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E-mail: valerieleeman@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Ontario, Canada
Occupation: Student
Age: 17
Member Since: April 2, 2014
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So, there are two people at this point in life I would call my best friends. There's a guy, my age(19), who for all intents and purposes will be referred to as Bob, and a girl a year younger than us, who I'll call, oh, I don't know, Jasmine I guess.
We've all graduated high school and work in the area, and Bob and I hang out close to every day. Jasmine on the other hand doesn't get to hang out with us very often because we usually work opposite shifts. On the occasion that I do see Jasmine, it's usually in public and she always makes a very sneaky, yet high-energy and flirty entrance.
She'll always sneak up from behind and hug me tightly, or tickle just under my ribs, or something along those lines. She's always so happy to see me, sticks close and always has some kind of contact, and always has a smile on her face. Now, I understand this is how a lot of girls are with their friends, but she isn't. She - and I, too, actually - hate physical contact with practically everyone. She has literally - on several occasions - noticed me or my car somewhere and stopped in to surprise me.
This is how I know her to act when she's flirting. It's how she's acted with boyfriends in the past, and with her current boyfriend, only even more so with me. And I don't mind, except the fact that we're both in serious relationships.
If she wasn't living with a boyfriend and I hadn't been in the same relationship for 3 and a half years, I would love it. She's very attractive, completely adorable, and I've always felt a connection with her. Our personalities
But, because we've both been in relationships, I've done my best to remain sort of ambiguous about my interactions with her. I don't want to encourage anything, but I don't want to falsely act as though I'm not at all attracted to her.
So, what should I make of this and how should I handle it? Should I ignore it for now, or talk to her about it? Sorry for the long question.
Thanks in advance for any opinions! (link)
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I'm a 17 year old girl, I would say to be honest and say something. Tell her that you are feeling a little uncomfortable (if you are) with her actions and that you understand you are good friends but you are BOTH in relationships, and be honest with her about "Yeah, you're not a bad looking girl" but... you both are in serious relationships. If you ignore the topic it could go farther than intended, and that will mess up two perfect relationships. Tell her to take it down a few notches, and that you will always be there to talk and be around but not for the flirty kind of attitude from her. Hope this helped a little!
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My dad sucks at driving, but you can't tell him that because he'll argue that he's the greatest driver you'll ever meet. To him, a good driver is someone who can maneuver the car well an do cool tricks. To me, and I hope to anyone else, a good driver is someone who is careful, follows the rules of the road, and cares more about safety than being cool.
My dad speeds, takes annoyingly hard turns, slams on the gas and on the brakes, has bad road rage, and texts while driving. He'll also take his eyes off the road to look at the passengers in the car while he talks to them. Once, he fell asleep while driving and when my sister woke him up, he yelled at her, "What? I was sleeping!"
He says that the only other person he knows who was better at driving than he is was my uncle who died in a car accident before I was born. That accident was not completely his fault, but it was partially.
Before that though, he was hated by most of our town for another accident he caused. He was trying to pass a car, but when he got in the next lane to do so, there was a car coming down that lane in the opposite direction. He didn't have much time to pass the car in front of him before he hit the car in the next lane, so the safe thing to do would have been to pull back over into his own lane. Instead of doing that though, he floored it and hit the other car head on. The woman in the car was a mother to small children. She was sent to the hospital where she was told to stay in bed due to a blood clot that the accident caused. She didn't obey the order and got up, which caused the blood clot to break and the woman to die.
People blamed my uncle, but he took no responsibility for it. My dad and grandparents saw no reason why he should. People wrote my grandparents letters saying that if they were good people, they'd help that woman's children I guess by giving them money, but they wouldn't do it. They said that it was the woman's own fault for getting up. The thing is though, that it never would have happened if he hadn't pulled something stupid and caused that accident.
I can't explain what it says to me that my grandparents wouldn't help that woman's kids and that they and my dad don't see any fault my uncle has in her death. It just makes me disappointed in them and it scares me because they don't seem to have learned anything from the accident. I can totally see my dad doing something like what my uncle did someday. He's so convinced that my uncle was such a great driver that he hasn't learned anything from either accident (that one or the one he died in). At least not what he should have learned.
How do I tell my dad that he needs to work on his driving an that he shouldn't follow my uncle's examples without sounding like a total @$$ hole? (link)
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Maybe you don't even need to tell him he doesn't need to follow your uncle, but tell him what can happen if he does stupid things. Ask him if he'd like to leave his children and wife (if he is married) due to his death in a car crash. Ask if he would like to get in a car accident and be the reason for his own children's death, not saying this will happen but according to your story it is a possibility to happen. Tell him you refuse to drive with him anywhere until he smartens up, and if he doesn't smarten up you won't go anywhere with him, and let him know you won't let your sister go with him either! I don't know the kind of guy he is, if any of that will shaken him up a little or think about it, but it's worth a try! I hope this helped a little bit!
Stay Golden!
xoxo
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I'm a junior in highschool and there's this boy in my history class. He sits two seats to my right and there's another kid that sits between us. Is there a way I can start a conversation without it being weird or awkward? I don't really know him, but I would like to.. any ideas?? (link)
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Starting up a conversation with an attractive boy in high school can be very nerve racking. I'm in grade 11, I know exactly what you are thinking!
The other answers were right too, talking to the boy next to both you and him might make him join in too! Give him a few smiles here and there too! Try talking to him before and after classes, and maybe sometimes even walking to his locker with him (if you have lockers at your school). Sometimes joining in for class discussions can help to, I always hated doing this, but it has helped me a few times. He will notice how smart you are and he might even want to strike up a conversation with you! :) Sometimes I even think about it so much I just gain the nerve up in a split second, if you ever gain confidence for a second do it, don't hesitate you won't regret it! :)Hope this helped a little bit!
Stay Golden!
xoxo
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Hi i am a 19 year old guy with no where to go , and I am here because i need advice.... My fiance wants us to get her brand new car,that her parents gave to her, after we get married (with payments left) ......i will practically be paying for the whole car since its brand new and i think ill end up being in debt....what do i do ?? (link)
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This is coming from a 19 year old girl, if her parents gave her the car, YOU SHOULD NOT BE PAYING OFF THE PAYMENTS! You should be straight honest with her about you possibly going into debt. I think if her parents gave it to her, her parents OR her should be paying for it seeing it's hers. Don't let the girl get money out of you, I don't want to sound rude because I don't know you, but if shes expecting you to pay her payments you must make good money, so I hope she's not using you.
Hope this helped a little!
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I didn't expect to get this. I wanted a list of ways to STOP THIS. I CAN'T DO THIS ANYMORE! I even called a suicide hotline # about a month ago and was put on hold about a dozen times. I kept getting the same lady everytime I called and she clearly did not want to listen to me.
I need help...soon. I have called every number, talked to people, and been used by the rest.
Is there anybody out there who can help? The thought of even starting another month is too much. (link)
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I'm a girl that has done self harm, and have had thoughts of suicide. I don't know what you're situation is, but just tell yourself it's not worth it. Obviously the hotline number isn't going to work, and maybe the best thing is asking people on the internet for advice, though there will be a lot of smart asses out here that will give you rude answers ignore them as well and take the ones that help you out. I just lay down and relax, even sleep for a while. The effect isn't permanent, but the thoughts go away for a little while. We don't know each other what so ever, but I'm sure you will find the light in your life. After all, you can't get a little sunshine without a little rain! Hope this helped you out a little!
Stay Golden!
xoxo
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So my boyfriend and i of almost 2 years broke up two weeks ago. We roke up earlier before and got back together for theee months jan-march. And we spent that time just kinda doing sexual things but not to the point if sex each time we saw each other during the three months. I just thought it was because we know each other so much and have bonded already so we dont exactly need it even though i wanted it sometimes either hed be horny and wsnt me to give him a blowjob or id get turned on and make him yeah. We practically see each other about once a week or sometimes two weeks. He broke it off and then told me that it was because he felt like he was just teying to make me happy in the relationship and that he was falling out of love. That he gave it his all the first time and this time he didnt try as hard. He told his friend(s?) about his situation with me and they didnt thinkthat we would work out. And he even used that as a reason to break up with me. There were two times however that we did have timeto hangout with each other as lovers without the kissing or sexual things. And wen we roke up i was emotional and asked him tell me were you happy during those two times because you laughed and smiled the entire day. But he didnt answer. Lately for the two weeks ive been in no contact with him hecause otherwise id be emotional around him if i texted him. But ive noticed and i have to admit i looked for it also but hes been checking gmy snapchat story even though i didnt send it to him for two weeks. And then once last weekend i texted him and asked to hang out and he told me that how about no youre getting rid of the bs on your wall so im getting rid of the bullshit in my life. Refering to my recent snapchat of my wall that used to have his posters and pictures on it. Well so far ive had one foot out the door for moving on but i really still want to stay with him because he made me so happy and our history together. I just dor know ehatto do because i feellike if i contact him asking to see him hes going to say some mean things. Can you please give me advice on hat to do. Ive been having dream about trying to get back with him for the past week and i keep waking up at 3ish because of it. An so when i wake ip i just feel sad because i know he isnt together with me anymore and i dont know what i should do. (link)
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I'm not quite sure how old you's are, but you both sound young. I'm 17 and had a fair share of relationships as hard as it is to say, and my last one was the worst. I go by the saying "Everything happens for a reason", and this is one of the things that the quote goes for! The hardest part of the break up isn't the break-up itself, it's actually the moving on part. I know things will get emotional sometimes, and you will miss their company like crazy, but maybe this was for the best! It's like a second chance to find someone even better than him. Don't go out looking for someone though, let them come to you... that's when you know they are truly interested in you. I hope I helped you out a little bit!
Stay Golden!
xoxo
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Sorry, this might get kinda long...
I'm fifteen and a sophomore. When I graduate high school, I will be seventeen.
I've been thinking of my future and I just don't know... I understand I'm young, but my parents aren't paying for my college, and when I'm 18 I need to be in college and paying rent, or move out.
So I'd like to get my future at least vaguely figured out.
Now, I like psychology. I've been looking into it, and I'm interested in being a counselor(therapist maybe?) for children and teens who were abused, have disorders or are depressed.
I want to help them overcome it, I know a few people who attempted suicide or were suicidal, most of them were very close to me. I also have a niece and nephew who where abused the first three years of their lives. And now my niece lives with us and I see what that did to her mentally everyday.
My problem is that, most people say I'd need a Ph.D, and that's expensive.
And I'm not the best at learning and retaining information, I'm also dyslexic and possibly have more learning disabilities, so I'm worried about all of the schooling...
On the other hand, my family say I'm a good singer. And I love music too, and I'm very interested in that. But I could never see myself on stage singing for people. I was nervous when I had to sing with a group of people in front of my small church...
Last week, one of my closest friends, who is also dyslexic and not the best at school, told me of a college in the next state over from us, that has a course for, in short, training horses(forgot the actual name). It would be a year long course and they would give you your own horse to take care of, it doesn't involve math or anything like that and is only around 8,000$. I live a small town in the country so I am very familiar with horses and love farms and animals.
So not only would I go to college with my friend, considering I'm really shy, but I'd also do something I enjoy.
I was thinking maybe doing the one year course, then saving my money training horses and such, before going back to school and either pick a degree, or double majoring in psychology and music.
My mom also says I could go to a text school and get my generals out of the way since it's cheaper, then go to a college where the credits from the text school will transfer there. But I don't know...
I am well aware that in the end it is my decision.
I just would like other peoples opinions on the matter...
Any responses are greatly appreciated. (link)
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For me, I'm 17 and I want to be a Child and Youth Worker, I have no money saved up and I'll be done school when I'm 18. I think you're doing a good job figuring out what you want to do, and that you spent a lot of time thinking it all over. You could always go take care of the horses, and save up money and go for something you really want if you don't think that's what you want to do! You're still young, and you have lots of time to officially decide what you want to do! All the choices you picked are amazing, and I think you will figure it all out within time!
You're also 15, you can officially get a job! That will help you out a lot for saving for college! I hope this helped you out a little!
Stay Golden!
xoxo
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I am a virgin and am considering having sex with my boyftiend. Can someone tell me what to expect painwise. How long will it hurt. Will iy hurt the whole time. Will i bleed? (link)
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Every woman's experience in losing their virginity is different! When I lost my virginity, I didn't feel any pain, and I didn't bleed. Other girls that have told me their experience have told me that it hurt a lot, and that it hurt for a little while after and some bled a lot. Not to seem weird, but it sometimes depends on how big his penis is! I hope this helped you a little bit, and I hope you get everything figured out!
Stay Golden!
xoxo
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