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I am here because I love to help others and make them happy, if I can. I am not a psychologist, wish I was, but I do offer good advice. I've studied my life and have learned so much. I would love to give out my lessons to those that need them and hope to put some smiles on some faces :)
Please feel free to visit my blog and message me if you need any advice. I will gladly be there for you if I can.
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I have a FAFSA loan thing that I have to do for school. Do you know how long I have until the deadline for it to be turned in? (link)
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Try checking the FAFSA website, they should have all deadline information on there.
If you need anything else, let me know.
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Do you have any suggestion for a birthday gift that ALL men like? I don't know him that well, but I want to give him something he will really remember. :) (link)
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Ummm let\'s see. If he is into cars you can surprise him and take him to see a car show. Or if he likes something buy him something in that theme. A gift doesn\'t have to be an object it can be a special moment shared together.
If you don\'t know him well, then a nice shirt or a gift card would be nice.
Hope you find him something nice and I know he\'ll be grateful for anything you get him.
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Okay so I have been with my boyfriend for almost three months and, in my mind, things have seemed to be going okay. I'm 16 he's 15 and this is the first relationship for both of us, we're also both quite shy people so the relationship is moving quite slowly. We see each other most days at school and we've met up a few times at weekends and we don't text an awful lot. People say that we can't really class ourselves as being in a relationship and that we're being pathetic. I can kind of see what they're saying seeing as we don't make any physical contact with each other - we've awkwardly hugged once but that's as far as we've got.
I wouldn't mind moving things on a bit faster and being in contact with him more but I'm not really sure how to go about it. I have social anxiety so I am constantly scared of saying something wrong or annoying him by texting him too much.
Also, my best friend told me the other day that she and this other boy basically forced my boyfriend into asking me out. I had no idea about this now I'm worried that maybe he didn't have any intention of asking me out and he only did it to stop people bothering him.
On the other hand, he has bought me really nice presents for Christmas, Valentines Day and my birthday and always responds very quickly and positively whenever I suggest we meet up. He spends time with me at school rather than his friends and always seems to be happy spending time with me.
Basically I'm confused - I want a relationship that people don't class as pathetic but I don't know if that's what he wants. (link)
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First of all, who cares what others think. If you personally want a relationship with your boyfriend more close, then you have all right to have that.
I would suggest that you talk to your boyfriend and tell him you heard about the asking you out and would like to know what is that about. After you hear what he has to say then you can decide where you guys stand. As for him caring, it seems he does since he shows he cares in thoughtful ways. But it would be nice to hear it from him and this way you will feel more sure of what you guys have.
I understand you are shy and so is he, nothing wrong with that. We all are different and some are out there and some are more quiet, and that\'s okay.
Do what your heart desires and not what others think you should do.
I\'m here if you need more advice.
Stay happy and enjoy life to the fullest.
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I am 21/f,from India, i had a relation in my past,but my ex tortured me mentally and physically and forcefully do sex with me.so i ended with him.after that i met my present boyfriend,started to love him.but because of my shameful past,i feel ashmed to tell him about my past affair.and i lied to him.but 9month ago my bf came to know about my past and asked about it and i told him everything.but now he feels that i used him,i deceived him,all the time he talking about my past give me no respects.he thinks that i am not a good girl or have any quality to be with him because i am not a virgin(we had also sex 2times),but his problem is that i slept with my ex,so i am just worthless for him.he can't understand my problems,my feelings,always drills me with my past and argued with me. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH,i know i was wrong that i lied to him.but am sorry for that.and wants marry him. But he can't forgive me. Plz suggest me something. (link)
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Girl you didn't lie to him. A lie is when someone ask you something and you don't say the truth. This guy didn't ask did he?
First of all, YOU ARE WORTH A LOT!!! Everyone has a past and so don't feel worthless because you went thru what you went thru. This Ex guy you dated manipulated you mentally and physically and that isn't your fault. You cared for him and wanted him and he didn't appreciate you. So don't carry that with you as a reason to feel worthless. Your worth isn't defined by someone else's behavior.
If your current boyfriend can't understand this then it is his problem not yours. Explain to him that you weren't ready to talk about your past and that you didn't talk because of that. If he insist feeling betrayed then give him space. Just let him clear his mind and you clear yours.
Once again you didn't do nothing wrong and your past shouldn't define you. You are complete and worth a lot.
I'm here if you need anything and please check out my blog.
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I had a big fight with my best friend (Or 'ex best friend'...?) and she said she was done. We've had fights like this before, but it felt different. Well she said a lot of stuff, including that she's done with me and our friendship.
Well, about 2 days later, she texts me and says she's sorry. It seemed kind of weird. She said that she really honestly is sorry and that she didn't mean it, but can I trust this? She means a LOT to me and I've kind of been sad these past few days, but what if it's a trick? (link)
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You are hurt. She made you feel awful with everything she said when she was upset. You feel let down and betrayed. You have the right to feel this way, so don't feel bad.
You can tell her that you can't accept her apology right now. That you feel let down and that you need some time. When you are ready you will let her know. Then take it day by day.
When you are ready talk to her and let me know how you feel.
Hope you girls can get back to how things were.
I'm here if you need more advice.
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theres this guy i like and he steals some glances at me sometimes and smiles at times and talks to me here and there what are 5 ways tto know he likes me? (link)
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He seems to like you to act that way with you.
Have you tried bringing out an invite? Like when you guys talk try to see what you both have in common. Then try setting up an invite.
Let me know if you have any more advice.
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Im 22, boyfriend is soon to be 26. Been together for 6 months. He by far treats me better than anyone and Im starting to really care for and love him. He's had a very bad past, and used to abuse pills and drugs and a lot of stuff. At the beginning I caught him abusing pills about 3-4 times. I could tell by the way he acted and a couple times he ended up telling me he did take one. He knew I wouldn't wanna be with him if he's doing that. Well, now i am certain he's gotta be doing something. He tells me he smokes weed sometimes, yet for months and months he's said how proud he is that he hasn't smoked at all. I confronted him the other day if he took pills and I told him I notice how sick he looks and gets out of no where and how he can't keep it up during sex. He'll look pale, complain about his heart beating weird, start sweating, sometimes feels cold to touch, and complains about not feeling right. That's when he said no I smoke sometimes though. Anyone know sure tell signs of someone taking pills? The ones he would be taking is like xanax or serious pain killers. He acts sketchy but I have no sure way to find out. What are signs? I don't think smoking the weed he smokes, which is wax (thc wax like marijuana) would do those symptoms? Plus, he's had those symptoms when he's been with me all day and I know he didn't have time to go smoke (I would have smelled it) (link)
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I'm truly sorry to hear you are going thru this. I know how happy you are to have found a guy that treats you very good and unfortunate that he is feeling this way.
To answer your questions on your bf. There is nothing you can do for him. He needs to want to leave whatever he is taking and only he can do that. Try talking him and asking him why he continues to do this to himself when he feels this bad. See how he responds. Tell him you love him and want to help him, but can only do that if he is willing to put in the work. Don't scream or get angry at him just see how he behaves.
If he continues his ways or doesn't want to change then you need to think of yourself. Are you going to allow this to hurt you or are you going to walk away.
I'm here if you need anything.
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My GF and I got a new roommate because we have extra room in our apartment and it lowers the rent. He loves to cook and is really outgoing. He makes big breakfasts, lunches, dinners and delicous desserts. He also insists that he will take care of shopping, errands, etc. if we just sit back and try one of his pies or something.
But he has also been doing all the laundry and over the past few months my GF said a lot of her shirts and pants were getting tighter and a lot of mine were too. We think he might be accidentally shrinking them in the wash. How can we go about doing something about this nicely? (link)
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Wow lucky girls! A guy that wants to do all the chores and not complain is a keeper :)
If he isn't doing the laundry properly you can just tell him that you both would rather do your own laundry. Tell him that you appreciate his help and wanting to do it, but that your clothes need to be washed and you rather do it yourself. He will understand.
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I am 14years old student today I got my report card my cgpa was very low. I don't know why it always happens to me i want to become a lawyer. my friends and family don't understand that i also don't like scoring low marks . For them i will be nothing if i don't score well . My sister is going through a lot after scoring low arks in 10th. i don't want to suffer. i don't know what to do so i choose this option the best . no society tension no parents tension . sorry my English is not my first language (link)
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Don't be hard on yourself. You are struggling and that's okay it happens to all of us. Try studying a bit more, or get a tutor. You can do this girl, don't give up.
I know your parents are frustrated but understand them they just want you to be happy and want the best for you. Try telling them you are going to put in more effort and hang in there.
If you need more advice, email me.
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Hi, I'm sorry, I didn't really know which category to put this in. If you could help me I would be grateful.
So I went to a school dance years ago and a random guy that I didn't know walked up and started dancing with me. It was okay at first but things started getting more...skeptical, I guess. He got behind me and started grinding up against me, and his hands held me at my waist. I felt slightly uncomfortable at this point but didn't say anything. Then his hands moved over the spot where my genitals were and his fingers were rubbing against that spot. That was when I tried to move away, but he just pulled me back and did it more. I tried to say 'no' and 'stop' but it didn't come out very loudly. I tried moving away several times.
My question is..is this considered sexual assault? (link)
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Why did you allow this? You ALWAYS have the right to say no. This guy was a stranger he had no right to do such a thing to you.
Anytime someone does something to you without your consent, it is consider assault.
How do you feel about this incident? If you would like to talk, please email me.
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Why am I so shy?
I am from India.I am very shy , I know that's a disadvantage but I can't stop being shy. I am not confident. I can't speak out in public. I can't sing out loud. Dance in front of anyone except my teacher and the other children who learn. I know I sing good, everyone says I do. But the thing that keeps me hidden is shy, lack of confidence. I want to sing , dance , speak out , like my other friends do. They don't sing, dance good but still they do it confidently. I want to open up like everyone else. Even in my school, class,if a question is been asked, I know it but I'm scared it will go wrong, so I don't answer. I want you to suggest me that what should I do to overcome these obstacles. Or what my problem actually is. Thank you. (link)
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Don't be hard on yourself. Not everyone is able to be that way. Some of us are more private and tend to not show that part of us, until we are comfortable. So don't push yourself to be that way, it will happen when it should happen.
Being quiet, shy or reserve isn't bad. If you want to change that then start slowly. How about trying to be more sociable. Try talking to one person in a crowd and going from there. A crowd is intimidating at first, but if you focus on a person it makes things easier.
Don't be hard on yourself once again. Take it slowly and embrace your qualities. Just because you are from India doesn't mean you can't be out there.
Email me if you would like more help.
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A little background, my boyfriend and I are 24 and 25. A month ago he got his second DUI. He does not have the means to pay for a lawyer so I offered to help. I gave my card to him to give to the lawyer but I never signed anything allowing my permission and what not.
Anyway, today I find out my BF has lied to me for about the millionth time (my fault I suppose for sticking around). I became so livid and the first thing I could think to do was to text him and tell him I am canceling the payment to the lawyer. So, I e-mailed the lawyer and got the card canceled. I have calmed down a lot since and feel like the biggest bitch in the world for doing that. I feel that I overreacted and am looking for advice on how to fix it. Thought about emailing the lawyer explaining I just didn't want anything charged till I could read an agreement. I don't know what to do just feel bad for actually going through with it.
I understand my BF was in the wrong for lying but ultimately I could have reacted differently. Just need help please. (link)
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I think you're making excuses for his behavior. You clearly state that he has lied many times over and over. Why do you keep allowing this? I know you love him but when is enough?
I am glad you were able to cancel everything with the lawyer. From what you wrote it seems like you have a very good heart but you have to let him pay for his mistakes. I know it hurts to see him go through stuff but if you are always there for him, he won't ever learn the lessons.
Don't feel guilty girl, you didn't do anything wrong. If he gets mad, just think of all the times he has lied to you.
Hang in there and I'm here if you need anything.
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When me and my girlfriend met we were both very slim and fit. We watched what we ate and were always at the gym. We also used to make fun of the fat people in our group of friends.
We have been living together for years now (since graduation) and the scale has risen and so have our thighs. I have got a big potbelly now, and her buttocks have gotten huge. I guess it's just overindulgence in the sweets (cakes and pies on dates, donuts with our feet up watching TV).
Bottom line, though, our friends from college (we all graduated 2 years ago and have been quite busy) invited us to wing night to reunite again (and it does sound fun). But, the last time they saw us we were wearing tight jeans, nice shoes on me, heels on her. Now, I wear sweatpants with socks and sandles, and my girlfriend wears stretch pants with slippers.
On top of that, they have all been dieting and spending time in the gym, so they all lost the weight.
So my question is: should we go to wing night, a night that involves eating messy food with your hands, when we both got fat? (even worse, we used to be the skinny couple that made fun of the fatties in the group), now I can barely button my pants, she complains that she can't see her slippers when she looks down, and we both are out of breath, grabbing our knees after we go up a few stairs.
I just dont want the people who know us as the "fitness elitists" to see us walk in slowly, breathing heavily. Not to mention, the sight of us sitting with a pile of wings, with sauce all over ourselves, eating with our hands.
I also feel bad for my girlfriend because one of our friends whose weight my girlfriend joked about a lot, will be there, and she too has lost it all. It doesn't seem fair that she should be able to watch her pig out on a sloppy meal.
So, should we go? (link)
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Sorry to hear you and your girlfriend have gained a lot of weight. Just think that life is that way. We loose some, we gain some. It might be due to you both making fun of the overweight people or just not taking care of your bodies. Is their a reason you both stopped eating well and working out? Is their something going on with you both that made you loose interest on your health?
As for the invite, my advice is to go if you think you'll enjoy yourselves. Don't worry on what others might think, just think will we have fun. Your friends if they are good friends won't judge but understand. If they behave incorrectly, then you know where your friendship stands.
Don't be hard on yourselves. Yes, you have gained weight but you can loose it. Instead of spending plenty of time on the couch, go out for a walk. Any exercise will help, as long as you continue doing it. And your eating habits should change too.
Hope you have a great time if you decide to go.
Email me if you have any questions and check out my blog: http://lovelysweetz.wix.com/lovelysweetz
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Me and my boyfriend have just started dating, and he already wants a kid. I am 17 and he is 18, I love kids, BUT I'm not 100% I'm ready. I am a girl to likes to go out and have fun. Any suggestions on how to handle it? (link)
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First of all congrats on your new relationship.
As for having kids, what is the rush? You two are very young have fun together. Having kids isn't easy and you will have to give up many things you enjoy doing.
I would suggest you talk to him and make him understand you want to wait until you are more older to have kids. Also, is their a reason he is rushing into having kids?
A good way to make him see how hard it is to have kids would be to spend time with kids. The more you are around kids the more you will see what a handful they really are.
Enjoy your teenage years and don't do anything you don't want to.
Email me if you need more advice.
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