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am i obsessed?

Question Posted Tuesday August 10 2004, 7:57 pm

i have fallen in love with my best guy friend, and i told him that i love him he said that he loves me back, but says that i just cant be. we hug, kiss and are all over eachother, but we're not dating, and everytime i bring it up to him he just says " it just cant be right now". i feel hurt but yet i cant stop thinking of him. what should i do? am i obsessed? ( i am 13/female )

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xO_sTePhIe_Ox answered Wednesday August 11 2004, 5:39 pm:
Hello =) It seems a bit odd that he kisses you and is all over you, and yet he doesn't want to be your gilfriend. YOu should talk to him and ask him why he kisses you, but then he wont be your girlfriend? I don't think he is using you becuase if he is your best guy friend (and I'm assuming you've been friends for a while) If you need anything, drop one in the inbox <3 Steph

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lilmsattitude answered Wednesday August 11 2004, 12:47 am:
Stop with the touchy-feely stuff, and hang with your girlfriends some more. Get to know yourself and do things for you. If he really loves you back, he'll come around, eventually. It may take a while, so enjoy yourself for now.

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Lena answered Wednesday August 11 2004, 12:11 am:
naw your not obsessed your just in love.. dont go out wit him.. it could hurt your relationship (being best friends and all).. it hurt mine wit one of the guys.. maybe thats how he feels? just be friends wit bennifits ;) that always works!!

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puppy_x3_love answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 11:27 pm:
you probably are obsessed, but its ok. And maybe he doesn't wanna you two to be together because it might change the strong bond you guys have as friends. Time will tell whether you should be together or not. If he's not ready to be with you, you shouldn't push him. That'll only make him back out more.

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xo_piink_fliirt_ox answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 11:21 pm:
you gotta just respect his feelings too right now. you might be ready but he's not. just give him some time. when he see's that you are respecting his space, he might feel more comfortable around you.

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a_unit answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 10:51 pm:
your head over heels girly.but its okay your only 13 and this wont be the first time just have fun being with him but dont take things to far and dont be upset when he just wants to be friends . sometimes guys have funny ways of doing stuff.. he either likes you and theres something stopping him or he likes to fool around..<3 a.n.z

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Sweetie2oo4 answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 10:47 pm:
i wouldn't say obsessed...i'd just say inlove..the only thing you really can do is talk to him, find out WHY it can't be right now..
maybe he's just scared that it could ruin your friendship..iduno talk to him..that's what i would do..hope that helps..goodluck sweetie..

plz rate--if u need anything im here 4 u!!=)

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bRuNeTtExdUdEtTe answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 10:42 pm:
ask him why cant it "just not be right now" because i mean you already act like you`re going out, and ask him when is it gonna be able to be that time. and tell him you just dont like him leading you on like that

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HAYBABY104 answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 10:34 pm:
no you are not obsessed.. ask him whats goin on and why he wants to be all over you but just be your friend.. is he using you to do stuff? find out! and if he doesnt wanna go out with you.. move on .find another guy that you can be all over and be goin out with him!

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TucanFullOfHoles answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 10:22 pm:
no your not obsessed.

ask him whats up! like why is he not wanting to be your bf. like if he's going to be all over you like that, he should want to be your bf, and not just a friend with perks.

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texangirl01 answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 10:19 pm:
well first find out why "it cant be" right now. and see if you could change the way he feels. and tell him how you really feel about him. and if he still doesnt want a relationship right now then there isnt really a whole lot you can do no matter how much you love and adore him!!!

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o0psychicwish0o answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 10:16 pm:
You should find out why "it just cant be". It sounds like hes hiding something or using you. You should do some dirty work to find out or just ask him why it cant be.

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XBarbieGurl2008X answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 10:13 pm:
You're not OBSESSED..But you do seem to like him a lot. You should just wait untill he's ready to have a relationship. But keep talking to him and stuff and then maybe you guys can go out..Good luck :)

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SNAKE answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 10:11 pm:
just give him som time u no maybe he's not ready 4 ne commitment

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xaDvIcERsAiRx answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 10:10 pm:
If you really like him, then there's nothing wrong with <being] obsessed; maybe there's something going on in his personal life right now, like his parents are getting divorced; etc. if your sure its nothing <serious], just ask him what's wrong, and why not. what's the worst that'll happen?

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Untouched1 answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 10:03 pm:
i think that you just need to talk to him and everything i mean he has to understand the way your feelings are becomeing and all i mean he cant say that he doesnt want what you want when you kiss and everything like that i mean you dont just kiss some one to kiss them you have to kiss them for a reason and maybe hes just afraid that he will lose his bestfriend by becoming more then just friends

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Holly_226 answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 10:00 pm:
Try to be open with him. Ask him why. If he doesnt give you an answer then wait alittle longer. Please Send Me Something in my ibox to tell me how it works out or if you have any more questions about anything. ( i'm 14/f)

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