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friend and guy problem
okay heres my story! me n my friend went to the beach together n i took her there for her birthday! and we met this guy who we both thought was hott there..i talked to him first cause she was too scared! and he is realli intrested in me and i'm into him too! but i don't wanna hurt my friend! and i feel bad now cause i told her i would take her to the mall when me n him went but i didn't..we went last night but she doesn't know we went cause i know shes gonna get mad! i don't know what to do cause i realli like him! and i've had rough relationships in the past and he feels right for me! and i don't think talkin is gonna do much good with her feelings so instead of talkin to her what else can i do?! i feel kinda bad..but i realli truely like hiM! he's a sweetie!
ugh! help me please! i'll rate high!
Ps:she is just a friend..not a best friend
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okay..well most people wil tel you to "be a good friend and dont go out with him" honestly...how many people do that? like none! so im gonna give it to you str8...i went out with a kid that my friend liked and she was mad for about a day and then she got over it. if shes a good friend she will forgive and forget! people get in fites and people make mistakes but ur friend needs to realize that you need somebody there for you rite now and that you mite not get another chance to be with him! so go for it and i hope it lasts!
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Good Luck! I hope i helped!
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..*Emily Lynne [x o]
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well i say just go for him! i mean you were the one who talked to him first. that's her fault for being to scared. also, it's not like she had her eye on him first, you BOTH thought he was hott at the same time. now don't ditch your friend when you ask her to go do something w/you and your new guyfriend. but be honest with her about everything n maybe tell her something like "omg i really really like him!" if she gets mad then tough with her. you were brave enough to make the first move so why should that bother her?
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Dear "Friend and guy problem,"
Congratulations on finding a guy you're really into. About your friend...you're going to have to tell her sooner or later. I do think you should definately keep things going with this guy you met. To break it to her you should ask her if she still likes him. If she says no then tell her straight foward what's going on between the two of you. But you have to tell her even if she says yes. Remember the longer you hide this from her the more it's going to hurt her.
Good Luck :)
**Latina Gurl**
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WELL. before i read the friend not a best friend i was gonna tell you ho's before bro's. but now that ive seen that, i think you should keep spending time with the guy and if she doesnt say anything, run with it! hope i helped!
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Once again ((i really stress the honest issue)) anyways..be honest with her, tell her that you really like this guy that you two met..and you feel you have a connection with him. Dont tell her about the mall just yet, tell her that your really into him and hes into you. Just be nice about it..dont be all bitchy and "im better then you" attitude..cuz that will just cause problems. Tell her that you really like him and want to hang out with him alot more, maybe start a relationship. (Let me know what happens!)
x0x-dani
((plz rate! n maybe drop ah line!))
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If u really like the guy then u should tell ur friend straight up.I kno this might seem mean to say but, if she was really ur tru friend she would want anything to make u happy and she wouldn't get so mad. So tell her how u feel about the guy and u would also want the best for her.
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well i think that you should talk to her... just let her know why you didnt take her. Boyfriends will come and go but a true friend will be there for you until the end. dont let a guy come between you and your friends, its not worth all the trouble and aggrivation you will have to go to. i wouldnt suggest any other way to tell her you went ot together with out her. just talk to her and be honest with her. hope this helps and good luck.
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i can see that you really care about this girl as your friend and well you consider her feelings but you have your own feelings to and if you talked to her about it chances are she might not get mad and tell you to go for it but you and a friend should never fight over a boy but if she doesnt like that fact that you went out to the mall with him and she gets all mad then truely hunnie she was never a friend to begin with. so i say have fun and see how things flow with this man and hopefully you and your friend will be able to work out your problems! hope i've helped!
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hey! well if you find that hes the guy you have been looking for then i say go for it! yeaa u dont wanna hurt ur "friends" feelings u just have to tlk to her and c if its ok .. well actually shes rele not the boss of you soo u should b able to make ur own decisions and if she dosnt like it then oh well for her .. hope i helped!
x33`serena
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Um, yeah, if I were your friend // "friend", I'd be mighty pissed right now. I mean, granted you DID talk to him first, but then you just ditched her? She's going to get hurt no matter what you do. Anyways, do whatever you want -- it doesn't sound like this friendship means a whole lot to you anyways. =/
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Too bad for her, you got him before she did. It's not like she knew him for a long time and liked him, you guys saw him once. You can't help who you like, and your not suppose to. Don't feel bad, she's the one that didn't go up and talk to him. She is also JUST a friend.
-xXoBrianna
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Well, if one of my friends did what you did I'd be pretty pissed. And if they refused to talk to me about it, I'd be even more pissed. And if they bragged about what a sweet, great person they were dating was when they knew I liked the same person, I'd be extremely pissed. And if they made a special note saying that I'm just a friend, I might not even want to be friends anymore.
Well, since you don't want to talk to her after doing this, I wouldn't bother ever calling or talking to her again. I doubt, since you two weren't very close, she values your friendship anymore.
Hey! You said you'd rate high! I demand a high rating, I need to be the top advicenator there is or I'll just die.
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