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Q: My best friend and I had the biggest fight we've ever had. She has a new boyfriend. I don't like him. So she's mad at me for "spoiling her happiness". Should I apologize to her, or wait for her to apologize???
I love her a lot. way more than is normal. I tend to get really attached. Help?

You should tell her that (that you love her, that is). Say that you're sorry, and that you'll try to like him and accept him as her bf. Are you mad that she's ditching you for him? If so, that's normal. Just tell her that you want to spend more time together and plan a night to hang out.
As for the getting really attached part, start hanging out with other people when she's busy to develope more friendships.
good luck! :)

Q: Lately, I kinda have been wanting a thong or like something pretty much like it. Just the thing is im kinda too embarrassed to get one. and if my parents ever saw it (mostly my dad) would like make jokes about it or pick on me about it (really embarrassing). anther thing is if i were to get one, id prob. want it from a&e or victoria secrets or something but im like really small. for my pants im a 14 slim (thats in abercrombie) && in pac sun im a 00.i dont know if victoria secrets would fit me or what. and then even if they did i find it embarressing just to go shopping for underwear/thongs!

I wear the same size and Victoria's Secret PINK xs underwear fit perfectly! I suggest buying it alone. it will save you major awkwardness! When i bought mine, i never officially told my parents about it; i just let it turn up in the wash. i'm sure that it's embarassing for parents to talk about that stuff too, because my mom still hasn't mentioned it.
good luck! :)

Q: ok me and this guy had a thing for a long time . then we started going out but one of my friends pressured him to do it . he said he wanted to tho. our thing was 2 months and it was perfect everything was going great. when we started goin out he wasnt himself anymore . we didnt feel right together. one of the girls that is obsessed with him started a whole lotta stuff so we broke up. and he said i was gonna get a second chance but later on he just wanted to be friends for right now. well i couldnt do that cuz i had feelings for him and he made me fall for him so much because he said the sweetest things.well the next day in school she was wearing his jacket and i got mad and i told him i wanted him to die. ever since then he hates me and now its so hard. its been 2 months but i still have feelings for him. and everyday at school i go up to the stairs where we signed our names. now its really hard to talk to him because he wont even look my way. idk wut to do all i know is i want him back..wut do i do??

I suggest writing a letter of apology. Then, try approaching him at school. If he runs away, then try from the back next time so that he doesn't get a chance. Then, hand him that you're sorry, hand him the letter, and walk away. Give him a chance to read it and come to you. If he doesn't in the next week, go up to him and ask him if he read the letter. If he says no, tell him that you wish that he would. This time, don't check on him after a week to see if he finally read it. If he never comes to you and accepts your apology, then he's not worth it.
Good luck! :)

Q: ive had discharge for like one or two years (im 13. i havent had my periodd yet but i've been getting cramps every once in a while. ive had cramps before in the past but they just stop after a while. im still having these cramps but not all the time. just wondering, do you think i might get my period soon. thankssss =]

I went through that for 1/2 a year to a year before I got mine, but as they say: everyone developes differently. So, that may not me true for you. If you go to your doctor soon he/ she could give you an accurate estimate.

Q:

what are some websites that you can order fake chanel or other [fake] designer bags off of?! i'd prefer for prices to be $60 or less ! :]

If you live in the New York area then i highly recommend Canal street, which has the best selection, great prices, and have the same outward appearence as the originals. However, if you don't, then i suggest http://www.fashionheaven.com/. They have a lot of cute bags for good prices, but since it's illegal online to replicate the logo, they're a bit different.
good luck! :)

Q: This might sound like a strange question, but i'm confused. Alot of people say i'm "pretty" or "beautiful" and it's usually from adults. I know alot of people say that to be nice but one day I walked into a room where my parents were having a party and my mom said as soon as I left they all said i'm so beautiful. But when I look in the mirror sometimes, or I see a picture of me, I really don't think i'm that pretty. I mean, I admit i'm not ugly, but sometimes I just feel like I don't look like that. Also sometimes when I DO feel pretty, like when I dress up for a party, it's when I look in the mirror, but when I see a picture of me i'm like woah i look disgusting. Sometimes I look at myself and I look decent, then I look in another bathroom mirror like at a resteraunt and I think my nose looks big or my skin looks hideous. And also I liked so many boys but no one has asked me out? I don't know if it's cause i'm too shy? Boys talk to me and flirt and stuff but no one has liked me or asked me out! All my friends that are average people not stunning or have wonderful personalities have been liked by a boy. I mean I have been liked by boys in like elementary school but, um that doesn't count. I think boys don't like me because I have a boring personality, and maybe it's cause i'm kinda ugly! But I don't think it's that cause most of my friends just look average and boys have had major crushes on them. I'M SO CONFUSED! What should I think ok myself?

I've been there, trust me. If all of these adults are saying that your pretty then you should believe that you are. As for looking bad in public mirrors, it's probably due to lighting because barely anyone looks good in them. It's like they have the power to bring out the bad in your skin.
If a boy hasn't asked you out yet, don't stress. Plenty of people don't get bfs until high school. It may just be that buys are intimidated by your looks and are afraid to ask you out. But, don't worry, just keep flirting and be freindly.
good luck! :)

Q: how much and were can i buy Too Faced Lava Gloss eyeliner in black?

It's $16.50 at Sephora or sephora.com.
good luck! :)

Q: my mom said she heard delia's (the store) was opening in another mall in new jersey. well it is in the willowbrook mall but i usually don't go there. usually i go to garden state plaza or paramus park (idk if anyone is familiar with any of these but hopefully there's someone out there that knows) i looked on the website but it only said new locations opening soon. i got a gift card for christmas because my aunt goes to the willowbrook mall but it is just a hassle to go there when instead i could go to a closer mall. well if anyone knows thanks soo much =]

Actually, I'm very familiar with the northern-jersey area! I'm not sure what your question is, but when i went to paramus park nautica kids was closed. I doubt that they'd put one there but it's possible. As for garden state, i went there recently and didn't see any closed stores so i don't think it's moving there, though it seems more likely than paramus. (I hope that one does!) maybe one will open in palisades, though that's new york. however, i think it's pretty likely and it's only like 20-40 min away from paramus and garden state.
Anyway, you can always order online at delias.com or from their catalogue. I hope this helps.
good luck! :)

Q: how do i make my hair wavy?

if i have straight hair [due to straightening] how do i "wavy" it??/

and if i have naturally curly hair how do i make it wavy?

I suggest Catwalk Curls Rock from Bed Head. You can put it in your hair when it's wet to condition it while it curls your hair, or put it in when your hair's dry to scrunch your hair.
good luck! :)

Q: I know this sounds really weird, but my makeup smells really bad! Its powder. Ive had it sine maybe November. But, it smells like eggs..whats wrong?!

It may justbe the way that product smells, but I'm guessing not. It was probably in the store a while before you bought it and is expired. I suggest tossing it and getting a new one so that it doesn't cause any skin-irritation.
good luck! :)

Q: i have curly hair and its extremely hard to straighten it. How can i straighten it without the blower? Do you know of any good straighting irons? cause my is bad.

Yes! I highly recommend either the FHI or the CHI hair straightner. My friends and I all have them and they're amazing! I also recommend the CHI heat guard to prevent damage and keep your style intact longer.
good luck! :)

Q: no. i'm not anorexic. and i'm tired of people asking me that! see, i'm reallllly skinny. and short [i think that's part of it.] but still, i eat like a pig, well not really, but i eat normally. it's just that i'm REALLY thin!! it sucks because i have ppl that start rumors at school that say i'm bileemic or anorexic! it's like.. what, so u want me to stock up on McDonalds and get fat or something? i dont know what i should do!!! help!

If these people aren'y your friends, then blow their comments off. They're probably just jealous that you're skinny. If you eat a decent meal at lunch everyday, then people should start to realize that you really aren't.
good luck! :)

Q: Recently I've been feeling like something is just not right with me.I don't know exactly what it is,but I guess I sort of just feel like there's something weird going on.It's hard to explain.I feel like there's something wrong with my mind,but at the same time that just seems ridiculous and outrageous.I have a doctor's appointment coming up in a few days,so should I ask about it,or should I just let it slide?

Also,is there like some type of test I can take online that will give me a reading of my mental health?I don't care if it's official or not...I know that these things can't take the place of an actual diagnosis.

You can pretty much find anything on Google, so i'm pretty sure that you could find a test. however, if you really feel like there's something wrong with your mental health, you should ask your doctor. But, if you're just feeling kind of sad or disapointed(not seriously depressed) you may just me tired, hormonal, or stressed.
good luck! :)

Q: 15/f. let's start this off with a have a lot of friends and i'm positive they care about me. i have this obsession about always having to look the best, be the best and do everything the best. nobody can really notice it though because i keep it to myself. i KNOW im definetly not the best but i have this obsession of trying. like if i see someone wearing something that i really like the next day i just have to get it, it's not the money thats a problem its just what could make me be happy with what i have now? thanks lots~

This is a problem that many people experiance, including me. It's that competitive, perfectionist feeling. When you see something that you like do you tell yourself that you have to have it? That it would make you happier? The next time that you see someone wearing something, remind yourself that it's cute, but wouldn't make you happy.
good luck! :)

Q: I have a bad odor from my vaginal areas I have not had sex and I wear liners and sprays but they dont seem to help is something wrong with my body?

If it's a fishy odor, it may be a problem. But, if it's just weird semi-urine smelling it's fine. Is it from discharge? That can have a odor too.
good luck! :)

Q: okay well . i know that im pretty, alot of people tell me that i am pretty. but i just cant like myself. i always negative about myself. i feel like im not good enough for anyone. i dont know what to do. im alwatys depressed. i mean, i have alot of friends and all, but i dont know. life just isnt going great now. what should i do.

If you really feel sad all the time, you should talk to your parents about this. But, if you just feel sort of disapointed sometimes, try thinking about what you do like about yourself and your life. You said it yourself, you're pretty. When you look in the mirror, think about all of the girls that would kill to look like you.
good luck! :)

Q: i turned 13 a couple of weeks ago and from my mums friend i got some mascara and eye liner, i really really want to wear them but iv'e always kinda been a 'mummy's girl' and never worn make up. she caught me out once when i had abit of eye shadow on and didnt really approve.
so my question is how can i wear make up and get my mum to understand that im a little more grown up now ?!?

When you're driving in the car or alone with your mom, casually bring up makeup. Don't flat out ask her if you can wear it, jus talk about it. If she doesn't seem very opposed, tell her that you were thinking about wearing some once in a while. If she says no, tell her that she could help you put it on, so she could control how much you were wearing, etc.
good luck! :)

Q: I like this one guy in my school... he's really athletic, nice, and funny. but heres the thing... i've liked him for about a year and a half and i'm so confused on if i like him or not!
sometimes he's really shy and other times he's just his normal self around his friends. He hangs out with the wrong group of friends, who always get into trouble. He sometimes gets into detention in school, he's smart but then sometimes just is lazy. He plays 4 sports and the last thing is that he's shorter than me by about 7 inches!!!!

sooo i'm always getting mixed feelings about him. I like him one day, then the next i decide i don't like him anymore.
whats going on here? does this mean that my heart truly says that i like him? should i just forget about him? Whenever i try to forget about him, i act as my usual self, but then when i'm around him i'm still nervous!!!!!!!! even when i say to myself "just forget about him, he's not for me"
aghh i'm confused

signed,
mixed feelings

That sounds so familiar that it's no even funny. I liked a guy like that for years. evry summer I'd forget about him and think that I was over him, but when i would go back to school i always got nervous again. If you're not planning on going anywhere with this guy, then it doesn't matter whether you like him or not. But, if you want to ask him out or think that he'll ask you out, then i suggest giving it a try.
good luck :)

Q: im a 14 year old male and me and this girl started to talk. i liked er and i new she liked me. we would talk and play after scool. then one day i asked her out. she just grumbled and walked away. the next day i saw her but when she saw me she started to walk in the oppisate direcion. i know she is looking at me but when i look at her she quick look away. i asked her out about 3 months ago and thing still havent changed and i really miss talking to her. i was wondering if there are any girls out there who can help me get our relation back.

You've probably heard this before, but you should just tell her that. Tell her that it's fine if she doesn't want to date you and you won't hold it agaisnt her, but you miss hanging out with her. Then smile and tell her something funny to make her laugh.
Good luck :)

Q: Ok well Im 13 & I have never kissed a guy. I really want my first kiss because I just want to know what its like. I had my chance to kiss a guy before because when I was going out with my boyfriend(i dumped him a couple days ago) he asked me for a kiss but I said no because there were to many people around.

Im not say that im ugly or a geek or something, because I have had plenty of boyfriends, we just have never been at the right place at the right time ya know?

But anyway is it weird that im 13 & I havent had my first kiss yet?

No! Absolutely not. Most people in my town didn't start kissing until high school. If you said no to your ex-bf, then you might not be ready, but if you are, I suggest the movies. There are still people around, but it's dark, so you won't have 10 million people staring at you.
Good luck :)

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