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Hello. My name's Amanda and I'm 15 and from New York. I've loved the spotlight since I was a very little girl and I can't think of a time when I wasn't entertaining someone. My main interests are dancing and acting but I also do a lot of singing and modeling too. I remember being a little girl and singing and dancing around the house and I'm always getting complimented on my acting and modeling skills, haha. Of course I don't want to sound like I'm bragging but it's just the truth and I want you to know the truth before you go and give me advice. Anyways, I've been taking dance classes since I was about 5 or so and when I was in 3rd grade I started singing in a children's choir along with getting vocal training. I sung in the choir untill I was 13 and now I've moved on to other things. I'm searching for an agent right now and I've begun taking acting classes. The reason I'm writing here is because I need advice on my parents. They don't seem to support me as much as they used to. I mean, they're awesome parents but they think I should be more focused on becoming a lawyer or doctor(which I have no interest in) then becoming an entertainer or someone in the entertainment industry. I don't understand why they're acting so cold lately towards my dreams. I know that it takes a lot of work to become something but I'm willing to work hard for it and I just wished they had my back. Also, my friends seem to think that my vocal and acting training and stuff is silly and they don't see why I go on auditions and stuff. It really hurts when they mock me for what I do...I know they don't mean to hurt me but I don't like it at all. Most of my friends are really big jocks and so am I but I'm a very verstile(sp?) person and I like other things too and they can't seem to understand that. Anyone have any advice? I'd love someone to talk with about this! Thanks for reading, Amanda
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Parents are sometimes hard to convince. They only want what is best for you. The last time my dad complained about my dream/career, I told him to buy me a theatre. This shut him up for a while. He still doesn't think I have a "real" job. Sometimes the most sastifying thing is going to work and doing what you wanted since high school.
Things will eventually fall into place if you have the drive. Have you taken any of your friends with you to an audition? People tend to make fun of things they don't understand. They could possibly be jealous. Don't worry about them. Worry about yourself and the things you need for the future.
Also remember, the more skills you have the more choices you have when it comes to getting a job or having a career. One of my hobbies has also become a small but steady source of income that I did not expect. This is crunch time for getting all of the grades, opportunites, and scholarships you need to go forward in whatever field you choose. Make all the new friends in your businees you can, and try not to burn any bridges because the back you step on today may be the hand you need later.
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wow..you sound..exactly like me. i sing, dance, and act.. mostly singing tho. i no EXACTLY what you are talking about!!! and right, it does take a lot of work, but.. my parents are the same way about it.. maybe its not that they dont support you, they just think that you should have a backup..thats what my parents are like. cuz im mean..think about it: not everyone can just walk right up on stage and become jessica simpson. and if your like me.. and like it says in your question..if your wiling to work hard and really stick to it, you should do fine. but like i said..not everyone who has amazing talent gets somewhere with it... so keep on trying, reach for the stars..but also and ALWAYS have a backup job. i really hope the best for you.. please e-mail me back telling me how/if i helped you.. xolepetitox@aol.com thank you so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Gril follow your dreams not what your paretns want you to do...see i'm a singer and i 've been singing since i was born and i am gonna follow my dreams..just go with your heart and make it big where you feel that you want to do in your life...good luck :)
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its your future not your parents..talk to you parents and just tell them they have to get over it and that you dont wanna be a doctor or lawyer..you are the only one that can decide what you wanna do not your parents..good luck with everything and follow what you wanna do not what your parents want you to do
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Well one, it's awesome that you're willing to work for your dream, don't give up. As for your parents, when they come up with something like that you simply should tell them that you don't want to live out their dream, you want one of your own, and being in the spotlight is it. Same with your friends, if they don't agree with your choice then you should just tell them they need to be a little more understanding and you want their support more than anything. You're always going to have people who try to let you down cause they don't think you can make it, your best solution- prove them wrong. Don't let anyone get in the way of doing what you love. I wish you the best of luck, and hope you can make it to the top, don't let anyone stop you.
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Hey Amanda! Congratulations from me for pursuing what you truly enjoy and working at it! My intrests are also in the arts, and im working towards finding a career with that, one i enjoy and have fun with and pays the bills... Right now i spend alot of time at a job that really isnt me, so i can live and save money to afford school for what i love. Im saying this so you know i understand what you do but also because this is probably where your parents are coming from... Making something in the arts what you do in life can be harder than being a doctor or lawyer as far as finding work, and they're probably concerned about that... They want to see you happy but also want to know you will live comforatably and not go through hard times.
That is one thing to consider - Iv learned through hard times its sometimes neccesary to sacrifice what i really love or enjoy now, to set myself up so i can do exactly what i want later. I'm not saying AT ALL to give up on what your'e doing - there's no better path in life to be on other than the one you LIKE being on, making yourself happy and in turn others, but i am saying balance is always neccesary. Im 21/female and have found this to be true through experience, and noone else, like my parents telling me what i should do, was able to show me.
My dad still pushes an ultra-conservative career on me, but we've reached an understanding that im just not going to be a lawyer or doctor, but i am looking ahead and balancing what i want with the things i need. Im still figuring it all out but im also having fun doing it! As far as your friends just make fun back, or let them know it really does bug you and theyll probably listen if they know you mean it. Neways i dont know if any of that helped but i hope it did - life can be complicated but its worth it when you find what you like and follow it (:
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hey...
i`m kinda in the same situation.. as fOr yOur parents, tell them that they shOuld suppOrt yOur dreams because it dOesnt help if they disagree with whatever yOu do, they need to get over the fact that yOur NOT qOinq tO be a dOctor or a lawyer and they need to realize that there daughter has dreams of her own that she wants to pursue and tell them yOu need encOuraqment frOm them and stuff, anyways.. as fOr yOur friends, tell them sOmethin Of tha same sOrt, cuz they shOuld suppOrt yOu tOo brinq up that yOu dOnt make fun of there spOrts and stuff because yOu support what they do, now yOu want them to be friends in return and suppOrt yOu, because if yOu dOnt have suppOrt frOm yOur friends and family, its hard to qet anywhere, i hOpe i helped, if yOu wanna tawk on AIM sillyangel869...
Love,
Angel
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