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A friend needs help
My friend's dad smokes. She is afraid he will die! She says that he has been coughing really bad latly. She says he is trying to stop smoking, but not really suceeding. She says that he is the one who brings all the money to the family, and shes just very afraid. She is afraid he will die from cancer or something. So basically, i need some advice in helping her through these hard times, and maybe if theres a good way to help her dad smoking. Thank you!
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I have been through this same situation. My dad also smokes and has difficulty quitting. You jsut need to stick with her through this and ask her if there is anything you can do to make her feel better. Also tell her to talk to her dad about this, tell her to tell her dad that it is scaring her and that she just wants him to be alright because she loves him. Just tell her that you will be with her this whole time and that she can count on you. It seems as though she needs a friend right now
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Daddies always fall for the "I want you to be there to walk me down the aisle at my wedding" line. Quivery lip, watery puppy-dog eyes, and you've got him. Also, I know quite a few people who found acupuncture has helped them stop smoking when everything else failed.
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Suggest a hypnotist. IT works.
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my mom and granmma smoke, and it worries me alot, especially since my grandpa died when i was younger from smoking. tell your friend, to look up some statistics of some harsh facts, about the effects, deaths, and problems caused by smoking and to tell her father about them. or ask him bothering ?'s like "what would our family do without you? and so on.." but make she she makes it clear that shes only doing it b/c shes worried, and doesnt want anything to happen to him. i would deff suggest to your friend, to encourage her dad to not smoke anytime shes around him, and ask him to see a doctor about his coughing, and if the cough is smoking related, try and see if the doctor can do nething to deprive his nicotene cravings. ((my english teacher went to a hypnotist, and she hasnt been smoking since... so who knows)) i hope i helped!! tell ur friend, that no matter what YOU are there for her, and remind her... its nice to know you have sum1 who understands and cares. ur a good friend. best of luck * brittany *
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My grandpap smoked all the time. He died about 2 years from lung cancer. Your friend should tell her dad that if he keeps smoking that he can and probably will kill himself. If he doesnt care then say," Don't you care about your family? Don't you want to be around for them. You dont want to end up killing yourself." If he keeps coughing then you should tell her that he might need to see a doctor. It might be nothing but its better to be safe than sorry. I hope I helped!
~***HannaH***~
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I think that first she should have a talk with her dad so that way he will know how his daughter feels about him smoking and while she is talking to him she should bring up that she really cares about him and doesn't want him to end up getting cancer or something like that cause she would like it if he was around for along time.
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well has your friend tried talking directly to their father..if not try that first...if she has and he hasnt done anything i hope he realizes he is also putting his family at risk from second hand smoke and he should know that beig an adult. if she has talked to him then she should try what i did..whether they getr mad or not take their cigarettes..DONT SMOKE THEM..but tear them up or hide them...if they get mad let them know its for their own good.its all for her familys safety..hope i helped in some way..and her dad should really see a doctor about his coughing and make sure he doesnt have cancer already.
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mabye he should go to a doctor
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I think you shuold try your best to be the best friend you can be. Try hard to keep her calm, make her smile lots and lots, and let her know how much you care. My advise for your friend. If her dad is tyring, then she should encourage him and thank him for trying as much as she can. If her dad knew how worried she is about him, then he will be more motivated to quit.
Lots of Luck,
Ann
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First off, unless he has actually been diagnose with cancer, his coughing could be anything from a general lower-respiratory infection to allergies to asthma to emphysema. She can't read too much into it, that's just being paranoid.<br>
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What she can do is this: offer lots of emotional support to her dad, harass him when she catches him smoking, and make a big deal about him stepping up his efforts to quit. Her father must be committed to quitting, not just making a half-assed effort into it. And she does have the ability to apply pressure. She needs to voice her concerns to her father - if she doesn't, how will he ever know how she feels about the situation? She needs to be vocal and active. She needs to keep her dad motivated and committed to quitting, too. Many people really cannot quit smoking by themselves - it really is hard to do.<br>
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As an aside, he might look into taking niacin vitamin supplements (niacin and nicotine bascically become the same chemical in the body after metabolism... interesting stuff, there...). He might also consider walking about with a pen in his mouth as a way to get over the physical habit of have the oral fixation of the cigarette in his lips (yes, this is a real thing). I know a few ex-smokers who say very good things about the patch methods for quitting. I've not heard much good about the nicotine-containing gum, though.
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