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Moving?
Hello. I'm Angie. For a few months now, I've been trying to decide whether or not I want to move with my father. I obviously live with my mom, then. And I've finally came down to my decision and I do in fact want to live with him. My mommy has known for awhile now that I've been thinking of moving with him... she doesn't mind it. My dad knows I've been wanting to too and he doesn't mind it one bit, so I'm finally going to talk to him about moving in this weekend when I visit him, but I don't know how to break it to my mom that I want to move with him.... What should I say?
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Hey Angie...I know exactly what it feels like to be in the position you are in...my parents spilt up when I was 2 yrs old n me n my mom have never really got along but I have lived w/ her all my life..about 2 yrs ago things really started getting rough between my mom and I and whenever we fought I always told her I was going to run away to live w/ my dad...she never believed me...one day I decided to sit her down and tell her I wanted to go live with my dad just to try new things...I wanted to give us some time apart so we could get along better when we were together n that I loved her...it was still hard for her but she completely understood me. maybe you should try something like that! hope it works out 4 u
~xoxo~ ..::Stacy::..
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tell ur mom that u will always luv her no matter where u live. Tell her that if u do decide to live wit ur dad that u will come visit....
good luck
~jinx~
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Tell ur mom that im gonna go live wit dad and if i dont like it ill move back in but while im there ill come and visit u and tell her that u love her...good luck
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Just say you would like to try moving in with your father to see if you like the changes or not and see what is it like over there-trix
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OK. now i can relate with this one. see, about a month ago i was seriously considering moving out of my house and going to live with my dad up in boston. i would have to leave all my friends, but sometimes things just got so bad at my mom's that i felt moving was my only option no matter who i hurt. i was also afraid of hurting my mom by saying i didnt want to live with her, and i knew she'd take it the wrong way. i ended up telling her i was considering it by saying "things at our house are just so bad that i cant stand living here any longer. you know i've been thinking about living with dad, and now i think im gonna do it. please dont take it the wrong way, i love you a lot, but i cant stand it here any longer and ive lived with you for so long that i want to live with dad for a change"... then i gave her a long hug. i think i made the right decision in letting her down softly, then comforting her afterwards. try this and see what happens
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TO: Moving?
the onie way i can think of is just to tell her straite..i mean as you sed she kinda new fer a wile so tellin her straite would be the fastest way and stuff...and i mean just coz you move out dosnt mean shell stopp loving you er anything..ya noe?
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My best friend came to me for help when she had this problem. Find a talent of urs. Do u sing? Well right a song and tell it to ur mom that way. It might be hard for ur mom but u r the kid and mothers would do absolutly anything for their children. She will try to understand. But if u r going to regret it and feel bad, then dont do it. What u should do is get a bunch of checkers and put red ones in one cup in black in the other. The black represent the good things of livin w/ ur mom and the red for the bad.
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Angie....u have to be honest with your mom and tell her that u want 2 move in with ur dad but tell her that u still wanna be able 2 c her on weekends and occasional visits she will appreciate the honesty hope i helped ya
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I know exactly how this problem is. My parents split up when I was three years old. I visited my dad alot, but lived with my mother halfway across the country. I always thought about living with my dad, and I wanted to, but I never gathered the courage to break it to my mom and tell her. I knew it would break her heart so I lived with her another year until she suggested I go live with him to get a grasp on my grades. I agreed, and now I'm living with my dad to finish high school. Sometimes I wish I told my mom how I felt a year ago, but part of me is glad I didn't.
If you really want to live with your father, please do tell your mother about this. When you do tell her how you feel, theres a good chance she will be feeling a bit depressed. Tell her that you will visit her a lot, that should ease her mind. I suggest sitting her down and telling her after you eat dinner with her or something.
Hope I helped.
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Tell her that it's not her fault, but that you just need a change, and you don't want to grow up not knowing your father as well as you could have. Make sure you promise her to have girls night out every week so she doesn't feel deserted. (sorry you have to go through this)
Lizzy
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Hey, well i think u should just sit her down and talk to her mother to daughter i guess. She'll understand and she will respect ur decision.
*~Chaparrita~*
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She'll probably take it a little hard, but moms usually understand!! Just calmly tell her that you've made the decision to live with your dad for awhile to see how you like things and that you'll be coming back to visit every so often just like you did with your dad when you lived with her!! Hopefully she'll understand, if not, she can't stay mad at you forever!!
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Just tell her that you want to try living with him, you want to try something new and that if it doesnt work out then you'll be back, i dunno something like that...
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