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Getting along with My Ex Boyfriend....
Okay I am crying as I write this but I am a Advicenator and I need advice...
My Ex Boyfriend Sam and I went out for 9 months and the relationship went fine and the break up was mutual but lately all we seem to do is fight and the fights are usuaally his doing...weather he talks about his new intrest (I know she is not his girlfriend because I have friends that know more than Sam does) or talk about things that he KNOWS that will upset me and provoke me to hang up on him or cry. Please help me to get to have a better friendship with him and I still like him like I did when we went out.
Age: 21
Gender: Female
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why does it still make you cry if the breakup was mutual? sounds to me like you still have feeligns for him maybe thats what you should talk about. or just talk to him about your love intrsts but the fact that hes talking to you about it means hes fine with being your friend after a breakup, which is rare.
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you broke..up..it was mutual..why do you still fight...
you only fight with people you care about..so what is the real issue..He wants to hurt you and make you upset..if you are all WIGGEd out..then he can feel good.
I would totally limit my seeing him at all.
if this hurts..makes you mad..and upset you..why are you seeing him??
You may not be able to be friends...seesm to me he has issue HE needs to work out...
so is he WORTH the hurt?
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It sounds like he still likes you and is trying to make you jealous. It's either that or he's just a jerk. Dont let him get to you, it's prolly all an act to make you break down. just be strong. Hope i helped!
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just ask him why he does it and then tell him THAT YOU DON"T LIKE IT and you don't think that he should do that
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you need to talk everything out with him. tell him how you feel, and ask him to tell you how he feels. then, maybe you guys could go from there. and if he's just going to make you cry, forget the loser. no girl needs that kind of pain.
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Well from personal experiences I think you should keep trying. Try not to dwell on the things he does, he might be doing htem just to make you mad. Plus maybe he still has feelings for you. Maybe you and some of your friends should just go out and have a good time to get your mind off of things. You should also sit down and have a face to face talk with him, and if by chance you start crying in front of him don't sweat it b/c then he'll know how much you really care.
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If Sam is around your same age, he has a lot of growing up to do. I'm only 19, but I can tell from your description of him that he's WAY too immature for his age. He's acting like a 15 year old boy, which is so not fair to you. I know how hard it can be to try and be friends with an ex, and from my experiences it usually doens't work out, but it is possible. I think Sam is feeling hurt probably the same amount that you are, just from breaking up-as it's hard to do. But guys often have a really hard time expressing that. So he's probably taking his anger out on you, and maybe he thinks that if he gets you mad enough, you'll start to hate him, and that'll make it easier for him to get over you. But I could be completly wrong, because I don't know him-but that's what I would guess. As for getting a better friendship with him, I would give him a little space for some time-maybe like a week or so, and only talk to him occasionally-like if he calls you, only talk for 5 minutes-tell him you're late for an appointment or something. Keep it short and sweet. If things get better with him, then maybe that's all he needed-time to cool down. If not, then you need to talk to him. Tell him what's bothering you, and figure out why he's acting the way he is. Hopefully that'll work things out, but if not, then I'm running low on ideas. Let me know how things go, and maybe I will have thought of something else. good luck!!!
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talk to him and explain it to him
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