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me and my ex boyfriend were one of those couples where we were exact opposites. he was kind of "Wigger-ish" and i was moare "Skater". he would even call me a skater .. and then he'd say how much he hates them. it always affended me so he would add "Except for you" but it didnt make much of a difference. when he found out my favorite color was orange, he got all weird like "Holy fuck, you're only supposed to like black". who the hell tells their girlfriend, let alone anyone .. what colors they can like? it really pissed me off, and we broke up later that night for other reasons, and he just moved here over the summer (thats how i met him). now hes going to my school where no one knows him, and he's going to be in most of my classes. i really liked him even though we were different. and im shy around guys so i probably wont talk to him. what should i do if i want to be with him again, but keep him from treating me like shit? (link)
"Wigger-ish" .. it means when someone who is 'white' when they act like they're black


okay here's my story..i had this realli mean ex b/f who treated me like crap! i cried n cried over him every single day we were dating and somewhat after we broke up! so one day i decided to stop all my crying and get even! he has this g/f that he never even met before! lol but he is always telling me and everyone how much he loves her! haha yea..anyways i got my friend who lives in texas to start talkin n messin around with my ex.. ( i told him that she was my homeschooled neighbor)---like she would say stuff like "ohh your realli sexi..i wanna be with you" and just completely act that way! and my ex was always telling me how he never cheated on me and how he never would cheat on anyone..blah blah blah! so basically i was also testing his skills to see if he is a player! well guess what i found out..he is! he was telling my friend how much he likes her and wants to hang out with her and all that crap! and i have everything saved! so yes he does cheat! and he was also telling my friend that he doesnt have a g/f! what a loser! so anyways..he unblocked me from the computer and writing to me ever since i hooked him up! so we were getting along perfectly..then my friend told him that it was just a joke..she wasn't my neighbor..and everything..and now he's soo ticked it isn't even funny! haha i told him off majorly tho yesterday! but anyways..what should i do?! should i apoligize?..but he's done soo much crap to me before and now i'm in counseling because of him! so i don't know what to do! please help! i will rate you! (link)
what a AWESOME idea. i'm so doing that. my ex did that to me, if i get back together with him .. its happening. anyways if it were me, id be like fuck you asshole, you deserved it.


Okay this guy i like likes another girl but she is isn't interested in him!! he says he might not go 2 the prom ...and i want 2 go but i don't have a date!! and the guy i like did my hair, he says he loves my hair ...does he love me?? he laughs at a lot of my jokes is that a sign that he likes me?? (link)
well either that guy is dropping hints or he has a laughing problem. im sure he's dropping hints though.

ask him if he would go to prom with you as friends, and if things go well, you could be more than friends.


i didnt know what category to pick , but i had got braces 3 days ago , and my teeth hurt so bad , i called my doctor and he wont b in t'll monday . can neone help me with some tips to releive the pain . it would b a big help . thankk you soo much!! i'll rate u a 5 , nethng will help riyte now (link)
lol, i still have my braces, i know EXACTLY how you feel..

tylonal (sp?) or advil, bynadril, pain relievers like that will work..

sorry my spelling sucks. lol, but i hope you feel better! i know the pain..


ok im a 14 year old boy and liked by alot of peeps. (girls 2) but everytime i try 2 get close to a girl i mess up and say stupid things and they think im a jerk wat should i do?????? (link)
one big thing is, if you think they're hot .. it might be nice to say a few times "you're beautiful". girls appreciate the word beautiful more than hot because you act more intrested in them, not their looks. also, when you're talking to her, don't say "You have a big ass!" or "You have big boobs!" or "You're hot!", talk about things like how sweet you think they are, or how funny they are. don't be too perv-ish. if you're gonna compliment on them to show your love, try to talk about their "wonderful personality" more then how attractive they look.


so basically i lost about 45 pounds since april and ive worked really hard and stuff so i am proud of myself because i am FINALLY comfortable with myself and my body..... but ive always had a ton of guy friends and now that im in the 125 lbs catagory (im 5'8 btw) a lot of my girl friends have been making me borrow their clothes cuz nothing i have fits anymore and im waiting to go back to school shopping, so my friends are letting me borrow their clothes... Well about a week ago my friends decide to make me actually dress up.. so they have me wear all their little abercrombie stuff and i kinda knew i looked like a slut but i was sorta happy because atleast i looked like a pretty slut... We ended up meeting with all our guy friends and they were shocked because i hadn't seen them since late may. They were just like oh my god you look hott... and really i am not used to that kind of attention... like im always the person to crack the jokes or do the crazy stunts but not the one all the guys are like heyyyy... Everyones been telling me I should keep this look up and i do feel good in the clothes just the response isn't exactly what i want... (link)
If you like the way you dress, dress that way. Let your guy friend know you aren't comfortable with their response, and if they could be sweeter like "You're pretty" instead of "A hot slut" then maybe things this way can work out.


hi. my name is nicole n im 14. ok so heres the thing. i am like in lve with this kid named robert. like in love in love n ok i dont think i will ever have a chance with this kid cuz likehe is in love with this girl even tho he seys he isnt. so like i think i kinda gave up on him n started lik in this kid chris. which is horrible cuz like my best fuckin friend likes him. i have no idea wat to do cuz like i dont have a chance with either of them n i dont wna get my heart broken again.... (cough lke alan n ian)
HELP lol (link)
Well, about this Chris guy, If you really do like him, and there's a possibility for a chance with him, go for it. Your best friend may like him, but it's a guy. Your best friend would have to be very shallow to hate you over this guy, and you don't have to stop YOUR feelings just for a best friend.


ok ive been getting all these achs in my neck and legs all the time, and i dont know how, i do play sports but they arent from that. can anyone tell me whats wrong? thanks
*marielle* (link)
I've been getting aches on my neck lately until yesterday I figured that my necklace that I haven't taken off in about 5 months irritated my skin. If you wear a lot of anklets and necklaces, that could be the problem jewelry wise, otherwise, I wouldn't know.


What is the average height for a 12 year old? (link)
there's no avergae height for anyone, you just grow due to heredity and adolescence. most people may be around 4'8-5'3


What does a guy do when they finger you ? does it hurt? could you explain what it feels like help please
i'll rate good!!! (link)
it sounds really gross, but in fingering .. this is where the guy and his finger come in. he sticks his finger up your "private area"

it's supposed to feel good, and if he triggers a spot, you're likely to have an orgasm.


ok, well, before i go to school i want to look really good for the first day, and im scared because lately i have been gettin pimples on my face (not for the first time) and i want to know if anybody has any tips on how to clear your face, or products that work over night (and actually work) plz tell me!

second, i want my teeth to be white, but the white strips are like 20 dollars, does anybody know tips about that too! thanx alot! bye!

>>I RATE (link)
Clean and Clear Advantage Acne Spot treatmeant. its 6 dollars, and busts those zits in a day or less. it also doesnt leave your skin red and irritated.. go to ym.com and check it out .. its supposed to be up there.


^15, female^

iight...i was w/ my firend and we were hanging out w/ some dudes all weekend...i knew one of them for a while and i had jst met this other 2 dudes and i only knew this one guy *Sam* for bout 2days and i lost *it* to him...i mean there where no feelings no nothing...i mean i don't even care that he hasn't called me or anything...but i feel like it's wrong..and that it makes me look like a whore cuz i did that...but i mean when ppl ask me i'm like yeah i knew him for 2 yrs(but i really only knew him for 2days)...cuz i don't want anyone to think bad of me!...but i did tell myself that i'm not going to have sex till my next boyfriend that i'm serious bout...so does it make me seem like a whore that i lost it to some guy i hardly knew?..and is it tru that you can go to hell for have sex w/ someone you don't love? (link)
theres no way you would go to hell. if god is really what we say, isn't he the one that chose you to it? I mean, maybe this guy could end up being the one for you, or either its just another lesson learned. and there's no way you're a whore, thats just childish for people to call you that.


Hi I'm 14 and I'm 5'2ish. I weigh 110. I wear a C cup and I think around a 3 in jeans. (Not sure maybe a 5) But the problem is, I look at everyone else and I feel that I should weigh 100 or 105. I was going to do chrunches and things to loose weight. But I'm always too lazy. (lol) I used to dance and do gymnastics ever since i could walk. (not gymnastics, I just started that) But I quit. Um..what's your advice on, if I should not worry about it, since I'm still growing or be more cautious because I seriously don't want to gain too much weight. I want to be considered skinny, not in the middle, which I am now? Also, I love to eat! (lol) I think it's kind of an emotional thing for me. I'm definitely not fat or anything like that but I don't think that I could give up food. Thanks for your help! (link)
im the same exact size as you .. but a year younger. don't worry about it, i have friends a little bigger than me, and they still look like everyone else. i don't know about your school, but at mine, my size is considered "Built" instead of "Fat" .. just thing in more positive ways.


I just found out that if you have anal sex that if you have anal sex then your not a virgin! is that really true? and..i wanna no if a guy cums while his penis is in a gurl (during anal) can she still get pregnant..and if the girl gets cum on her front side and doesn't whip it off right away can she get pregnant? hurry I need to know!!!


PLEASE I NEED SOME ANSWERS!!! (link)
yes you're not a virgin. hint there is the word SEX. and no, you cant get pregnant. its anal, theres no way "fishes" can reach your eggs.


If you use a condom, can you still get an STD? (link)
actually, yes. but its a slim chance. both sexes are available for it. if you look it up, theres a 98% chance you WONT get an STD


i'm dieing my hair at the end of the summer and i was wondering, what are some good hair dyes that won't ruin my hair???? help!! (link)
i just dyed my hair 2 days ago. i used Clairol Natural Instincts. it works really well, and it gets your roots. it also comes with a conditioner to use after the dye, that makes your har soft and shiney. its suppose to come out in 28 shampoos, unless you went a shade different. if you dont like it when you see it, scrub really well, and shampoo a few extra times, and it'll come out pretty fast.


Hey I was just wondering what kind of shampoo's work the best, I wanna have a nice, straight look with not that many frizzy's if its possible.. lol thanks! (link)
i use Pantene-Pro V. they have different color-coded bottles which have different formulas. and if they are good, but dont exactly get what you need, try a new formula, or use a Bed Head product.


my friend Jay invited me to this party saturday night then a few mins later he said that I might not be able to go bc this girl that I don't along with will be there. But if i did wanna go I will have to ask this other kid. But me and this other kid aren't really friends. he's just planning it and the party is at jay's. So should I go?? Jay is afraid the girl will start stuff with me and there will be a huge fight. sry if this is confusing but thanx for the help (link)
i would try to avoid this "girl" and if she starts stuff with you, try not to react in the stupid way she is. and if she insults you, then say "thanks" or "i know" in a non sarcastic way


There have been questions about hickeys on here, but what exactly are they? (link)
hickeys are a slight bruise from a kiss, usually unintentional. all it means is you might have gotten a little too passionate..


Ok this question is for all the sexy ladies out there. Why is it that when a guy looks at a girl and makes a sound or says something about it, we get yelled at or lectured? I mean you can't tell me that you girls don't look at guys and mention something to your friends everynow amd then. I'm single and I still get yelled at for looking. So please answer. (link)
girls are selfconcious, and they dont believe that they're that hot, cute or pretty. just dont be like "Wow, that girl is hot" right infront of her, and if so, say it in a better way like "that girl is pretty", and dont look seductivly, or pevertedly. some girls dont like it and they feel the only reason why you seem intrested it because you like their physical appeal.




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