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Q: well my eyes keep stinging latly around them.. there not red but they string like crazy and it makes me want to itch them more why is this and how can i stop the sting.. its like i been crying for ages .... and my eyes are stinging and also they keep feeling as if like an eyelash is in them and you just rub it and rub it till it goes away and when you open your eye it waters and hurts and feels as if something is in there, please help ima go put some water on them now xxx lush me please help

Get eye drops..

Q: how can a thirteen year old (me) about 5 feet get a modeling job in something like abercrombie in the tampa area? (locally).thanks!

e*mail abercrombie--tell them where you live--send them a pic and wait for a response

Q: does anyone know any really good shampoo and/or conditioner that works well and is good for oily hair?

Thanks!

clinique hair care (exceptionally clean) its in macys..and filenes

Q: hey i was just wondering because i got the new color pulse by loreal thing, its like semi permanent hair dye, that washed off in 8-10 shampoos. and it says wash and towel dry ur hair. does it mean dry it entirely of just partially. because i haven't washed my hair for like 3 days and i don't know will the dye stay in. i got dark blonde hair, and i want it lighter. i got cool blonde, and i don't know if it'll work. thanks in advance! i rate 5's. =)

okay ive used that stuff 2ce (im a pro by now) when it says towel dry your hair--it means just put the towel on your head and rub it around..dont completely dry it..or else it wont work!!

Q: Why do boyz always tickle their girlfriends???? I know it's stupid. But Idk

i dont know why! my b.f always does that!! i think its so they can be closer--without letting the girl know that they want to!!

Q: i'm 13 and haven't had a period yet. i know that's normal, but most of my friends have had theirs, and htey give me a hard time about it. first they'll say i'm not a woman, then they'll say i'm lucky! it gets annoying. what do i do?

-punctationless

you said it yourself--its normal not to have your period at age 13..well i got mine when i was 11 but still its normal not to have it...dont listen to them...when you become a woman you can laugh in their face!! ..but you are lucky that you dont have it--its stressful for me!! just dont listen to them at all..hope i helped x3

Q: Some people say that if you put toothpaste on a pimple overnight than it will go away. Does anyone know if this is true? Has anyone tried it?

it doesnt work--its an old wives tale

Q: Hi, im 13 years old. Well i think im fat, i weigh 90 pounds. All my friends think im like one of the skinniest people in the school, but i dont think that, so i decided to not eat, except for a small dinner because my mom would make me eat dinner. People try to like put food in my mouth for me to eat but i wont let them. In 3 days, i lost already 2 pounds. People think im anorexic. what should i do?

hun, you are not fat at all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 90 pounds for a 13 year old is skinny, dont starve yourself...try exercising if you really think you are fat...(if you have one) try going on a tred mil...and start lifting weights...or ask your mom if she can go to the gym with you on weekends or something....i really dont think your fat--and plzzzz start eating!!! its not a big deal....you need to eat. muah x3

Q: My friend that i have known for a long time has just revealed to me that he is gay. I love him to death. What should i do ??

i dont think that you should not like him..if he is gay, just let him be gay--i dont think that should change how you feel about him, if you really like him as a friend it wont matter..no ones the same! be considerite!! muah

Q: last nite i put another peircing in my ears above the one in the lobe so its just 2 pericings and i think i did it wrong. when i touch it its rely tender and it hurts and theres a weird lumpish kinda thing when i press it a little with my index finger in front and thumb in back, and i think this might be because i didnt sterlize anything and they were cheap earings, but i got other pericings profesionaly done like 5 years ago and theres been a little ball circle thing i can feel ever since, is that even normal?well i took my new peicing on the left side out because i did it crooked but i dont know what to do because it seems like my OLD hole hurts more but i dont know why it would..and my other new peircing on the right side hurts a real lot. ive cleaned them out with peroxide so the only earing thats in is an earring in my New hole on the RIght side because i dont wanna take it out because i want to keep the hole! please someone help i dont know whats wrong! i ratehigh!

u have an infection....the ball thing can get worst (thats the infection) TAKE OUT YOUR EARINGS!! i ve had two infections..it stinks sooo bad..just leave it be for like 3-4 months..yeah i know it seems like a long time..but thats how long it takes pretty much to get rid of the infection...dont pierce your own ears..go to someplace else..like claires, or after thoughts, or walmart even...i hear they also have ear piercing at doctors as well...if the infection doesnt go away (like mine hasnt)..go to a doctor and get medicine or something for it..hope i helped!!
muah x3

Q: Hey, I really want to get better at dance. Like, ballet? I can't get my leg high enough and my 5th position stinks. My teacher is getting on our case because most of us can only get to 3rd position. So does anyone know any exercises (tried and true) that me and my friends can do to get our legs higher and get our 5th position good? Oh and only if you know what I'm talking about or are/have been a dancer. Thanks so much!

okay i was a dancer for seven years...try sitting on the ground with one of your legs sticking straight out and the other one tucked under your butt..hold it for 20 seconds..and then switch legs..another exercise is to sit with your hands on the ground and your knees..and lift each leg up for 20 seconds straight out..another one is to lay with your stomach on the ground & lift your legs up without bringing your stomach up..if you feel the burn you know its working..sry if this is confusing..GOOD LUCK muah x3

Q: heu guys! any help would be appreciated... for the past couple months i've been getting really bad headaches, and it hurts to look at light or hear noises and stuff. Well I think they might be migraines. I try to tell mom but she won't listen. Is there anything i can do at home to make them better? and medicine doesn't work...

it could be a sinus infection..i get those sometimes!!!! just rest when you get those..and take tylenol..it will help

Q: Okay well I am 13 years old. I think I am one of the fattest people out their! I weigh about 105, and I am about 5,1 ½ .. There are like 4 people who tease me, and call me fatt because they know it gets to me, and I cry all the time. About 1 week ago I tried making myself throw up. It hurts, but I don't care. I am also on a diet. So the food I eat is healthy still get's vomited out. But oh well. But my two best friends ones a guy who I like love with all my heart, and one is a good girl friend of mine are so pissed that I do this, and tell me not to listen to what people think =/ They said if I continue to do it they'll refuse to talk to me.. Urg! I wanna lose a lot of weigh for summer, and stuff and this is a pretty good way to do it but I dont know because I dont wanna lose my friends anymore =/ .. Ekkkk what to do?

your not fat!!! its normal to be 105 at age 13..and at your height..since your kinda short when you should be getting taller..its turing into fat..you arent fat tho!! dont worry!

Q: Hi, I'm 13 years old, and i recently started cutting. Don't think " I'm a physco Freak " or whatever you want to call me. My Friend introduced me into it. She said it really helps. so one day i was really angry, i was crying and all, and i cut all up and down on my arm/wrist. To me, i felt better, but just the next day it hurted. From then on, i have been cutting myself all the time when i am mad. the last time i did was actually last night. I use " Scissors , Razors , Saftey Pin , or any sharp objects round the house " . my mom saw my arm by acident, and i told her i fell on a side walk. well my friends are so worried about me. they think im ganna end up killing myself, because i almost did. i really do hate my life even if i have friends and a boyfriend. i JUST hate it, and i think sometimes i was just a mistake, that i ruin other people lives. well i dont know, if i should continue, and and my friends upset, or not, and stay here. I DONT KNOW?! its just really hard to stop though, cuz im so addicted to it. EHH` . what should i do ? thanks . if you wanna i.m. me on AIM ; BlinkBabex33 .. or you can email me ; BlinkBabex33@comcast.net

hun, dont cut yourself! as much as you think its helping its really not!!! there are some serious cases of ppl cutting and getting seriously hurt! pleeeeeease with a capital P dont cut!! if you've gotten raped tell someone!! even if your embarassed tell someone!!! whenever you feel like cutting just write down what your feeling i promise it will make you feel better DONT CUT!!!

muah

Q: Okay, well I just got mine, tonight...and I am NOT telling my mom. At least, not yet. I just have a few questions about periods....

1. How often should I change them?
2. Should I wear them to bed?
3. How many should I carry with me?
4. Where should I put them? I don't carry a backpack...or a purse.

That's it. Thank you! =D

well first off you should definatly tell your mom..its no big thing she went through it to!!

1. change them ever 3-4 hours
2. you can wear them to bed..just change it right before you go to bed
3. you should carry like 3 when your in school and stuff
4.you should put them in a tampon case thing..you can fit pads in there..try starting to carry a purse--it will be easier

Q: My name is Kayla and I'm 13 years old. I started my period not too long ago. But I have skipped about 3. Is this normal for me? I don't want to be able to not have children or anything? Is it serious? Please help.

its normal to skip a few months, i read it in my book..if you keep on skipping them, tell someone cause that isnt normal

Q: I'm 13 years old, and I'm bleeding "down there". i'm afraid, and I live with foster parents I dont really know yet. What do I do?!! I don't know whats going on!
signed,
confused

well looks to me like you got your period..ask your foster mom if you can use some of her pads! ahhh woman hood!! crrrrazy!

Q: Is it okay if you have little hairs on your boobs? I think its sort of gross and I'm not about to shave my boobs but does everyone have it or am I the unfortunate one?

yeah its completely normal

Q: Erggg...I'm 13 and i STILL weigh only 70 pounds!! i'm not worried that i'm short, it's okay with me, but i really need to gain weight! i dont wanna die form this! And pigging out on junk food dont help either....

you probably have whats called a "high matabolism"..you can eat and eat but u wont gain that much!! two of my friends have that..

Q: is it phisically possible to lick your elbow?
please answer, me and my friend are mad at each other because she says it is possible but doesn't care to prove it.

lee lee

it is not possible to lick your elbow..it is impossible! i read about it!!! try it!--it wont work unless your some double jointed weirdo then go to the doctor