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Question Posted Saturday March 12 2005, 1:49 pm

There's this girl at my school who's a total bitch and talks about everyone. She always says nasty things about people who aren't just like her and thinks she's so much better than everyone. Just the other day she was making fun of a guy that's in a wheelchair & in the hospital because he's having problems with his lungs. She said "wow what a retard... Why are we wasting our time talking about him?" like it was some big joke. People told her that was REALLY mean but she burst out laughing like it was the funniest thing in the world.

She also found out that me & my friend said something about her.. Now she yells shit at us in the halls & even drew on a picture of us in a classroom. I'm so sick of her acting so childish. We'll both tell her to grow up & get a life but she just keeps on doing it & dragging other people into it. It's getting so irritating and really getting to me.

What am I supposed to do? I can't just ignore it anymore.


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Additional info, added Saturday March 12 2005, 2:26 pm:
I'll do the same thing to her. Like if she passes by me in the hallway she'll yell out "bitch" or "slut" and I'll just yell something back at her. She makes no fucking sense at all. She thinks it's okay for her to make fun of other people but if someone says one thing to her she acts like it's the worst thing in the world.

She has a lot of "friends" (who she constantly trashtalks). I definitely don't wanna be one of them.
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seksiblueeyes08 answered Wednesday March 16 2005, 6:27 pm:
i know exactly how u feel cause that happened to me but the guirl in my situation is friends with me so i walked up to my friend(talking to the bitchy girl and just yell in her face comeon tara dont talk to skanks lol it was so funny......... good luck

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Erinn_the_bamf answered Monday March 14 2005, 8:35 pm:
The best thing to do is ignore it. Don't care because when you do she'll be meaner. One day a bunch of people (including you) need to go up to her and tell her that it's wrong. She's a biatch that wants attention. But she may have problems. People like her are trying to hide something. So either tell her she can't make fun of people or help her with her problem. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

P.S.~Don't go down to her level. You are better than that. Don't yell a nasty comment back. Just keep it real.

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nocturnalkid answered Monday March 14 2005, 5:32 pm:
Sometimes, the only thing you can do is fight fire with fire. I'm no advocate of violence, nor anything of the like, but sometimes there is just no talking to people. Next time she says calls you a name, tell her to Shut the Fuck Up. Say it slowly, say it seriously, and say nothing more. If you do it in just the right way, you might be able to stun her long enough to put her on blast.

Whatever you do though, remember that these highschool games are ALL about control. If you control yourself, then you can steer the conversation.

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Igotamonopoly answered Sunday March 13 2005, 9:18 pm:
Ok there's a loser at my school who was a nobody last year and is 'popular' this year, but she is friends and one of my best friends said (after she dissed me) "amy, no one cares about her...and no one listens to her, no one gives a sh*t what she says"...if this requires anything like discrimination, which the wheelchair thing would be, then you and the kid in the wheelchair can have your parents or the school press charges for harassment or sexual harassment...or more...good luck!

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lxstonecoldmysteryxl answered Sunday March 13 2005, 3:48 am:
i dont know what your question is.. but just dont talk to her.. that or egg her house.. haha jk dont do that lol
goodluck--lovemucho

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sokkerchik245 answered Saturday March 12 2005, 6:43 pm:
well maybe you should slap her because it sounds like she really deserves it! lol hope i helped!
xoxoLauraxoxo

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lilrocksta13 answered Saturday March 12 2005, 6:39 pm:
She just thinks that putting other people down will make her cool. SHe isn't cool and she needs to know what other people think about her. DOn't ignore it. Tell her what you think of her and don't be afraid of she says back. That is what she wants in the first place.SOunds like she needs a reality check on what life is.

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BriannaBaybee05 answered Saturday March 12 2005, 3:09 pm:
soo many people go through this, weather its in junior high or high school. im in junior high and theres just soo many fakes and so many that think their the shiit. my advice to you is just get even. yea payback is a biitCh but i believe you and your friends can do it. if you and all your friends get together and like just when she says something, be like you have no life what so ever goin around hating on other people is gunna get you no where in life. im sure if you stand up to her, she'll realize that shes starting to losse alot of her friends. good luck and always remember if someone can see your fear, they'll walk all over you. hope i helped <33

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Missa8305 answered Saturday March 12 2005, 2:47 pm:
Obviously, she is desperate for attention and very, very insecure. She displays all of the classic symptoms: acting like she is above everyone else, over-reacting to comments directed at her, verbally abusing anyone who critizes her, and trashing other people to make herself feel good about herself. Inside, she probably doesn't like herself very much.

She was probably so hurt by what you said because, whatever it was, she probably suspects that it's true. Now she's trying to redeem herself with the worst possible behavior. She wants to get back at you, make you feel as bad about yourself as she does. Not only that but she's practically screaming for your attention.

I know you said that you are tired of ignoring it, but I would like to point out that if you are trading insults with her in the hallways, you aren't really IGNORING her. I understand how you feel, and I understand that it must be difficult to tolerate her behavior. It's a normal response for you to try to defend yourself.

However, I don't think that this type of defense is going to work. You have to tell yourself that her insults are meaningless (because they are) and not let them get to you. Furthermore, you have to show her that what she says doesn't bother you in the least. The best way to do this is to truly ignore her. And when I say ignore, I mean, pretend that she doesn't exist. If you and a friend are walking down the hallway and she starts screaming at you, pretend that she isn't there. Don't talk to her, don't look at her, she ISN'T even THERE. You might even want to start a conversation with your friend, even if you have to talk over her, to show her that you are not going to pay attention to her. It doesn't bother you.

If you do this she'll probably step up on the offensive. It will be difficult to remain cool, but just keep on. Eventually she will realize that she can't hurt you and stop.

I hope this helped you in some way. Best wishes ;)

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luv2swim109 answered Saturday March 12 2005, 2:12 pm:
why dont you just do the same to her. it sounds harsh but she needs to learn her lesson. give her a taste of her own medecine. or you can just pull her aside and tell her how rude it is

~nat~

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Teza answered Saturday March 12 2005, 2:12 pm:
get some peplz to talk to her maybe she needs friends inthe world! try to help her dont talk about her either you dont want to becomeher!

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