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domestic violence
female,20 2 children eldest 2 youngest 7 weeks,differant dads when i drink alchol i get violent not al the time just when im stressed my partner over the past 4 weeks my partener has broken my finger n given me a black eye on both occasions he has said sorry and it will never happen again. he has taken my eldest son on as his own. i dont want to be a single mum with 2 children by differant fathers but i dont want to be a nervous wreck either i feel low in myself he alwys puts me down telling me im ugly and fat i just dont know which way to turn the violence only happens when we are both drunk please give me advice
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ok even if he says he wont do it again he will!! im sorry but either keep getting abused or get out of his life!!!!!!!!! life is full of descisions i think thats how u spell it!! lol sorry hope i helped!!!
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I may be too young to be giving you advice, I'm 17 now,... but maybe you need to hear things from a child's perspective. My Dad has a really bad drinking problem. Because of it he hasn't been in my life for almost 10 years. He has missed alot. And when I was a kid, he still missed alot because he was too being his drunk old self to notice me or my sister. he used to hit my mom, and just like you said apologize. the thing is they aren't bad when they are sober, they are bad when they are drunk. And I think the fact that the both of you drink makes it worse. I also think that while your children are still young and really can't remember things, which is now, is when you and your partner should decide to lay off the alcohol and get some help. You guys could even help eachother. I think that once the alcohol is eliminated from your life, things will be alot better. Your partner will treat you good, you will feel good and safe about yourself, and most importantly your children will be happy and safe as well. The last thing you should want is messed up kids. Hope I helped. :)
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Hi darling,
This man tells you it will never happen again, trust me it'll keep happening and absolutely will not get any better. People who hit their partner like this have vast psychological problems that can not be resolved easily. Your responsibilities lie with your safety and the safety of your children. Your partner is attempting to control you and your domestic life in an attempt to make him feel bigger and take control of his own feelings. You can not allow this to happen - you've got to take the control back and the longer you leave it, the harder it'll be. Get your self some help and get away from him. Make sure your family know what's going on and they'll get you through this. You can do this, good look and god bless
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Get away from him. Just stop seeing him. It has happened twice and it will happen again. You're not doing you or your children any favors by staying with him, because he will probably abuse them too, if not now, eventually.
You may also have a legal right to report him to the police for domestic violence. Go to the police station or ask your friends to find out more.
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youu should let him know how upset you are!! and if i were you.. i would leave him!! you can find someone better!! someone who treats you with respect and loves you!!! your still young and beautiful and should look for someone new!! i would kick my bf's ass if he EVER touched me.. to purposely hurt me!! just messin around and play ffighting is one thing, but acuttaly giving you black eyes and broken fingers!! WAYYYYY OUT OF CONTROL!!! it mustt be hard for you with your children but you need to be in a better inviorment for them + youu!!! i wish you the bestt luck!! hope you and your children have a wonderfullllllll lifee!!!! :) <3 liiza!!!
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You have a distinct animal right to do whatever is necessary to protect you and the health of your offspring...This is abuse, you need to get help and get out... Ive lost an aunt to abuse... he said he would stop.. but it was too late... You dont desereve to be pushed around and for your sake and your childrens you need to leave to make it better...If this only happens when you are both drunk, and IF you want this to work you need to get counseling together.. do something before its too late.. please its not worth it..good luck.. wish you all the best<3 PaRiS mArIe
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well, i just learned about this stuff in school. theres a cycle for domestic violence. first its walking on eggshells where he is not letting u do certain things or talk to certain people or whatever and then theyres the explosion where he hits you then theres the honeymoon where he says hes sorry and never happen again. you need to get out before its too late. what hes doing isnt right. you would much rather be without him, right? u deserve so much better and so do your children. go to the police. go to a friend. GET OUT!
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You already know what you have to do. Stop drinking. From the way you talk, the children are the important ones, right. This senseless domestic violence is going to be terrible for them, especially when they're older. If the fear of raising 2 kids by yourself is the only thing that's keeping this relationship going, then end it.
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STOP with the alcohol....it could only make the situation worse! If you stoped drinkin then you wouldn.t be such a nervous wreck. But as for the violence, you need to LEAVE him. A REAL man would never lay a hand on another women, he would also know better than to put you down and call you names. Hes abusing you and one day he could hurt/injure your kids. If you cared for them you would get them out the situation while you still can. Ya it hard to be a single mom but at least you and your family would be out of danger. There are also gvt funds that could help you if you really needed it. but leaving him would make you stronger and an independent women! ~KiSsEs~
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WOAH u need to STOP drinking and get a restraining order on this guy and even if he is the father or ur child take the kid away cuz if he did that to u then wut makes u think that hes not gunna do that to ur kid. Even tho he says he wont do it again it will cuz if they did it once theyre gunna do it again cuz they knoe they can get off the hook for doing it beleive me i knoe frum experiance just get outta that relationship its been one month and if he tells u ur ugly and fat hes definately not a good partner all i can say is get out and get out now take ur kids and go to ur parents or sumwhere where ur away frum him get a restraining order and just get out of that place as far away as u can im sure ur parents will take u in if they herd wut an a-hole that guy is. Even tho it only happens when u too are drunk just get out .
ALL THE BEST AND GOOD LUCK XoXoKateXoXo
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the only way ur going to do that is by stop drinking alcohol even a little...just stop drinking! that's the only way u can stop being a wreck!!
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