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Cutting
There is this guy I really like. Today I found out that he cuts himself. The only thing is, he doesn't know that I know. How can I bring it up and tell him to stop without sounding all maternal?
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Well, you cant just "stop" him from cutting, there is a problem in his life, or was and thats why he started cutting in the first place and its not something someone can just "stop" doing, they feel that they did somethig wrong or was treated badly so lets their anger out by inflicting pain on themselves, you may want to talk to him, but what you have to realize, this is just not a habit, it is a desise and a very deliate situation, this could also mean he has a low self-esteem or thinks very low of himself, so, be gentle, and dont force him to talk about anything he dosent seem to want to. . .theres my advice i hope it helped good luck and please rate me! =D
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How did you find out he cuts himself? Did you actually see it for yourself or is it maybe a rumor or something??
Cutters don't always cut for the intention of killing themselves...it's just mostly a way for them to blow off steam. It's not a good way at all but just don't do anything to him to cause him to cut himself more. I knwo you said you really like him so if you see someone putting him down stand up for him.
Try striking up a conversation with him and pretend to spot his cuts and say "wow what happened there?" and then he if makes excuses/lies then kind of look unsure or confused and just be like "Oh..listen, I heard some things..." and then go on from there and try to talk about it with him. Trust me, it won't hurt to talk to him about it.
If you have his email address or screen name it maybe easier to talk to him online about it.
I know this boy who likes me from my old school and in his profile it talked about how depressed it was so I talked to him and he said he cuts himself and he told me he was going to hang himself one night. I told him not to and I did EVERYTHING I could to persuade him out of doing it. He told me he likes me which helped because as I was persuading him not to hang himself he said "okay...I won't for you." and I just thought "wow...I probably just saved a life tonight." and I felt really good about that so...talk to the guy who you like who cuts himself. You've got nothing to lose. If anything, you'll help him.
Good Luck...and please talk to him...
~Gessyka~
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cut yourself he'll stop when you cut your self cuz he'll know that u love him
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don't go tell everyone what he has done to himself people deal with emotions diffrent ways if you have a cut on your arm and someone ask you what hurts you can point to the cut and say that hurts because when your emotionaly hurt and someone ask you whats wrong or what hurts you dont really know its just emotions if your worried about him just ask him about it just dont question him like hes a freak or a physco or soemthing for doing it just out of curiousity ask him what it is and ask him why he's done it
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well i would say that u should try holdin his hand and kissin it move up to where his scarz r and when u get there ask him about it and tell him how u feel try to help him wit tha troubles his goin thru.
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Cutting yourself is quite common in the teenage world. Sometimes there is a reason and sometimes there isn't. Some people even cut themselfs for attention. You can't tell the guy to stop because it is his choice. you can however get him help. My friend was a cutter and she got caught and was sent to a mental hospital and when she came back after about 2 months she was healed. tell a teacher or parent and they will get him help.
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Okay, first of all, don't go telling everyone that he cuts. Seriously, I know what it's like when someone finds out that you'r depressed and tells ANYONE. It's not fun at all. Don't just go up and talk to him about it either, because that would have set me off when I was someone cutting. The best thing you can do is be his friend, and wait for him to come to you. I know that he probably won't commit suicide, and he's also not looking for attention. Very few people who cut are, I've done enough of my own research to know. Let yourself be his shoulder to cry on, though, if he has no one else to turn to. I know it's scary that he cuts, I used to myself. You just have to be patient. He's probably under a lot of pressure right now to be something that he's not. Support him. That's the only way to get through to him. I'm not saying support his cutting, because it can be dangerous. I'm saying support any hopes, dreams, and desires he has that are not dangerous to his life.
I hope this helps, I know what it's like to be on his end, so if you want to know more about what would be his side, ask me. I know.
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Ya i know wut cutting can do ive experienced my friends doing it. Just go up to the guy u like and talk to him not about the cutting tho, warm up to him and then when he kinda of trusts u and u know some stuff about him ask him he'll definitly will open up to u.
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talk to him..tell him that u care too much for him to die..
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Well you really can't tell him to stop and he will do it automatically, cutting yourself ususally means you either want attention, or something serious is really going on in his life and that's the only way out that he could think of. The best thing to do is comfort him as much as possible and listen to him. He probably needs someone to show that they care and that is the best cure to help someone stop. Showing concern will be the best way. I hope you help him find that cutting isn't the awnser. Good luck babe
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I wouldn't ask him about it. Just have some deep conversation about him with him, and maybe he'll explain what's bothering him to the point where he cuts himself.
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dont ask him if he does it. tell him that you know he does it and your worried about him and he should tell his parents or go see a doctor hes probably really depressed and needs serious help. when somone starts to cut themselves in can lead to suicide quite quickly so i would get him the help he needs fast..
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I know, if I found out something about a guy I liked that would bug me too. But don't sit him down and give him an explanation, ask him questions like," I know some kids have tried it, have you?" Don't come right out and ask him, kind of hint about it.
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