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Q: so theres this guy that i've liked sence september and he was dating my best friend (she didnt know i like him) and she broke up with him yesterday and that was right after she found out that i liked him and now i think she dumped him because of me. but earlier he said i was pretty and i told him i thought he was cute but hes totally in love with my best friend i want to go out with him really bad but i dont know if he likes me and im thinking my best friend dumped him because of me. i dont know what to do. does he like me? did my best friend dump him because of me? please help.

ok the only thing i have for you is.. DONT DATE YOUR BEST FRIEND'S EX. that is probably one of the worst things you could possibly ever do and your best friend would probably get really pissed off at you and most likely not really want to be your friend anymore.

Q: 14/f...ok so I know this guy named Warren. We recently made a bet that I would go a whole day without listening to his ipod. I lost. And the bet was that whoever lost would have to give the other person something. He said on the phone that he wanted a kiss from me and today was my chance but I was nervous when he mentioned it to me and played dumb. He said that I knew what he wanted and I said no I dont just tell me and he said nevermind. Now I'm afraid that I wont get a kiss from him and I don't know how to bring it up that I still owe him. Any ideas?
THX
I RATE HIGH

suprise him with a kiss. stolen kisses are always the best anyways. you know just be talking to him and kiss him. dont bring it up. it will be super cute.

Q: hi. i'm 15/m and an in-the-closet homosexual.
here's my problem: there's this guy at my school that i really like-and i mean reeaaalllyy like. he's a really good friend of mine, too. we hang out pretty much every day. problem is, i don't know if he feels "that way". How can i find out if he likes me too without telling the whole world that i'm gay?

well don't you think if he likes you then yall would hook up. Also, if you aren't ashamed of being homosexual i think you should just let everyone know. I know so many people like you. Like seriously girls love gay guys. but don't be ashamed of it. let people know. its who you are and you can not change that.

Q: f/15

what should i do if im still in love wiht my ex-boyfriend and he likes me too but he doesnt really want a girlfrined right now and i want a boyfriend right now and there's this guy i kinda like and he asked me out and i said yes all i can think about is my ex but we dont talk that much anymore maybe once a week he doesnt know about my new boyfriend! my ex go's to a differnet school too so its kinda hard to talk to each other but we still like each other! i dont know if i should stay wiht my new boyfriend or what! please help

This sounds way to familiar lol. uhm no you may like each other because well you love him right. so there will always always be that feeling there but remember why yall broke up and just remember that things can never go back to the way things were when yall were first together. but if your happy with your boyfriend then deff. stay with him. if not, then its to early for you to be dating. give it some time, get all your flirting, partying stage over with and settle back down.

Q: Whats a career is in the medical area where you dont have to deal with a lot of blood and surgery?

lets see medical..possibly a physical therapist, go into sports medicine. uhm really thats all i can think of right now. or maybe a pysychologist.hope i helped.

Q: Hey, just wondering but what are some differences in the sypmtoms of being pregant and getting your period..I have most of the symtoms i usualy get when i get my period, and im close to when i should be getting my period but they are similiar to the ones as pregnancy (cramps, tenderness, some headaches)..is it probable that i'm getting my period soon, or not?

your probably about to get your periods. that can be signs all the time that your about to.

but if you had sex recently or think you might be pregnant. i think its time to go to the pharmacy or head to the doctor.

Q: This boy I like (ive gone out with him 3 times) came over like 2 days ago and we kissed alot and well he fingered me. Within these two days, he hasn't even called me. He always used to call me..almost everyday. I talked to him online but i dont know things dont feel the same. I don't think he knows I like him but I do A LOT. yeah, he's my first love...dead serious. I don't know what to do..what I'm supposed to say, or anything. I dont thinik he used me because we we're really close before all of this. He acts different around me than all the other girls..like fools around with me and hes like not wicked serious. hes really funny and fun to be around, but hes serious around other girls.So anyways, what am I supposed to do? What should I say to him? I don't wanna call him because I'm just scared to. I don't see him in school, because he doesn't go to the same school. What do i do?? I've been like sad and stuff for a while now :( thanks in advance..I just really need some help

-kate

ok well i would help you but first of all..is this the first thing yall have ever done?

Q: im 13 and a female. everyday me and my bf go to our school library and hang there and we are usually kissing and making out but i dont really want to all i want to do is talk to him and some friends, snuggle close with him, and maybe a odd kiss a day if im in the mood. he love to snuggle with me too but he takes it too far and i really need to be answered tonight cuz tomorrow i might be biking to his house tomorrow and we will be alone and im sorta afraid of what he will do. is that wrong? what should i do? sry its so long.
**sleepiesheep**

Tell him how you feel and what you want to do. Don't let him be in control all the time. So tomorrow if he tries to do something then tell him no if you dont want to. please drop a message in my inbox, id like to know what happens. Thx. hope i helped
cassie

Q: i don't really know what i'm asking specifically..i just need general advice. i just started dating my current boyfriend. it's been a little over two weeks. i'm just wondering..for all of you with boyfriends..how long did you wait before you kissed him and how long have you been together so far..and for those who don't..how long did you wait before you kissed your last boyfriend..and how long were you together? i just don't know how long i want to wait. don't tell me to wait until i'm ready or want to..because i am going to do that. its just my ex left me with some trust issues..though i do trust my boyfriend..and i don't want a redo of my last relationship..which was way too physical. so your input will just help me a ton.

thank you so much.

I think it would be just fine if you kiss him. My current boyfriend and i kisses a few hours before we got together but we were really close. but as long as you don't go around kissing everyone. i think you know HEY its your boyfriend..KISS HIM..lol leave a message in my inbox and tell me what happens.bye.

Q: Well i am a grl and i like to wear boy clothes!!!
is that weird or normal?

No way. if you like to wear that and are comfortable and thats who you are its pefectly fine. your deff normal

Q: O.k Well my best friend is a total whore... i mean like shes the type like if you have a dick .. shell suck it like after an hour of knowing you.. i confronted her about it like.. why have you changed so much (because she was never like this)The Other night i said some
things to her i maybe shouldnt have said..

but i meant them she told me i was never on her side, and i never helped her through anything meanwhile when she broke uph with her boyfriend i was there, through everything and when other people called her a whore i was there through it allll!!!

Well I Told Her i hoped she got pregnant and, shes a f****** whore, and a slut, and guys only want you for a#$ soo yea, i was pretty mean she was probably crying...

But today i was thinking am i just jealous of her. I mean shes a whore and she gets all the guys she wants, i always thought that if you havent done a lot of stuff with guys they'd want you more, am i wrong... AM I JEALOUS?

Your not jealous at all. You just dont want your friend getting hurt even though you said that stuff to her. Also i don't know how old you are but eventually goes don't always go for the sex they eventually want to settle down. but no matter what you do if this girl is a true friend to you she might even take your advice. but stay by her side through everything because when it comes down to it. shell always want you by her side.

cassie

Q: 13/f, so i went to my old schools dance and this guy named alex that i have known and been friends with for two years slow danced with me. He pulled me in realy close so were were like hugging and then he grabbed my but and also he tried to kiss me. Everyone says he likes me but when my friend and i asked him he said he dosnt like me. Do you think he likes me and also what should i do because i am majorly in love with him and never want to let him go but i think i just did. i am so mixed up please help

Oh he totally likes you. Keep talking to him and flirt with him to make sure tho. Also if you were there when he asked you out of course he will say no, he doesn't want to like get embarrassed if you don't like him. So keep flirting and when he makes a move just go with it.

Q:

i am so confused with this Boy his name is alex and well...i think he likes me but i am not certain of that.he is kinda cute though. here are some reasons why i think he likes me
1. i am the first one he asks when he needs a calculator
2. in spanish our seats are in rows and we get to choose our seats and he sits in the seat Closest to me.
3.We chat sometimes
4. I catch him staring at me for a few seconds
5. My Name is Jen and and instead He Calls Me 'Jenna'
6. Oh ya and One time we were reading scenes from a book like i was the narrator and he was the dad in the book etc and we sat in rolley chairs, we were in front of the classroom sitting and reading and he didnt want to sit next to this other girl so he rolled his chair next to me.
**there are more but i cannot remember**

well i am confused if he does or doesnt like what should i do i am Clueless...seriously.
i mean he is actually 'NICE' to me out of all the other boys.

From what you said I can't really determine if he likes you or not. But what you need to do is kinda flirt with him and if you like him give him hints. Also watch if he flirts with a lot of people, just to make sure.

cassie

Q: On november 1st I got a boyfriend, and even though we have only been dating a little while I love him and know he is the one for me! Well here is the other part of the story.
Before me and my boyfriend started dating I had this thing going on with my ex boyfriend. Then my exboyfriend said alot of mean stuff to me. Like im a slut and i cant get any guys and all that stuff. Then when I got my boyfriend (that i am with now) my ex boyfriend apologized. My exboyfriend is in my gym class and everyone says that he keeps looking at me. He even poked my tummy! what is up with that? I mean he insulted me (but he apologized) what is he thinking? THe bad part is I kinda like knowing he is looking at me and stuff...
Whats going on?

I rate well

Ok, so any girl loves to be looked at and flirted with. Its just a girl thing. but if you love your boyfriend you should stay with him, also he hasn't talked bad about you. I also think that your exboyfriend talks crap to you because he just wanted to see if you would run back to him and then when you got your boyfriend he was like NOOO WAIT. lol but i wouldn't give into it. not at all this is like a typical guy thing. So if you give into him. he wins. and he will probably talk crap to you again. so stay with your love.
hope i helped

xoxo --> cassie

Q: ok i've had my period for bout 5-6 months. And if been at the end of the month but this time if hasn't happen i got it at the end of September but not at the end of October? Is this normal? What's wrong?

Its perfectly normal, you just started and you have to have time to get into a so called "routine". or lets see..have you had sex..cuz then ill have to tell you theres a problem maybe. but im guessing thats not the problem. but yes its normal and nothing is wrong ..you may even skip that month. It happens to everyone.

Q: how do you insert a tampon? i've tried countless times, and i just cannot do it. is there anything i could use to get it up there like vaseline or something? thanks

alright, i use to ask myself this question. You are probably doing it right and if I know my stuff right then it probably hurts. Now it may take a few times bc there is a this layer of like uhm, membrane or something like that, that you have to break. Of for directions see the paper they put in the box. lol. anyways hope i helped.

Q: this has two questions in it s0o0o it might be a lil long....so0o0o i have this boyfriend(2weeks) and i like him a lot but i dont know if he likes me. im in 9th grade and he is in 10th....but he doesnt talk to me all he does is kiss me and hold me ....no talk...just touch...s0o0o0o i dont know what to do ..do you think he is just going out with me for the ass or do you think he likes me?(question one)

ok here is the next question....i dated my ex boyfriend for 7 months and 5 days and i know he still like me and i still like him like kinda a lot(please no comments on the whoreishness of that PLEASE) and my boyfriend and him HATE eachother LIKE WOAH!!! but today in the computetr lab we were flirting like we ALWAYS do and we ended up holding hands and when we are on the phone we always say we love eachother and still flirt.....and he calls me his undercover lover...and he says im cheating on my boyfriend with him...s0o0o0o my question is what do i do....???? IM SO00O0O0O0O0O0O0 confuzzled!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i will rate fives for good answers NO SMART ASS ANSWERS

~confuzzled and torn~

i'd say your current boyfriend is just in it for some ass. don't you hate that? I think if you think it will work out between you and your ex, which to me sounds like yall still care for each a whole lot, then go back to him atleast he cares about you. As for you current, if you want to give that time to see what happens then do that. But my thought are that.." com'n after two weeks and all he wants to do is mess around, then you got a problem, id say leave him and get back with your ex." Hope i helped.

Q: okay theres this guy and i went out with him in the 6th grade and part of the 7th and we went out 4 a year and i told him that i loved him and i ment it the only thing is that wen we broke up he moved and i cant get over him but i have a boyfriend now and i realli dont want to tell him but i think he should no i still have feelings 4 my first love (( i guess i can put it that way)) but i realli dont no how to tell him. and the thing is wen i think about him (( first love)) i almost if not cry and i cant get over him and ive tryed and tryed but i cant and my friend says that itll get better and that everyone has more than 1 love but i cant get over my first. and my other friend told me no one can get over there first love. and none of it helps realli well my best friend did help me some but i still cant get over him and its been 1 year sence we broke up :\

This is pretty easy for me. I have had your problem. You will always miss him because well yes he was your first love and you will always have feeling for him and no matter what you do nothing can change that bc i miss my ex to we also dated for a year and i loved him alot. You will love again, but only time will ever tell you when you will be able to open up your heart again bc like me you are probably scared to fall in love again and get your heart shattered am i right? Let your boyfriend know (not just randomly, but at a good time when it seems right) tell him that you still have feeling for your ex, because he was your first love but also tell him he doesn't have to worry because he is yours now and just see how he takes it and take it from there.

Q: Hey...I need help agian! If you have never had a boyfriend, you are in 8th grade, 13, never even kissed a guy...Then do you get one! I like a guy but I wouldn't know how to act AT ALL (everyone says to talk, but what if you don't know what to talk about!?)I don't even know how to kiss! (that is embarrasing!) I want a boyfriend but no one has asked me out...I don't even think anyone has ever liked me! SOME of my friends say I'm really pretty..but when I go out with them they always get the guy(!), and I get jealous (but don't show it) I don't wanna tell her though...I guess that ended with 2 questions...PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE!
Amy

You remind me of me, but you know what you don't need a topic to talk about. Even if you don't know if the guy likes you, talk to him. Time will only tell. Just bring up whatever you want to talk about or be like hey and you know he might bring up a conversation, but just don't show that your nervous. First talks are always kinda iffy but after a while you will feel very comfortable around them. Also don't go for a guy only for his looks once you get older you will find out some of the hottest guys have the worst attitudes and some of the shy maybe not so "coolest" guys are the sweetest and really know how to treat a girl. About the kissing, how do you know if you don't know how if you have never done it. Right before i kissed a boy for my first time i was like uh oh but it just comes natural and you can't really practice it.

Q: My boyfriend was sick previously for a couple of days. One of the nights that he was really sick I happened to be with him. I didn't leave him all night, I was constantly making sure he was okay and if he needed anything. He told me he appreciated this a lot. The downside of me being with him that night is that he got me sick too. So, all day today I've been pretty sick. You could see it in my eyes how horrible I felt. He commented on that a few times throughout the day. I constantly told him I felt pretty bad. He said sorry. Tonight I called, told him I was feeling very sick. He was watching T.V and was kind of ignoring me, so I just told him I'd call him back with an 'I guess' at the end- hinting how I wanted him to stay. He didn't.
It kind of bothers me how I was waiting on him hand and foot and not letting it bother me that I was practically a butler for him for a night, but he couldn't do a simple thing such as stay on the phone and comfort me.
Is this selfish of me to want comfort and attention from him?

You are not selfish at all, girls like to be comforted and all the attention they get. But, you have got to remember guys like their space also. I do not know your boyfriends ways but some guys only like to comfort and cuddle when they get sex afterwards. but you are not at all selfish, your a girl.

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im 15/f...names cassie.I love helping people and I give good advice most the time. I hate seeing people with problems, so i will help you as much as you need to get through whatever your going through. I do this because I wish the same for me. Thx.