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You said you were a virgin????
I was talkin to my boyfriend last night, and out of no where he said that he needed to tell me somthin in a real serious voice. I got kinda nervous since we've never realy been serious before, we're alwayse lauphing and having a good time. So he said- (remember when we first started talking and you asked me if i'm a virgin and i said yes.... well i'm not. I just said that because i didnt want it to be akward if i told you that soon. Then he said that everything else he has said to me has been true, and he felt bad that he hadnt told me before.) When he told me this i didnt know what to say.I feel really uncomfortable with it. I'm not going to do it with him, since i'm only 15 and i dont believe in that, but i dont want him to go off to some other girl when i say no. What should i do, because i really like this guy. He is one of the nicest people i have every met and i still really like him?!?!?!?!?! Please help
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Ok, he said this to you because he was worried that if you knew he wasn't a virgin then you would be worried about going out with him as he is more experienced than you. I was in exactly the same situation as you and I learnt that my boyfriend said this because he really liked me and said it so I wouldn't be put off. You should feel privelidged that he has told you and from the sound of things he was really nervous about telling you. He obviously cares for you a great deal and if he can admit that he lied to you then he will understand that you don't want to go further with him just yet.
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talk to him about it. if you feel uncomfortable tell him. you have to be honest. just try and get a little more information and see what happens. if it's to much for you...your gonna have to dump him.
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Well you have to think of it this way: He decided to be honest with you and come clean about what he did. If he really likes you (or loves you) then you should trust him enough that he won't go off and do that behind your back. The key to a good and strong relationship is communication. Tell him that you feel uncomfortable. What happened was in the past. It was probably before he met you and liked you so you really have nothing to do with it. Yes, it is good to know the experience that your significant other has in that area but what happened, happened and he nor you can take back what was said and done. Put it in the past and move on. If he cares about you just let him know that you're not ready to do that for a while and if he doesn't give a shit and wants some ass then drop that fucker like a rock! But he should understand and accept your beliefs and praise you for it. Talk to him! Talking is great!!! It really is, come clean with all of your worries and you'll feel so much better. I promise if you talk to him you'll be fine! Hope this helped.
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Well, in my opinion...he should've been honest with you in the first place. But, I can understand that he probably really likes you, and was MEGA nervous about telling you. Just be glad that he trusts you enough to tell you now. Better late than never I always say. As for going off and getting with another girl if you say no...If he is so nice then he wouldn't do that now would he??? You also need to know how many times he has had sex...after all, if you two stay together long enough to start thinking about sex, then you need to know how to be safe, and know your patners background. But, all in all, I'm sure that he meant well. You should probably tell him how you feel. Remember...TALKING IS A GOOD THING!!!
-Hope I Helped *Banna*
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don't let his past affect your future. he didn't want to hurt you, and he still doesn't. he just wants you to accept him. so accept him already. he's not pressuring you into anything, at least not that you mentioned, so let it go.
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Just tell him that you don't want to advance to that level. I doubt he'll go running off to another girl because it sounds like he really likes you and he doesnt sound like he's only w/ you for sex. He likes you for you not for a piece of bum!
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If he loves you back he won't go to another girl and if you have been together for 2 months don't worry he won't i am a guy i know this don't worry if you want to talk about this futher IM me on AIM at AKASexyplaya. Thanx good question. Bye
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When my x told me he wasn't a virgin I felt REALLY uncomfortable with it. I'm 15, and I said "well who cares I'll never do it", and he said he wouldn't pressure me or anything. And well I lost my virginity to him. Most guys once they get it their most likely going to want it agian...but not all guys. If you know your morals deep down are true and that you won't give it up to him...but if your even a little bit scared of what might happen....end it now b/c you'll regret it just like I do now, good luck~
-hope I helped
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it shouldnt bother you at all..it happend before yall were together he felt it was right then..it is his business and all!
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He may never even ask you, or he might. You need to talk to him about it, because he may have made a mistake once, or maybe it wasn't really a mistake, just something that he did. It doesn't mean that he is going to pressure you for sex or get rid of you if you say no to him. It just means he's had sex before and he has been feeling guilty for having lied to you.
Talk to him. Ask him what the situation was, if he thought he loved the girl, if he wants to take those kind of risks again anytime soon. If he tells you he expects to have sex with you after a certain amount of time (because hey some people think that way) then just tell him no. If he isn't okay with it, that's too bad for him. No guy that is actually good for you or worth your time will dump you for someone else who is willing to have sex with them.
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Have you talked to him about it? Since he feels bad for lying to you about it, he may be okay with not wanting to have sex yet with you until you are ready. If he hasn't asked you yet or hasn't made any moves letting you know he wants to, then maybe he just wanted to tell you so that he wouldn't feel guilty with it anymore. i really think you should tell him how you feel. And maybe he won't leave you for another girl. Try talkin to him though. it may help greatly.
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1st not all boys are the1st time i asked mine if he was he said "hell no what you think i 11 or somthig" we ben going out for6 mon and i fine with that just think that may be it was an acedint that he wasnt thinking and make shour you tell him your not reddy for that yet
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you reacted like anyone in your situation would of acted. but you shouldn't feel uncomfortable unless he is pressuring you to have sex with him. when he starts pressuring you that is when you should feel uncomfortable. he was just telling you that he wasn't a virgin because honesty is the best policy in a relationship. i mean i have been in a relationship where a guy would pressure me to do certain things and i wouldn't because i didn't want to ruin my reputation by being known as easy. jsut remember our dignity is alot more important than your relationship. and if you feel uncomfortable just let him know that you are a virgin and you owuld like to stay that way for awhile. no one is mature enough at 15 truly to have sex. we don't get our sexdrive until out 20's just let him know that. we aren't like guys.... walking hormones!
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aright.. if this guy was a good boyfriend, he wouldn't leave you bc u don't want to have sex. my boyfriend was like that at first too. and i'm like you.. 15 and a virgin (and proud).. just tell him that you're not comfortable with that yet, and your afraid of the consequences that you'll get from having sex.. just talk to him seriously like he did for you. hope that helped :o)
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If he ever asks you to have sex with him, dont do it if you dont want to. Sex is special, and your first time should be with someone special. You should NOT do it with him just because your afraid of him leaving you. If he does leave you for that reason, then he was not good for you anyways.
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stay with him. just because he told you doesnt mean he wants you to. and he should know you dont want to.
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