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Hey guys! It's Kathleen! I'm 14 and I'm going to FMHS! I love answering this kind of thing, and I love giving advice to whoever needs it! I might not always tell you the right thing to do, but I think I'm pretty good at it. So, ask me something, and I'll answer you A.SA.P.! Later!
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i have very small eyes..what make-up tricks can i use to make them look bigger? i rate=D
White eyeliner makes your eyes look bigger... Don't use dark make up, it will make them a LOT smaller looking, which you don't want.
ok so, i am only 13 years old. and i think i might be in love! my boyfriend is only 13 too. and i heard that he is like...an intch close to loving me! so now im scared bc i have never been in love before and i really dont want to get hurt. so do i break up with him before i get hurt or do i go with it and get hurt! i really need some help and ill rate high to anyone that gives some good advice.
If you really love him (which is rare at 13, but it could definitely happen!) then just keep going with things! It's better to love and be hurt then never loved at all. But... there's one thing that's strange... you "heard" he's an inch close to loving you? That means he doesn't yet... so, maybe try to get to the point where you both love each other before you go too far in your relationship. Don't break up with him yet... Loving someone is not a reason to break up, but just assess your feelings and don't let yourself get hurt. The biggest mistake girls your age (and my age and pretty much any teenager) makes is to center their lives around a boy, so when he decides he's not so into her anymore, she falls apart. Don't let that happen to you by staying busy doing other things while still paying attention to him.
Ok so I used to like this guy. Then I got to know him better. He was a total jerk. Now I don't like him anymore, but still I feel really weird around him and I kind of shrink back. Do you think I still like him subconsciously or sumthin? by the way I'm 14f
sorry if this sounds stupid and petty and selfcentered but I really need to know!!!
You might still like him. People fall for jerks all the time even though they don't really want to. If you shrink back when you're around him, I'd just not be around him as much if you want to be done with him.
i need help!!! i am 14 and i am having a baby and my mom is really strict...should i tell her about it? hide it from her? what do i do!!! help me! i rate high!!!
Hard to hide a baby, don't you think? Tell her, cos she's gonna find out anyways... Anyways, you messed up pretty bad by doing this, cos you're definitely not old enough to handle it if you get on Advicenators because you don't know what to do. So, I suggest you call one of those Planned Parenthood things and find out what you need to do. And, find the dad (if you haven't told him) and tell him. He should support your kid too, so make sure he doesn't get off easy. You're not old enough to get a good job, so you're in real trouble unless you can get financial support somewhere else.
Consider adoption. =/ This kid needs parents who are ready to BE parents, and it doesn't sound like that's your situation right now. DON'T abort your baby. If you don't want him or her, at least let him or her live happily somewhere else... Hope I helped.
does anyone know any shampoos/conditioners that make your hair like really silky??? i use pantene but my hair like got used to it and it doesnt work very well anymore... 5 for good answers...
I'm answering this because I love my shampoo. Dove is the best especially the moisture stuff. I straighten and blow dry my hair, and it doesn't get all dried out... :D
ok well this kid online asked me for my ip code
what is a ip code? and how do i change it if i need to?
ill rate 5s
IP codes or address are the series of numbers and stuff that identifies you computer from all the other computers and has all your files and that stuff. I wouldn't give it out to anyone... You might get a virus or something, iono, but don't.
I have really long hair and I like to keep a defined hairline. When I was at a water park recently, I got a really bad sunburn on my head where it's parted. Any ideas on what I can do to make it feel better at least? I mean, how much can you do for a sunburn on your head?
Ohh, that's happened to me before... To avoid it in the future, pull your hair back so it covers your part, wear a hat (visors won't do anything sadly) or (I wouldn't do this but... hey, whatever) use the spray sunscreen stuff on your part... How to make it feel better? Aloe vera helps burns... But yeah, it'll go away soon, but make sure you did one of the above things if you don't want it again.
Okay... my old friend constantly had boyfriends but I know I am prettier than her...and people have told me that but I can't seem to get a boyfriend. All the guys just want to have sex but not be in a relationship with me. I am 17 and have never been in a relationship. I know I can get a boyfriend but they all want to just have sex. Is there something wrong with me?
No, there's something wrong with all the boys you're meeting. And getting a boyfriend doesn't always have to do with being pretty. Maybe look at the boyfriends your friend has, cause if they're interested in real relationships, you should go for the type of guy your friend is dating... don't like, steal her boyfriend or ex, but consider changing your taste in guys. Just hold out you'll find the right guy...
see the thing is i have alot of friends but not one best friend i can do everything with. i want my one friend to be my bff but i dunno how, its really confusing and even tho i have friends i feel so alone.....help please
... becoming best friends isn't something that you make happen, it's something that just kind of appears over time. No one just starts out best friends, you make a friend, then you get so close that you just know you're best friends. And, best friends don't DO everything together, they're just always there for each other and know each other. If you've known this girl for a long time you probably are best friends. And don't worry about being friends or best friends. It's pretty much the same in the end.
i have to go to a graduation party tomorrow and theres a swimming pool and everyones gunna be swimming! well i just got my period for the first time thursday night ( graduation party's sunday) should i swim? and if i do do i wear a tampon? please help what do i do?
Hey... well, for some people, your period stops when you go in the water (dunno why, but it does), but it's probably your best bet to wear a tampon... Just read the instructions and you'll do great, but if you're deathly afraid, just go and stay in the water most of the time and wrap a towel around yourself when you get out... rate me!
hey kath, this is rachael. im wondering why my site doesnt have any questions yet. its been up for a week or two now... i dont know why people arent asking me for advice. :-(. can u help me? everyone out there my sn is xblackfirenightx so please go to my column and ask some questions too, but dont neglect kathleen here! :-)
~rachael~
Sorry I didn't answer this WAAAAAAY sooner, I've been REALLY busy lately! Anyyyways, put it in your profile/away messages and stuff and you'll get more questions... You rock, we haven't talked in a WHIIIIILE. Sorry I couldn't call you back on Sat. night, after Casey left my mother was like ROAR KATHLEEN DON'T CALL THIS LATE! And I was like -_-; Yeeeah, so, I'm gonna call you tonight. Lmao, you probably won't even read this, but I'm in LEAP and exxxxxtremely bored. =O =D Mkay, talk to you soon.
LEAP < whatever you're doing right now.
-kaaaathleen
I'm 15 and I live in Oklahoma. I think I have feelings for someone in the grade below me. Naturally, most people would say that's alright, right? Well I have a brother in his grade and he has a brother in my grade and somehow those factors make it a bit awkward..
Is this okay that I have feelings for someone who is a little younger than me? I really can't help it.. He really makes me laugh and we get in trouble for talking in class and he has gorgeous eyes and the most adorable smile... and he's pretty much the opposite of all the other guys I've had interest in.
My other problem is that I think I still have feelings for my ex-boyfriend. We're still good friends and I'm generally one of the only girls he talks to. He'd tell me he loved me so much and I thought I could see in his eyes that he meant it. Then, SUDDENLY he ended it, but I don't see how you could stop having feelings for someone that quickly! Did he just never love me, or do you think it's possible he still does?
Hmm... Well, first of all, for this guy who's younger than you, I would say it's fine. If you really think he's that great, it shouldn't matter how old he is... I'm not sure if this will be relevant/irrelevant to the situation, but my mom is 8 years older than my dad =O but they're still happily married and everything's fine... Right now it might seem weird to date someone younger than you, but in a few years it will be perfectly normal anyways, so give it a shot!
As for your ex-boyfriend-
Did you ever ask him why he broke up with you? Write him an e-mail or a note asking and seeing what exactly went wrong...
The ultimate decision: who do you like more, the younger guy or your ex? And, if it is your ex, does he still love you?
I hope I helped, IM me on TobleroneKiddo if you need more advice! Good luck!
Hy, i'm in 7th grade and i'm 13. I'm going out with this kid. and hes really nice and sweet and all...but i do not know if i like him or not. He likes me..a lot. but i think i like this other person. Hes really hott, and i think he likes me b/c he always stares at me, but i'm going out w/ the other person. and they're both good friends. I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO AT ALL!! should i stay with my bf or go with the other guy?
-Konfused Kid
7th grade = not old enough to have a boyfriend unless you REALLY think you love him... Which could happen, but that's a slim chance. Maybe tell this nice hot guy that you'd like to take a break and become friends...
Maybe go out with this hot guy... But the nice guy sounds nicer. And isn't that what you want in the end?
IM me on TobleroneKiddo for more advice if you need it and good luck!
ok i like this guy righT? well hes going out w/ my friend..lets say her name is casey. So i'm best friends with casey and shes going out w/ the guy i have liked, for a very long time. One of my friends told me to trick him into liking me..but i dont want to hurt casey. I mean yeah i love him and all, but the thing is casey is my best friend, and i told casey for the first time i liked *him* about 1 month ago...and the next day..she came up to me and was like OMG hes my bf now!! and i was like oh that great casey i'm happy for you! and she just shrugged it off like she didn't even care. i dont know what to do! should i just wait and let them die off..(Which they will thats what casey does) or should i share my feelings with him? btw i'm about 13
... Alright, well, I'd say that this guy isn't worth you and "Casey"'s friendship... Tell the guy how you feel, but also tell him that you and Casey's friendship is more important, and ask him who he truly likes better... If it turns out to be you, YESSS! but be nice to Casey. If it turns out to be Casey... ='( Sorrry. But relationships these days don't last that long, usually... So don't worry about it and be happy for your friend! IM me on TobleroneKiddo if you need more help, and good luck!
There is this girl at school. I like her alot. She said she used to like me. I want her to like me again. How can this be accomplished?
Hey! Thanks for... er, questioning? Heh heh. =D
Anyways, this girl... when did she like you? And how do you know? Leave me some more information or I can't help much... If you don't want to leave anymore information, here's my half-thought out response-
Go up to the girl, say I like you, see what she does. If she gives you a weird look, just run away. If she doesn't, say whatever hits you at that moment. =D
ok I will try to explain this the best way I can without it sounding confusing! lol.
Earlier this year I started to like this guy. It was just an innocent crush at first until I really started to have feeling for him. He knew I liked him too. That freaked me out a little so I shied away from him when I saw him because I wanted to avoid the akward situation. Well I guess that wasn't the best thing to do because next thing I know he has a girlfriend. I was pretty upset but I wasn't going to die or anything because you know it only last a matter of time. So I waited until they broke up, which they did. Now was my chance! Exept for one thing... One of my best friends likes him and he likes her back and now they are going out. What am I supposed to do! I don't want to act all happy for her because I am not. Plus now that they are going out I will be having to see a lot more of him because chances are my friend will bring him along anywhere she goes. Am I just not meant to go out with him! Help!
He and your friend will break up eventually. This happened with my friends only a few weeks ago. Tell your friend you'd like to keep your friendship and their relationship seperate. IM me on TobleroneKiddo if you need more help!
And- did your friend KNOW you liked him before going out with him?
Okay. I'm 16... and there is an extremely good looking and ultra popular boy that I've hooked up with. Nothing serious.. and I'm not willing to go into what we did. But it was pretty much understood that we didn't want to become bf/gf or have any feelings and that I was probably his random hookup. I want to keep it that way, although I'm starting to get feelings for him. Have I totally screwed myself over? What do I do?
To be honest, yes. You probably shouldn't have done that, because now you'll always be expecting a little more from your relationship.
I'd confront this boy and tell him how you feel. However he takes it will reflect the overall result of your relationship. If he's a good friend, he'll understand that you need more from him than just one hook up.
Good luck! IM me on TobleroneKiddo if you need further advice.
i asked u a question before about my boyfriend... and how wed gone out a few times before and i guess i worded it wrong... weve gone out a couple of times but we went out for a really really long time each time.. and it was really nice.. then one of us would get all weird and then break up then wayyy later wed go out again. its not like we go out for a few days then break up then go out the next day or nething... so i dunno if that makes it different
i just cant stand to be with him too much cause it breaks my heart.. theres way too mne memories!
Look, I know how you feel. I went out with Colton, my ex, twice, (God only knows why) and I knew after the first break up that it wasn't going to work, so going out a second time was just a dumb mistake. Once you break up at this age, that's it. If you were like, 16 or older or REALLY serious about your relationship, it might work.
If it's really that bad to be w/ him because of "memories", you need to make new memories with you friendship instead of dwelling on something that has a slim chance of happening. It sounds like this guy doesn't take your relationship nearly as seriously as you do, which is never good.
You can always fall back on your old friends and family and stuff, so get worried over this boy. He might seem worth it right now, but soon enough you'll forget about it.
IM me on TobleroneKiddo if you need more help, good luck!
im really jealous of one of my friends. weve been friends forever and i still luv her alot, but im finding myselfe jealous of HER luv life. i dont know if theres anything i can do to help that or not cuz she doesnt have a boyfrind or nething but i always feel like im in a competition to see who gets noticed by the boys. i dont think that i am normally very attractive, and if i do look decent on sum days, that one friend ALWAYS looks better then me ..am i thinkin about this too hard. meybe i should just relax..but i dont know what to do.
Well, I'd say that you shouldn't worry so much about looking good or being attractive or whatever. If whatever boy you like is worth it, he'll like you for your personality and stuff and not just whatever clothes or make-up you wear. If you're really stuck on being attractive, I'd ask your friend on how she looks so good every day... I really wouldn't worry too much about this, though.
Plus, most boys usually don't notice what you're wearing anyways. XD
Good luck!
my mom's been really freaking out about how i have a low c in science, even though i've been trying my hardest in that class. i do all my homework, and i study really hard for every test. only...my teacher is freakin evil! most of the stuff on our reviews aren't even on the test, and most of the stuff on the test isn't on the reviews. stuff like that is what's keeping me from making a higher grade. i've already told my mom that that's the reason i'm making such a low grade, and ive also told her how even the smartest people in our class are making Bs. she just doesnt understand! i suck at science, and that's all there is to it. i just don't know how to make her lighten up on me about my 1 bad grade, and focus on my 6 other really good grades.
Hmm.. I know how you feel. I've got a crappy science teacher (maybe the same one! :D) and i usually make b's in there... anyways, i'd talk to your teacher, first of all. go in for tutoring in the morning and figure out what you're doing in class that day and if you've got any missing assignments/whether you can make them up. best thing to do is find out what chapters you're studying, and read the BOOK instead of only taking notes. it usually has everything that's on the tests and that kind of thing. as long as you're honestly trying your hardest, no one can't expect anything more of you. IM me on TobleroneKiddo if you need more advice!
Good Luck!