Question Posted Wednesday December 29 2004, 3:16 pm
ok well I am kind of mad. I think my mom's b/f is just using her, And I am to scard to tell my mom. But when I do wont to tell my mom he is there. He is always over and he eats all of our food. But he never cleans up. My mom has not been dateing for a while because my dad went to jail. I dont know what to do.... PLEASE HELP
lilangl1113 answered Thursday December 30 2004, 1:28 am: Well from the sound of it it sounds like your mom has been in a hurtful reletionship already. When that happens it's kind of like drugs for some people. The emotional abuse becomes addicting and even thought they know its hurting them they don't want to stop. Talk to your mom about it. Let her know your concerned for her. How better do you think it's going to get if you don't confront her, even if your not ready for it, because your mom sounds like she's long over due for it. If she doesn't listen the best you can do is pray do is pray for her. God will work it out in his own little way, even if you don't believe what other answer is their? What do you have to lose? ~*AmAnDa*~ [ lilangl1113's advice column | Ask lilangl1113 A Question ]
frenchfriez22 answered Wednesday December 29 2004, 6:03 pm: You have to talk to your mom face to face. Sit down with her. Explain what you think is happening to her. If that doesn't work talk to a counsler or another adult that you trust. I am sorry about your dad being in jaiol. What did he do?-~laura~ [ frenchfriez22's advice column | Ask frenchfriez22 A Question ]
Siren_Cytherea answered Wednesday December 29 2004, 6:03 pm: Well, the way I see it, it's usually the mother that points out when she thinks her daughter's boyfriend is no good, but in this situation, I think you may have to be the mother to your mom. She's probably blinded to his apparently slobishness by her affection for him. That's part of why so many teenage relationships go bad, girls (or guys) are so blinded by their affection for their attachment that they'll overlook things like not returning phone calls, for example. I suggest, if you can't outright tell your mom, write her a note and leave it somewhere for her - or give it to her when he's not there. She's your mom, she should be able to listen to you. Point out that you love her and you just want her to be happy, but that her boyfriend is worrying you because of the way he acts (eating all your food, never cleaning up, etc.) If she knows it's bothering you, or even if she hears your point of view, she might take a look at the situation and be able to see the problem(s). Just talk to her. She's your mom and she cares about you, and your opinion. I hope this helps!
-Siren =) [ Siren_Cytherea's advice column | Ask Siren_Cytherea A Question ]
americangirl101 answered Wednesday December 29 2004, 5:35 pm: I dont like my moms B/F eather because my parents just got devorsed. and its been to years since they both dated now both my mom and dad are dating i think you should talk to a school theripist or what ever there called and you best friend before you go to bed tonight tell her mom i think _____ is just useing you and if you love me you will listen because i love you and i dont wont you to get hurt. Hope I helped. <3 American Girl [ americangirl101's advice column | Ask americangirl101 A Question ]
NEVERLETG00 answered Wednesday December 29 2004, 5:34 pm: your mom should listen to anything that you say, and if you dont like her bf she should respect that, just be honest with your mom, she cant do anything about it, and if she gets mad at you dont worry about it, because most likely your right about everything. your just looking out for your mom and tell her that. hope she listens x0 [ NEVERLETG00's advice column | Ask NEVERLETG00 A Question ]
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