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Why are my parents so strict?
hey, i'm kristen! i'm 13 years old and we live in a good town where nothing bad like eva happens. when my mom isn't home she doesn't let me go ride my bike around the good part of my town, or let any of my friends come over when she's not home. my mom never used to work in the summer but this summer she does. so far this summer all i did was go online and play my softball. my brother gets to go to all of his friends houses on our side of the block, but i'm not. he's 11!!! how can i get my parents to be less strict?
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well im 18 now and my mother barely lets me do anything still. but i think its mostly because us women can easily get pregnant and we are the less dominance in the two sexes so anything bad could happen to us without us even knowing what hit us or without no control of stopping it. so therefore there is a reason parents are strict like that but if i were you i would have your mother and you figure out a reasoning into letting you have more fun time. like a cell phone you can check in with her every hour until your curfew.
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i have the same problem. The parents always pick on the older kids and are more strict.You sound totally responisble so i dont c y they wouldnt let you do nehthing. Tell them that its not fair ur 11 yr old brother can do more things than you can and that you think u should be able to do stuff jus that u need to have a curfew or sumthin to make it sound like ur responsible. jus dont b late Good LuCk! =]
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Well if he is 11 and they wont let you go and your 13 im not trying to be mean but i dont think they trust you . Show them they can trust you like do something good a good deed or something and tell me if it works
Love Ashley , ~ plz rate me ~
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Just point out that your bro is allowed to do that and you'll be careful of whats going on-trix
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Kristen-
My mom is almost the same way! Nobody can come in when shes not home, and we're not supposed to leave. My brothers always break the rules and have their friends come over, and my mom gets mad because, well its me (a girl) and my brothers friends, and she thinks that I'm stupid or soemthing. Anyway, you said your brother gets to go on your side of the block. That doesn't seem so unreasonable, but don't you have any friends on your side of the block? Well, you are going to have to a) talk to your parents calmly about this, (i.e. "I see that you let -brothers name here- leave the house and go to his friends house, and I'm not allowed to. Why is this?". You might even want to go as far as admitting that you understand the concern of you being a girl. Maybe your parents would feel more secure if you took a personal self defense class, or carried pepper spray. (For some reason, every parent is under the belief that their daughter can not defend herself and that she will be abducted, mugged, raped, etc. It is a real concern, but it can be avoided) Or b), just try to prove that you can handle responsibility. Good luck!
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well here's what you do treat your mother like she is the best mom in the world... basicly bribe her...then she'll trust you more then you can do what you want.... it always worked for me.bye.
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Hey Kristen i used to have the same problem intill i talked with my parents about it they probly dont want you being a girl off alone maybe when you ask to go walking or anything have a friend with you that your parents know get neighbors to keep a little eye on you and make sure nothing bad happens maybe get some older freinds to hang out with you and let your parents begin to trust you hope i helped -- katie
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im gunna be totally honest with you
theres a few things that suck about being a girl (not to mention the other things you will find out about in a year or so here) generally parents are extremely protective of there "little girls" plus you are the oldest (as far as we know) so its not out of the ordinary
just try and prove your responsible and like tell them your going to someones house whos parents ARE home ... that might help
and i suppose if that doesnt work after awhile ... you could always beat up your brother ... jk jk, it was just an idea
good luck with the situtation
*Verhulson
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"we live in a good town where nothing bad like eva happens."
Then you live in magic Utopia Land. Please, tell us how to get there...
All jokes aside, I've never understood these parents that let their boys just run amok, yet they try to hide their daughters away from the big-bad old world. I really wish I had an answer for you... hopefully you'll be able to convince them by just being responsible and reliable.
If that doesn't work, then you could try talking to them about it - but the thing here is to be as calm and even tempered as possible, and just ask why it seems that your brother gets free-reign while are you being whisked away from the world. Don't make it a "you're nice to my brother and mean to me!" thing, because you'll lose that fight. Make it a "hey, I've noticed that you let my younger brother do a lot more than you let me do... why is that?" kind of discussion. Be mature about it, be calm about it, and be willing to discuss the issue with your parents, assuming they are willing to listen.
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Hey Kristen!! Doesn't that suck when younger siblings get more privileges?! But you still live with your parents and unfortunally...they're in charge. But to make the best out of a bad situation try to understand why they are so strict. Maybe they had strict parents as well or from bad experinces when they were younger they don't want you doing the same. Whatever the case may be try to convince them that you deserve some time to ride your bike and have friends over. They probably think of you as a child still, but you're not so you need to let them know. If you throw a fit or start getting offensive towards them that will make you seem like you're not old enough to have those same rights as your brother. I don't think that your parents favor your brother over you, they have their reasons for parenting this way. You might want to let them know that you are older, and if you do recieve privileges they will give you responsiblity and get your ready for problems that may come in the future. Good luck, Love you -Mandee
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kristen, ask your parents why they let your brother do things you can. Maybe since you are older and "experienced" they think while they are gone, you will do things you are not sopost to. My parent is a little strict. She tells me not to go out past 10:00 but hey live a little but dont do anything illegal. Just talk to your parents and see what they think that you have to say.
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hey Kristen, your 13 and you cant go outside or play with your firends?! Wow, thats sucks! You need to talk to your mom how your older than your brother and she can trust you. You should also ask why your younger brother can go places and you cant. Also help around the house more and show her that she can trust you.
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make sure your parents trust you because that may be why they won't let you do any of those things. let them know what you are going to be doing that day and who you're with, just so they know what's going on and can trust you. hope it works! Xo Cay
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TRy to prove toyour mom that you are responseable. and to tell her how you fell.
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