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what to do?
ima 14/f, this guy *Nathan i liked smokes weed.. he didnt really notice me, so i started smokin weed with all the people he hung around with. Now, im kinda like addicted to weed. I got Nathan, and im in love with him... but he wants to have sex, im scared that if i dont he'll break up with me. but i can't tell my dad any of this, so he can help me cuz he would like flip out on me. what should i doo, please im really scared, and i really wanna stop smokin and go back to the old me, but than nathan wont like me!! just please someone help me!!
signed, scared n wants to stop!
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well first of all you shouldnt change to impress someone cuz then they dont know who you really are. and second of all you should tell ur dad cuz you got urself into that mess. tell nate the you dont wanna have sex and that if he breaks up with you than he really didnt like you. if you tell ur dad he can get you help but ull be punished but atleast u wont be punished for somehtings stupid.....i hope i helped...in the end ill know u will make the right decision.
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Hunny, I know a lot of people are gonna say this to you, and this is the answer you probably expected, but you don't need to please any guy by doing something you don't wanna do. If he doesn't like you for quitting weed and staying abstinent, then he probably doesn't like you at all! You need someone who will respect YOU for YOU. You can quit weed, and if he has a problem with it, well, do you really want to keep a relationship with a guy just to please him? If you want to stop smoking, don't let some guy who doesn't respect you get in your way. He should have no control over you.
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if you stop(wich will be good for you) and if he dosent like you, then hes not the right one.
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holy crap!!! break up with that shit !! hes so not worth your time. be your own person .
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no one should change for the worse for the one that they love. if he wants to have sex...tell him no. he's taking advantage of you and that's not right. stop smoking the weed and get back to the life that you had. forget him. you may love him but if he truly loves you back he wouldn't force you into this. changing to get a guy is not worth it. you'll regret it in the long run.
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Who caRes what Nathan will like!! FoRget about Nathan.. he's obviously no good!! That's youR fiRst step : OpeRation Ditch Nathan. Then do youR best to quit smoking, and step by step take youR life back to "noRmal". Don't woRRie about what someone else may do/say/think - to hell with 'em!! You need to do what's best foR YOU!! I wish you the veRy best of luck!! Hope I helped!! =D
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Well he should like u for who u r not becuz u smoke weed smokin weed iz so bad u are prolly a very intelligent girl who by smokin weed iz killin her brain cells i mean maybe like if u were olda n did it once in a while it would be ok but u really shouldnt be doin that at your age becuz im 13 gunna be 14 and my one of my bf's friends duz and i talked to him bout it but he juss dint listen but im tellin u if u stop and then he dont like u n e more then he iz not good enough for u he should like u for who u r not wat u smoke u kno wat im sayin hun so juss do wat u feel iz the right thing to do!!! Hope my advice helpes u out if u have n e more questions juss drop 1 in my inbox k!!
Caitlin* <3
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Well the first thing is to stop smoking and if you really love this Nathan of yours, would you want to be with him forever? If you do you can always stop and try to get him to stop along with you you can persuade him that there is a better life out there other than smoking weed your whole life, instead of just stop smoking and just get away from him you can stop smoking and try to get him to stop too. That way since you love him you can also try to change what he is to something better to where you both can live on in happiness. If he doesnt want to quit then just tell him that you've stopped and see what he says. If he says ok then your good and dont have to smoke weed anymore. But if he says that he wants to get away from you and just doesnt care about you then you will know that he doesnt truely love you and it will make it easier on you and not break up your heart as bad since you will know sooner than later. For the sex part i dont know if your truely ready for it then go ahead but you got to consider the protection and also if you really do love him and if you really do want to have sex with him. If you think hes with you cause he just wants to have sex then i wouldnt consider it. I think what i would do is say no and that you need time and see what he says. I think that your own judgement will come when he answers. He answers no ditch him cause he just wants you for sex he says ok in a good manor and all good stuff then maybe hes good and maybe he does love ya. Well i hope i helped
~Dom
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STOP SMOKING WEED, hes just a guy who wants to do u. once he gets that i wouldnt be suprised if he dumps u or just doesnt pay attention. what happens if ur dad ever catches u?
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the guy isnt worth it just stop smoking.. if you cant u either need to talk to a guidance counselor or your parents... they will help even though u may get grounded it will be worth it would you rather die or be grounded? your choice!
xox-christie
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STOP SMOKING!!!! NO guy is worth risking all of that! If you dont want to do it, then tell him you dont! And quit hanging out with all those people that smoke weed. If Nathan REALLY cares about you, then it wont make a difference if you smoke weed or not, or if you want to wait a while for sex. And if you still cant stop smoking weed then your going to need to get some professional help...
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deffintly quit smoking. you should NEVER have to change who u are for ANYONE, no matter how much you like the guy. dump the kid..and the weed. he shouldnt be pressuring you either, more reasons to kick him to the curb.
x00o gina
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hey scared and wants to stop,
if *nathan really likes you, then it shouldnt matter if you smoke or not, as for having sex, dont do it just so he wont break up with you, don't feel like you cant talk to your parents about it because they can make you listen better than anyone on this site, but I know exactly where you're coming from, talk to nathan and be like "what would you do if i stopped smoking?" and if he says that he would break up with you, then hes not a good boyfriend in the first place, but if he really does like you for more than smoking and sex, then he should care about your feelings and you should be able to talk to him about this, as for smoking, you really should stop because it is bad, I know its hard, but things could get worse if you dont stop soon, your young and should spend your time doing other things, i really hope this helps and good luck, IM me if you really want to talk, sillyangel869
`-Angel
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