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Hi,
My friend seems to have a problem with my having any individual friends that she doesnt know or hasn't stolen from me. And recently I found out that one of my other friends who she barely knows has cancer. I told her because I know that she knows him, and ever since, she doesn't stop talking about him and their conversations and stuff like that. I tried to talk to her but she wouldn't listen.
Hellllpppp meeee!!!!!!!!!!
what i would do here is:
first, try and sit her down and talk to her, with no one else there and no distractions. if she tries to change the subject or go do something else tell her this is important and you've got to talk to her about it.
if she is still reluctant to talk then tell her that you dont know if u can be her friend if she wont listen to something so important that u have to talk about. if she still wont listen try and get some of your good friends that are friends with her to to get her to stop and listen to what you guys have to say.
but if she wont listen then or she doesnt understand what your getting at- or worst case scenario she wont stop- then you might just have to stop being friends with her. i know its hard to just quit in a friendship but i think it would be for the best if she refuses to respect you and take you seriously. both people must work if they want a successful friendship and if shes not willing to listen to what you have to say then maybe the friendship isnt worth it.
i hope this helped! email me or IM me if you need more help.
~rachael~
Hey there...
I need a lottle help as to what to do in this kind of situation... I just found out not too long ago that a secret was being kept from me about one of my friends tryin to kill herself and how she ended up in the hospital and everything... and all of that jazz... and how 2 of my other friends "saved her" by calling the ambulance and stuff... Once i got to think about it.. I wondered what the hell her problem was and how she got all of the attention and stuff(and she did this by overdosing on IBprofun by the way) And i was sitting there getting mad b.c. i didnt think that she should have done anything like that. And i was mad b.c. I've been feeling really depressed lately and nobody understands me.. so i was thinking about doing the same thing... only with soma's (since my moms a drug addict and i can get that stuff) and i cry at night thinking about this and how i wish that ppl would see and it didnt have to go to an extreme like this.. what should i do?
p.s. my friends mom just died yesterday and so now im really worried about her
Thanks
**Help Needed**
I understand where you are coming from. I was really depressed and just recently got help and now im on anti-depressents.
keep in mind that your friend could be going through the same pain that you are in... just no one knew, just like how you say no one knows how depressed you are. I think you should tell your parents, or a friend or some one how misrable you are. i know its hard to talk about, seeing as i was depressed for at least a year before anyone started to notice. if i were you, the first person i would talk to is your friend who might be going through the same sort of thing. she would most likely understand where you are coming from, and she will be able to talk about it with you since she knows what its like. then after that it will be easier to talk to some one else about it, like a friend that would take action or a trusted adult - some one that can get you some help. i know that its really not fun to be depressed, and no one deserves to be. you dont deserve this pain, but you have to make the first move in getting rid of it by seeking help. if you dont, nothing will change (most likely) but please, please dont try and kill yourself. there are better ways to escape the pain. i hope this helped. if you need more help IM me on xblackfirenightx or email me at xblackfirenightx@yahoo.com. hope i helped!
~rachael~