he callz my cell and says he is hangin out with (people i hate) kansa and victorea... (there on drugs) i got mad.. very mad.. nd started to walk home.. then when i get home he callz my cell again and says wanna hang out.. and it was like 8 so i was like no and blah blah then i notice he was ingoreing me.. i got mad.. and i told my friends the story. he hurts me.ditchs me.. they think i should forget about him but idk what i should do i really love him.. i cry myself to sleep every night thinking about him.. every mintue of my class i cant stop thinking about him! should i leave him or no?
p.s me and him are not going out .. we love eachother though.
please help i rate high!
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I think its a brilliant idea, the two of you not going out, because choices of different friends can often lead to arguements. The two of you need to sit down (and i know this is undoutedly what everyone says) and have a civilised conversation about it! No arguements or rows! You dont have to tell him you hate his friends, you could put it a different way, for example, be slightly flirtly and suggest the two of you spend more time alone, he´ll probably warm to the idea! Trust me.
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You too are the average best friend couple. You don't get along and you have livs outside of each other and then when oyu realize how it hurts the other you make time for them. It's common among male/female relationships and I think you too should realize that you aren't together like that. Take some time off from being that close, and don't expect so much from each other, but alse he needs to know that he isn't being a good friend but rather a bad person by making you feel as though what he did wrong requires you to feel bad.
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i dont think it would be okay for you to go out with him again. he hangs out with the wrong people. itll be hard but you have to move on. you have time to fall in love all over again
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go out wiht him. dont ask me any questions just do it! ask him out! if he loves you then hell say yes go out with him!
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I think you know you should forget about him.
You already cry about him every night. He hurts you everytime he turns around, and hangs out with druggies. He will bring you nothing but heartache.
Find someone who puts you first for a change and it won't take long to put him behind you.:)
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You love each other but you're not going out? Im more confused than you are.
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Sweetheart..i really think that you should just not talk to him anymore. dont waste your time on someone that seems like he doesnt really care even tho he says that he "loves" you. I think that there is another great guy who deserves your time...or if you dont want a guy after that dope than just hang out with your friends.. your friends are great for trying to help you hold your head high, now im another one if you want me to be a friend. You kno what to do.. you dont want to love someone that is like him, just be friends with the guy. besides, were naive on love right now. HA!!
~Sammie~ ^_~
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How do you know you really love him? What has he done for you? What have you done for him? I'm just trying to help you put things in perspective. If he really loved you, why would he be hanging out with other girls on your birthday? Just because you think about a person a lot doesn't mean you really love them. Basically, you are lusting over him, which is totally normal for teenage girls. We all go through it, and very often mistake it for love. I agree with your friends, I think you should forget about him. There will be much better guys throughout your life. Guys that really do love you, who you really love in return. Don't ever get so obsessed with a guy that you lose yourself.
Good luck!
-Kigeto
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Hey there,
Sweety, you need to focus elsewhere. It's sounds to me your putting way to much energy in a guy whose not willing to respond in a way that you truly deserve.
Trust me ... let me tell you, I invested five years in my life in a guy (who by the way was name Ryan ... kind of a coincidence ... ha ha) who did nothing back. I will not get into details, but after five years he calls me while I'm away on vacation to tell me he's found another gal. I'd been feeling the need to break away from him for so long but honestly was scared ... It took him cheating on me to finaly get on with my life and do the things that I enjoy. We all connect with people that sometimes don't match our relationship style ... but the guy who you do connect with and that mathes your relationship style is out there trust me, it just seems to me this Ryan guy is not it. He's focused on others things ... perhaps you should as well.
Another thing you could try if you truly feel love for this guy, is to go about your business and let him contact you. Be true to yourself, do what you love and don't let your daily life be ran by another person. You run your own life ... just remember that! If he then trys to contact you ... you have some talking to do! I'll leave that part up to you two though ... :)
Good luck! Oh by the way Happy Birthday! Hope it was a great one!
Alyssa
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You should really just talk to him about it before making a drastic move. Tell him how much he hurt you and how much trouble you went through on your birthday to see him. These are things he needs to hear. And yes, that was very jerky but just talk it out with him. If you love him, then don't let him go to easily, and if you do make sure he knows why. Hope I helped and good luck.
~*~*~Ren~*~*~
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