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i've been friends with this boy for a couple of years, just friends, but now, after spending most of the summer and after school with him i now have a crush... he has a split personality... one minute, he's the nicest, funniest, all around good person you'd ever meet, but sometimes he hangs around druggies... this scares me...
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for all you know, u can marry him. and it can end up being an abusive relationship if he's practically frickin schitzo! if he hangs with drugs, he is a drug himself. once you try him, you are hooked. don't let it get to you. better safe then sorry, yes?
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Hmmmm drugs? Scares you? It SHOULD....move on!
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i think that if he does drugs that he will get u to do them and if u dont want to do drugs i would stay away but if do i would try to get closer to him if u want to ever date him cause it may help your odds or make them badder then they already r
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When you say druggies do you mean hard drugs? Because if it's just dope then you're probably OK. Except that you shouldn't have to feel threatened or scared.
Your best bet is probably to keep talking to him and hint at the things that are on your mind.
But remember...BE SUBTLE!
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Move with caution... just because that is the people he hangs out with does not mean he does it, but it is more likely… You can fish around to find out if he does his "druggies" friends would probably tell you if you asked if he did, most of them think it's great so why hide it... You have to decide if you know and like him enough to not let his taste in friends kill it, and if your moral convictions are too opposing of his views... also are those guy's really druggies or do they just fit the standard stereotype?
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Girls always fall for guys they are good friends with, we have a hard time finding the line between friendship and crushes, don't worry about that. Weigh the realationship, are you willing to risk the friendship for the chance of something more? If you are then you should talk to him, if not then just be happy that you have such a great friend.
If you are really close to him then talk to him about your fears. Is he doing drugs? It is quite easy to hang out with those people and not be into what they are. Be careful how you approch it though, he could get defensive if he is, just let him know you care and are concerned, even if he does get defensive remember, you only get that way if you know you are wrong. Stay strong and don't get defensive yourself. Hope that helps good luck
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Familiarity breeds comfort, and a byproduct of comfort is love. Don't confuse friendly love with lusty crush-love. If you do indeed lustily crushlove him, I would put down money that he loves you too (boys do not hang around with someone they dislike just to be "polite". that's a girl thing). People at that age, boys especially, are still trying to figure out what it means to be independant and what it means to be male--thus the druggie friends. Is he doing drugs as well? I myself had many, many druggie friends throughout high school but am not a user whatsoever--I just happened to enjoy their company. Perhaps they're just more laid back, openminded, silly, fun people that he enjoys spending time with. Find out more about his friends and don't let your prejudices block a relationship that may be useful.
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Talk to him about it, that's the only other thing you can do other than stop hanging out with him. Just to tell you, anyone who hangs out with druggies is going on the wrong path and we wouldn't want you to follow that path. Your crush might be a little infatuation and the more you hangout with him when he's with the druggies the more you might start to not like him.
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I know how that is, guys r just weird, lol, i think it's just inherited for guys all over the world, lol, but ya need to talk to him about these so called druggies and tell him that it worries u, ok? and now that u have a crush on him, follow ur instinct, ok?
take care and smile! and keep life sweet!
Mad Love,
Tina
p.s.
check out my site: www.goodcharlotte4life.4t.com
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Drugs arent cool so dont be a fool and be his friend!
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you like him so try getting him to stop hanging with the druggies. . and it'll be cool. . dont get caught up in this mess!
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Yes this is a bad thing. You dont want to be around people like this. A simple hello is okay, but nothing further then that. If you hang around him before you know it your a druggie too.
-shay :-)
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