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please help i'm desperate
I have 2 questions. First, I know my husband will never do anything to hurt me, but i've been through so much in my past relationships and I've put my husband through so much in the past four years. And I am so insecure, I know he won't hurt me, but how do i get over being insecure and let myself be happy and learn to trust him?
second, is it right for a married man to talk to other women via email?
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ok first question if you r too nedy that wil make a man run out on you being a little nedy is ok but if you seem to be a burden it will push him away,like with any relatonship needy is ok but if you r over the top and always about yourself it will make him not want to b around you and no its not ok for a man to talk via e mail to females a lot of internet cheating goes on there... b careful with that...anissa
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im going through kind of the same thing im a very insecure person ive been cheated on by practically eery partner but my husband hes in the army and is away a lot so that makes me more insecure.at the end of the day do what im going to do sit down tell him how you feel and why you feel like that if he cares he will try and help you through this.
about the email thing though i wouldnt be happy if i knew my husband was emailing other females that is surely going to make you feel worse tell him it hurts you and see what his response is
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hey, you just have to trust your husband and relax because there nothing to worry about!! hes a good husband and im sure he would never do anything to hurt you!! if you still feel un easy then maybe you need to talk to him!!
it is ok for your husband to e-mail other girls if your sure he loves you!! i hope my advice works good for you!! byee!!
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If you need advice, then maybe you should ask a friend becuse your husband might not agree to your talking to other women online.
If you are in need of advice, I wouldnt mind helping, but you can talk to a friend, sister, doctor, or pshycologyst!
Hope I Helped
Winona
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for 1st question:
This is a tough question. I think that if you are sure that you have put him in this spot take a day off sit down talk to him and apologize im not quite sure
-hope this works!!-
for 2nd question:
i think that it isnt right but im only 13. If you think he is doing on=hter things snoop around like while he's at work talk to the people he talks to online.
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ok the only way u can become secure of your self is try to give him some space and trust him. See how he acts and cuttle wit him every chance u get and let him know how u truly feel so he will recognize what he has to lose and he won't mess up and He will wanna be wit u and let him come to u. Do something to yourself as in buy a new dress or get a new hair style, make him dinner and dress up and do something romantic and see if he compliants you it always feels good to get complaints cause this way you know what he thinks of you.
Sincerely,
Angel & Her man
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Your insecurety is all about trust and so is your happiness which you seem to be wallowing in at the moment, and dwelling on past relationships is the topping on your mountain of misery.
Get a life woman and do something you younger generation has failed to learn the art of doing is sit down and talk to your husband about your fears etc, then work together on solving the problems which you will find is petty,
With regards to e mailing women I have been married 57 years and I am e mailing you
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Hmmm... I'm guessing that you and your hubby's been arguing. Maybe a little bit of how you don't trust him? He's not that cat? Why do you always do this to him?
It's fine for anyone to talk to anyone via email (or any other way) so long as they aren't causing damage to anyone. My married men friends talk to me, sometimes their wives do too, because their wives know of me- even if they disapprove.
I know the type. You're wrong and insecure and a mistrustful bitch and everything was fine until you went crazy again.
Whatever, he's wrong. It is wrong for a married man to knowingly hurt his wife. (It'd be wrong vice versa too)That's the bottom line.
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You learn to trust him by communicating with him. Just be as open with him as you can, and encourage him to be the same with you. The best way to make sure you stay close is not to keep things from each other.
And, to some extent, trust is always a leap of faith. You have to actively decide that you're going to trust him, and that unless you have hard evidence to the contrary, you're going to assume that he's doing right by you. It's totally normal to have twinges of insecurity, but the trick is not to give in to them.
Don't allow your past experience to define your view of relationships, but do use it as a guide. Where do you think things went wrong before? What could you have done differently? What were some of the warning signs that might have tipped you off?
As for whether it's "right" for him to talk to other women via email -- well, I guess it depends who they are and what they're talking about! Married men are certainly "allowed" to have female friends that they correspond with. If he's using the internet as a kind of virtual singles bar, though, I think that's inappropriate. Again, this is something that you should be able to talk about.
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