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4 Year Crush...He found out. URGENT!
My crush found out that I liked him. I told my friend to tell him and she did (that's how she found out). Well I walked up as she was telling him, so he walked off. I didn't notice, but I pretend tripped him and smiled at him, you know, just to be funny. But he didn't respond at all-just with really icy body language. When I smiled at him, and he just looked down and walked off as if nothing happened--he didn't even make eye contact like he usually would. I know he felt my leg try to trip him, too.
He's found out before, and he always acted this way (distant), except for once, when he was cool with it (normal). But I don't want him to repeat patterns! He's also got a girlfriend who he's on/off with, but I HOOKED THEM UP IN THE FIRST PLACE! (Doh.)
I was about to cry in class when my friend told me that he said, quote, "I'm scared now...". My other friend who asked said she didn't hear him say that, but she said he just grinned.
Well usually while we're on our way to lunch, he says a few words to me then parts ways. Sometimes he purposely does something. Yesterday he faked going the other way, and bumped me and walked like in front of me so we touched. "Oops...uh, I mean this way."
He always goes the same way.
Well...I was wondering...what has happened? Is he intimidated? Does he think all the fun is taken out of the game when I 'surrender' by telling him the truth? Is he just not interested? Is he thinking it over? Is he scared?
I don't know, that's why I'm asking you. Thanks so much!
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Okay, so he knows. Do you think it would have been better to have this obsessive crush over him forever and for him not to know?
I think he thought of you as a flirt buddy, someone to have fun flirting with and that would be all. Now that he knows you like him, he might not veiw you the same. At least that's what it would be like in my circle of friends.
But he might like you. . .I dunno.
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You say it's a 4 year crush? Okay, here's my suggestion for you: It's time to move on. As difficult as that may be, it's good for all parties involved.
If he's interested, and you move on, you'll catch his eye. If he's not interested and you move on, then you win. You also write that he's known this before and nothing has happened. He is either not interested or afraid. Move on.
Oh, and a piece of advice for the future: as you grow up, you're going to learn that if you want a job done right you're best off to do it yourself. It's not fair to let your friends do it, and you will never know 100% what he said or how he reacted.
Good luck.
~AlexiaJayn
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I fully understand this, hon. The same thing hapenned at my school with my friend and her crush. He'd talk to her, but when he found out he avoided her at all costs. Boys who take that approach are scared to have to be up front with the girl, and have to talk to her and all of that. They find it much easier to run away. At least that's what my good online guy-friend says. Good luck.
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Actually, I think he DOES like you. I just think you're both the victims of poor timing AND planning. You say he was " icy and cold ". Could it be that hje may have been uncomfortable because he IS in a relationship at the moment, and now having something else to deal with makes him feel that way. He says he's afraid, which could mean that he sees the possibility of something happening between the two if you as a reality and THAT makes him afraid. I'm wondering why you had your friend tell him that you're crushing on him when you KNOW he has a girlfriend. How do YOU really feel? You say HE may find it no longer fun when you "surrender" but could it be that your crush is not as intense if HE'S not with someone? I'm not accusing, I'm just suggesting you look at it from a different point of view. You also said that he's known this before. What happened? Why didn't you two make a go of it then? That has alot to do with where you are now. Answer that, and your new question will be answered. Regardless though, to be fair, why don't you wait until he's single again before you bring up questions or infer about the two if you. Good luck.
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"no man should make you cry, but when you find one that is, he wont make you cry". This guy likes to lead you on. He likes you only as a friend and he feels uncomfortable around you because he doesnt feel the same way you do. Read the quote over, see what Im saying?
Dont Worry, Be Happy
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He probably doesn't feel the same way that you do and feels uncomfortable knowing that you have a crush on him which is why he's acting distant and cold towards you...Don't push yourself too much on him or the more you'll scare him away.
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