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17 yr old grl and a 18 yr old guy. is it that bad?
okay, i am a 17 yr old girl, and the guy i am crazy for is 18, only like 3 or 4 months over tho, and my mom is freaking out over it! she's like, "if you guyz do anything, i will get him for rape" im in a tough situation and i dont really know what to do. i went to my friend and she said "follow your heart" how typical... ;D (luv ya tho sis!!!! if ya see this here! lol) ...anyways. i dont know what to do because i simply adore him, and my mom is okay with us hanging out and holdign ahnds and stuff, but i dont know about dating. help me!!!! cuz i dont wanna lose him (not that i am gonna do anyhting sexual with him anywayz! ) and i dont wanna dissapoint my mom... so either way some oen gets let down, and i really dont know what to do!
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okai well tell your mom u cant help who you love and its jusz how you feel about them and u cant change that nd its onlii 1 year nd wais..nd tell her how u adore him nd u dont wanna loose him nd stuff im shure she`ll understand good luck
xoxo Jessi xoxo
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Just sit down and talk to your mom about it and maybe have him over for dinner and talk. Or even go somewhere just the three of you and see how your mom feels about him then
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its only 3 or 4 months. As long as you care about him n love him then nothing else should matter. Your mom needs to realize you care for him and that shes lucky your 17...some girls who like 18 year old girls are like 14-15..so yeah. As long as your happy then she should just be happy for you. hOPE eVERytHiNG wORkS oUt! -aMaNdA<3*
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i think that you mom is over-reacting cuase i mean im 17 and my bf is 18 and everything its not like your too far behind him and all but i think that you mom needs to take a chill pill i mean alls you can do is show your mom that hes not a bad guy or nething good luck
-Cass-
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To me, it sounds like your mother is just not prepared for you to be dating. It's convinient for her that your guy of choice is over 18, because it allows her to feel like she still has some control over you.
You need to have an honest talk with your mother - tell her that you are disappointed she doesn't trust you. Explain that you don't want to have sex with him, but that you will have sex and a boyfriend one day, and she can't hold you back. You've got to let your actions speak loudly - let her know what you know about safe sex, etc - and just act in a generally responsible way.
You two need to sort this out now, because when YOU are 18 your mom won't legally be able to stop you from dating anyone. It's better to talk things out than have a huge fight - right now she's forcing you to pick between her and yourself; in an ideal relationship, you could have both.
Let her know she's important to you, but that you are growing up and deserve some independence.
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If ur 17 and he's 18 then theres like no problem, ur almost an adualt and if he was 17 and you were 16...that would of been the same thing. Maybe be friends until ur 18th birthday and then go further in ur relationship? <333
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The answer to this question is simple. Go out with him,but don't do anything sexual with him. Ask your mom why she feels she can't trust you. Make sure your mom isn't going to be disappointed in you by not doing anything with this guy. Your mom won't be let down because she sounds like the kind of woman who'll be disappointed no matter what guy you pick. Don't worry about her.
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no its not bad,
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NO ITS NOT BAD. Go for him. I really dont think he could get in trouble. As long as you guys dont have sex than you have nothing to worry about. I am 17 and i was dating an 18 yr old guy that is only older than me by a few months. Its a stupid law..but i dont think it would apply as much to you since your ages are so close. Its not like you are 14 dating an 18 year old.
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I suggest you get your mom to talk to your guy and find out for herself what a great guy he is. Explain to her, also, that you're not looing for sex; you just wanna go out with him a few times, maybe hang around him a little more, etc.
Your mom shouldn't be assuming that the relationship will immediately turn into a sex scandal, lol.
So my advice is this: Get your guy to come over to your house, and have him and your mom sit down and talk for awhile, just getting to know each other, etc.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)
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The law actually allows 18 year olds to have sex with 17 year olds...just so you know...it's legal if it's only at the most a year apart...so your mom can't "get him for rape". So this thing here is completely legal. I know what i'm talking about cuz my brother a while ago when he was 18, went out with a girl who was 17, and her parents got really pissed and tried to get my brother arrested, but it didn't work cuz it's legal for 18 year olds to have sex with 17 year olds. So if you really like the guy...go for it! And have fun! I SALUTE YOU! hahaha...
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well tell your mom you like him and your not looking for sex your looking for a boyfriend and that you wouldnt have sex with him..? lol just tell her that you really like him and maybe she will understand! =)
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